
High & Low Energy Power Patterns
💠 KINESIOLOGY & THE MORPHIC FIELD 💠
Power vs Force, the book, is a leading authority on kinesiology & human consciousness, growth & development, and is the work of Sir David Hawkins.
The Human Consciousness Scale is also the work of Sir David in the same book, published 1994: Power vs Force
Simply reading the book has been shown to increase your level of consciousness, raise your vibration & give you a mental & emotional surge. I strongly recommend you read it.
Simply utilizing Mirrors as your preferred development tool is shown by Sir David in Power vs Force to be operating at a level of consciousness of 500 in the holographic field.
This process is an expansion of the original Essene Mirrors of Relationship. Watch Greg Braden speaking about the Essene Mirrors of Relationship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EiBsczafvaA
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Why do the high & low energy power patterns matter? Because everything is words.
Relationships all boil down to communication, and all we can actually really ever do is share (send) or receive words - whether written, spoken or thought.
Simply improving your understanding of the words we use, and understanding them on the level of the program that exists within the morphic field, makes it significantly easier to navigate the challenges you face in life.
The reasons for this is that the clarification helps you to better understand the concept for yourself, and the right words of understanding unlock the resonance (alignment) with that energy in the morphic field.
Thought can only be grown by sharing it - as you communicate the idea, you are required to clarify and simplify it, which increases your own understanding. Then the listener asks questions, and simply processing these questions further refines your understanding.
Then you answer those questions, further refining the understanding for your yourself & the listener.
With each round of discussion & questions, your understanding grows significantly on both sides.
High & Low Energy Power Patterns
This list of high & low energy power patterns, or emotions, as published in Power vs Force, is rated according to the Human Consciousness Scale, and tested using kinesiology to be found to be universally true across the holographic field.
A high energy pattern calibrates at over 200, while a low energy pattern calibrates below 200, or makes the test subject go weak.
Simply reading the list - & becoming aware of the polarities - is shown by Sir David & his team to raise your vibration & level of consciousness.
Below you will find the three lists. The first is just the list of High & Low Energy Power Patterns, while the second list contains definitions as well. The third contains practical examples of the patterns in action in our lives.
When you look at some of these examples, it really seems like they are the same, or very similar.
Remember the word pair is being compared TO EACH OTHER; so, to understand them, ask yourself: if these are the two options available, then which one is preferable?
Watch the video below for an overview of how to use the High & Low Energy Power Patterns Resources. The video (should!) start at the point this tool is being explained.
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High & Low Energy Power Patterns
Plain list of patterns.
HIGH | LOW |
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Abundant | Excessive |
Admitting | Denying |
Aesthetic | Artsy |
Agreeable | Condescending |
Allowing | Controlling |
Appreciative | Envious |
Approving | Critical |
Attractive | Seductive |
Authoritative | Dogmatic |
Aware | Preoccupied |
Balanced | Extreme |
Beautiful | Glamorous |
Being | Having |
Believing | Insisting |
Brilliant | Clever |
Candid | Calculating |
Carefree | Frivolous |
Challenged | Impeded |
Charitable | Prodigal |
Cheerful | Manic |
Cherishing | Prizing |
Choosing-to | Having-to |
Civil | Formal |
Concerned | Judgmental |
Conciliatory | Inflexible |
Confident | Arrogant |
Confronting | Harassing |
Conscious | Unaware |
Considerate | Indulgent |
Constructive | Destructive |
Contending | Competing |
Courageous | Reckless |
Defending | Attacking |
Democratic | Dictatorial |
Detached | Removed |
Determined | Stubborn |
Devoted | Possessive |
Diplomatic | Deceptive |
Doing | Getting |
Educating | Persuading |
Egalitarian | Elitist |
Empathetic | Pitying |
Encouraging | Promoting |
Energetic | Agitated |
Enlivening | Exhausting |
Envisioning | Picturing |
Equal | Superior |
Erotic | Lustful |
Essential | Apparent |
Eternal | Temporal |
Ethical | Equivocal |
Excellent | Adequate |
Experienced | Cynical |
Fair | Scrupulous |
Fertile | Luxuriant |
Flexible | Rigid |
Forgiving | Resenting |
Free | Regulated |
Generous | Petty |
Gentle | Rough |
Gifted | Lucky |
Giving | Taking |
Global | Local |
Gracious | Decorous |
Grateful | Indebted |
Harmonious | Disruptive |
Healing | Irritating |
Helpful | Meddling |
Holistic | Analytic |
Honest | Legal |
Honoring | Enshrining |
Humble | Diffident |
Humorous | Sombre |
Impartial | Righteous |
Ingenious | Scheming |
Inspired | Mundane |
Intentional | Calculating |
Intuitive | Literal |
Inventive | Prosaic |
Inviting | Urging |
Involved | Obsessed |
Joyful | Pleasurable |
Just | Punitive |
Kind | Cruel |
Leading | Coercing |
Liberating | Restricting |
Long-term | Immediate |
Loyal | Chauvinistic |
Merciful | Permissive |
Modest | Haughty |
Natural | Artificial |
Noble | Pompous |
Nurturing | Draining |
