• 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • 6
  • 7
  • 8
How instant gratification sabotages your manifesting

We often talk of having an instant gratification society, but what does this really mean and how does your impatience get in the way of the desires you’d like to manifest?

The Cycle of Desire

The cycle of desire starts when we first become aware of a desire: an object, person, experience or event we would like to manifest in our reality.

When we first decide we want something, it’s with a mixture of excitement and trepidation… we’re excited and hopeful that we will achieve our aim, curious and nervous about what our lives will look like when we achieve our aim, and often afraid that we won’t achieve our goal, or that we somehow don’t deserve to have it realize.

But we’re human and hope springs eternal, and so the desire is launched.

The Cycle of Desire by Chemory GunkoThe Cycle of Desire by Chemory Gunko

At first you can manage the waiting, because discernment takes time. You need to have options shown to you, reject or accept them, keep putting your intentions out and keep refining the details of what you specifically want.

This is where it tends to get tricky though, because this process of refinement can take weeks, months and even years, depending on the magnitude of your desired aim.

The process of refinement may also lead you to discover that you no longer desire this aim, or that you desire a different aim. At this point you can exit the cycle and launch a new goal from your whole new platform of desire.

If you stick with it long enough though, with persistence, perseverance, tenacity, resilience and dedication, you can most likely achieve any aim you set for yourself. From here, once you’ve achieved your aim, you usually go on to launch a whole new level of desire.

Discernment, Delay, Denial & Instant Gratification

The problem for most of us arises in the discernment stage – if we are delayed long enough, we end up feeling like we’ve been denied.

Our natural impatience here stems from the fact that subconsciously we KNOW we are creators, made in the image of God, and ergo anything we desire should manifest immediately.

The impatience we feel is exacerbated by the society we live in: fast food, fast cars, fast relationships, one-night stands and disposable everything. We’re so used to having everything delivered to us at the push of a button, that anything that takes a while to realize makes us feel like we are being deprived and denied.

In short order, feeling deprived and denied will escalate into feeling rejected, unwanted and unloved – and so we take action to avoid those feelings: we go for the instant gratification. Screw the discernment; we grab the very first thing that comes along that could be molded into fitting our criteria, and we claim it as our own.

At first we can usually convince ourselves that we’re happy, that we’re willing to lower our standards and settle for less… but the discernment and rejection process you’ve habituated your body into won’t settle for that: I mean how can you create an instant habit of accepting wholly something that you would have rejected five minutes ago? It creates internal conflict in you.

So the doubts creep in and you begin to question your decision and your choice, often deciding to walk away from the instant gratification quick fix you accepted in place of what you really desire.

Pride & Self Worth

At this stage of the fight, you’re often feeling lonely and rejected because now you have the added weight of a ‘failure’ to deal with.

I mean if this is what you manifested, obviously this must be what the Universe thinks you’re worth. Your ego, which has a vested interest in keeping you feeling low and downhearted, makes this all about your worth and doesn’t let you take personal responsibility for it.

As soon as you take responsibility, you’re in the driving seat and your ego is no longer in control. You take responsibility by seeing that the lack of achievement was caused by your acceptance of the instant gratification – you’re unhappy because you exited the cycle too early.

So your ego does everything in its power to make you feel low: reminding you of all the other times you didn’t get what you want, pointing out every flaw in you, every problem in your life… until eventually you sit down and decide to give up, because obviously ‘the Universe never wants anything good to happen for you’.

Gather yourself

The alternative to collapsing in a little heap in the corner and pitying yourself is to refocus on your goal and enter the process of discernment and delay again.

Alternately you can release the desire, let go of the unresolved emotion and launch a whole new desire based on your current level of understanding – one that is much more aligned with who you are, what you really want and how much you are willing to do to achieve it.

Make a Donation

Make a Donation! Help us to keep providing free tools and resources to thousands of souls who need help but can't afford it because they are in a Dark Night of the Soul period.

Free Diagnostics & Tools
  • 1
Life Coaches Toolbox Blog
  • 5 signs you’ve met your false Twin Flame +

    What signs can you look for in your relationship that will tell you you’ve met your false twin flame and you may be wasting time by chasing this relationship? Right Read More
  • Mr Right vs Mr Right Now +

    We’ve all been through that dating experience… you meet the guy, everything is going perfectly and then bam! All of sudden you or he is not interested any more… and Read More
  • Why your twin flame relationship had to end – the good news +

    Why do twin flame relationships have to end and what good or helpful lesson could possibly come out of an experience so painful? Read More
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • 6
  • 7
  • 8
  • 9
  • 10
  • 11
  • 12
  • 13
  • 14
  • 15
  • 16
  • 17
  • 18
  • 19
  • 20
  • 21
  • 22
  • 23
  • 24
  • 25
  • 26
  • 27
  • 28
  • 29
  • 30
  • 31
  • 32
  • 33
  • 34
  • 35
  • 36
  • 37
  • 38
  • 39
  • 40
  • 41
  • 42
  • 43
  • 44
  • 45
  • 46
  • 47
  • 48
  • 49
  • 50
  • 51
  • 52
  • 53
  • 54
  • 55
  • 56
  • Email Intuitive Psychic Reading with Chemory Gunko +

    Email Intuitive Psychic Reading with Chemory Gunko. I offer 10 questions answered by email per reading. Scroll down to learn more about services and click here to see feedback from Read More
  • Distance Healing with Chemory Gunko +

    Distance Healing with Chemory Gunko. Scroll down to learn more about services and click here to see feedback from clients. Distance healing can be applied to any issue or ailment: Read More
  • Coaching Session with Chemory Gunko +

    Coaching Session with Chemory Gunko Coaching is offered via email (limited to 10 questions per session), or via Skype or telephone. Clients in South Africa have the option of in Read More
  • 1
  • 2