Physical touch in intimate relationships falls into one of two main categories: sexual touch and intimate touch.
As much as we’d like to believe that sex and sexuality aren’t always important in long term relationships, they actually are.
Sex is the one thing that distinguishes your relationship with your intimate partner from the relationships you share with everyone else.
Other key benefits of include the fact that as humans we bond through the sense of smell and sex allows us close enough to be able to really smell and therefore bond to our partner. That bonding, combined with the hormones and neurotransmitters that are released during sex help us feel even more alive, bonded and connected.
If sex is difficult for you or you’ve reached a sexual impasse in your relationship it is advisable to seek help.
Introduce aids and toys, visit a sex therapist or coach, anything that will help you get back on track quickly. Even if sexual touch is not either of your primary love language it’s still such a crucial part of your relationship and such an easy way to stay connected and bonded that it deserves a place of honor in your relationship and life.
For many women around the world, the conflict with sexual touch comes down to intimate touch, and you hear it in comments like he always wants sex when he touches me.
If your partner falls into the intimate touch category then the bad news is that you’re going to have fulfill that need before you get to the sexual touch you want.
On the upside, walking past and giving a quick cuddle or putting your hand on her leg while watching TV, or even making the effort to fall asleep cuddling or spend five minutes cuddling when you wake up, are all pretty easy to do, and in many cases you should see movement and results pretty quickly.
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