Observant | Suspicious |
Open | Secretive |
Optimistic | Pessimistic |
Orderly | Confused |
Outgoing | Reserved |
Patient | Avid |
Patriotic | Nationalistic |
Peaceful | Belligerent |
Polite | Obsequious |
Powerful | Forceful |
Praising | Flattering |
Principled | Expedient |
Privileged | Entitled |
Prolific | Barren |
Purposeful | Desirous |
Receiving | Grasping |
Releasing | Tenacious |
Reliant | Dependent |
Requesting | Demanding |
Respectful | Demeaning |
Responsible | Guilty |
Satisfied | Sated |
Selective | Exclusive |
Serene | Dull |
Serving | Ambitious |
Sharing | Hoarding |
Significant | Important |
Sober | Intoxicated |
Spontaneous | Impulsive |
Spiritual | Materialistic |
Steadfast | Faltering |
Striving | Struggling |
Surrendering | Worrying |
Tender | Hard |
Thoughtful | Pedantic |
Thrifty | Cheap |
Timeless | Faddish |
Tolerant | Prejudiced |
Tractable | Contrary |
Trusting | Gullible |
Truthful | False |
Unifying | Dividing |
Unselfish | Selfish |
Valuing | Exploitative |
Virtuous | Celebrated |
Warm | Feverish |
Alternatively, watch the video version below. This video is linked online from YouTube and requires an active Internet connection.
Index of the High & Low Energy Power Patterns
Indexed list of the patterns, with links to definitions, examples & positive & negatively aspected expressions, or the positive & negative ways that the patterns are shown in life.
Definitions of the High & Low Energy Power Patterns
List containing dictionary style definitions of the High & Low Energy Power Patterns.
To understand the pair together, and in action, scroll down to examples in the table below this one.
When you look at some of these examples, it really seems like they are the same, or very similar.
Remember the word pair is being compared TO EACH OTHER; so, to understand them, ask yourself: if these are the two options available, then which one is preferable?
HIGH | LOW |
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Abundant Having or using a lot or enough, without excess |
Excessive Having or using too much, seen as 'excessive' |
Admitting Confess to be true Allow to enter |
Denying Refuse to see truth Refuse entry |
Aesthetic Beauty & the appreciation of beauty & artistry, or the arts |
Artsy A pretentious display of being artistic or interested in the arts |
Agreeable Willing to agree to something Quite enjoyable or pleasurable |
Condescending Having or showing an attitude of patronizing superiority An attitude of being 'better-than' someone or something around you |
Allowing Let someone have or do something, without unnecessary interference Give time or opportunity to happen or unfold Trust in the process & Divine Timing |
Controlling Supervise the running of someone or something Micro-managed focus on almost every detail of the process Clear lack of trust |
Appreciative Feeling or showing gratitude or pleasure Glad that someone or something exists Happy for the element to exist, even if separated from yourself |
Envious Feeling or showing discontent, resentment &/or longing when viewing someone or something Appreciating the element but wanting it exclusively for the self Not wanting someone else to have it |
Approving Showing or feeling a positive attitude towards someone or something Expressing positive sentiment |
Critical Showing or feeling an attitude of superiority towards someone or something Expressing judgment over a situation or person, without the aim of helping the other |
Attractive Pleasing or appealing to the senses Qualities & features that arouse positive or favorable interest naturally appealing & does not need to be 'showcased' or manipulated |
Seductive Purposefully manipulated to be alluring & appealing Tempting & enticing with the purpose of blinding you, with 'fake' appeal to the senses Obviously created to be 'attractive' to the senses |
Authoritative Commanding & self-confident Likely to be respected & obeyed Reliable, or able to be trusted as accurate & true |
Dogmatic Strict adherence to protocol, even when it doesn't make sense Inclined to lay down principles as undeniably true 'My way or the highway' type of attitude |
Aware Having knowledge & perception in a situation, or of a fact, or of the general environment |
Preoccupied Having a matter, or a subject, engross the mind, or dominate the thoughts, to the exclusion of other thoughts & the general environment |
Balanced The application of elements, use of resources, or engagement in activity, in appropriate & healthy proportions |
Extreme Excessive alignment with one polarity or another A very 'black-&-white' view of life |
Beautiful Aesthetically pleasing to the mind & senses Excellent & of a high standard Timeless & not limited to the standards of the day |
Glamorous Contrived beauty, designed to seem out of reach & exclusive Magical enchantment; the ability to 'enchant' someone so that they don't see the whole truth |
Being The nature & essence of a person The state of peaceful & effortless existence |
Having The act of owning or possessing someone or something Engaging in, or 'having' an experience |
Believing Accept something as true, often without proof, or proof that can be validated through another's experience To hold a thought or opinion, or 'believe' something |
Insisting Demand something forcefully, without accepting refusal Persist in a course of action or behavior Stubbornly hold onto an idea, sharing it with the aim of getting others to agree |
Brilliant Exceptionally intelligent &/or talented Luminescent quality that engages the senses; captivating |
Clever Quick to understand & learn Quick to devise & apply ideas; can be manipulative |
Candid Completely honest, truthful & straightforward No hidden agendas; can be trusted |
Calculating Manipulative, scheming & ruthless behavior Will be untruthful in order to achieve personal results |
Carefree Free from anxiety, guilt & responsibility Able to take responsibility where needed, without seeing it as a burden |
Frivolous Deliberately carefree & superficial, to the point of being careless Without serious purpose or value |
Challenged Dispute the truth or validity of something in order to improve or correct it A challenge is short-term & can be overcome |
Impeded Dispute truth or validity with the purpose of stalling or stopping it If you are impeded, it is long-term & permanent |
Charitable Relates to the assistance of those in need Apt to view someone or something in a favorable light |
Prodigal Spending money or using resources recklessly & with wild abandon Focus on the self to the exclusion of others' needs |
Cheerful Noticeably happy & optimistic as a natural state of being Causing feelings of joy, happiness & emotional lightness by its appearance or nature Cheerfulness is a long term state - a person is considered cheerful by nature It is possible to face emotional lows & ego deaths without losing a default state of cheerfulness - you revert back to your default of being cheerful |
Manic Wild, apparently deranged, excitement, energy & 'high' spirits Forced congeniality & happiness that last for a short period before being replaced by a low Manic periods are short-term stages of a larger pattern - you go up, then down again The emotional high experienced in mania lasts only as long as the stage lasts, and the contrasting drop into the low is often too much for people |
Cherishing Protect & care for lovingly; hold dear Keep in your mind or awareness, allow to influence other areas |
Prizing Value extremely highly, above all others & to the exclusion of others |
Choosing-to Free will consent to participate or align |
Having-to Forced agreement of consent, that removes free will choice |
Civil Courteous & polite Warmer & more welcoming attitude |
Formal Doing ONLY what is necessary to be deemed polite Remaining cold, distant & aloof |
Concerned Worried, troubled or anxious Intervention with the aim of helping |
Judgmental Having or displaying an overly critical point of view Intervention to point out fault & show superiority |
Conciliatory Wanting or likely to make amends or find peace Sees multiple perspectives & from others point of view Looking for compromise & a win-win |
Inflexible Rigid in viewpoints & thinking Unwilling to see the other point(s) of view Unwilling to change or compromise |
Confident A realistic view of oneself or one's abilities Certainty of the level of mastery achieved |
Arrogant An exaggerated view of the importance of yourself or your abilities, often out of touch with reality |
Confronting Facing or dealing with a conflict or difficulty, usually in a emotionally-charged conversation, with the aim of finding a compromise or solution You also 'confront' issues instead of avoiding them |
Harassing Repeated aggressive pressure & intimidation Repeated confrontation, with the aim of causing emotionally upsetting & charged situations |
Conscious Aware of, and responding to, one's surroundings Having knowledge of something, or in general |
Unaware Not cognizant of, or responding to, one's surroundings Having no knowledge of a situation or fact |
Considerate Careful not to harm or inconvenience others Showing careful thought |
Indulgent Inclined towards being too generous or lenient with someone or something |
Constructive Having, or intended to have, a useful or beneficial purpose Designed to uplift & empower |
Destructive Having, or intended to have, a negative & destructive purpose Can cause great & irreparable damage |
Contending To strive or participate in competition, with the aiming of performing at one's best |
Competing Participation in competition with the aim of defeating others & being externally validated as the best |
Courageous Brave enough to not be deterred by danger or pain Healthy fear that creates awareness of danger, but is overcome by free will choice |
Reckless Heedless of danger or the consequence of actions Distinct lack of, or complete ignorance of, the existence of fear Fear tells you when to be careful! |
Defending Resist an attack Protect from harm or danger |
Attacking Take aggressive action against Criticize or oppose fiercely or publicly |
Democratic For the greater good, and not necessarily majority rules Takes into the account the perspectives of a majority, or all, and compromises to find the most balanced compromise |
Dictatorial Exercising an autocratic manner or total power Rigid adherence to protocol set by a single individual or group 'My way or the highway' epitomized |
Detached Separate but present Concerned but non-interfering observer Removed from emotional attachment to the outcome - unlikely to assign blame or judge results |
Removed Completely alienated or isolated All contact is limited or impeded Complete disinterest in any details, but may conversely be very emotionally attached to any outcomes |
Determined Having made a from decision & employing personal resolve to achieve the desired end goal or aim Willing to tackle challenges & see the situation realistically, adjusting course where necessary |
Stubborn Dogged adherence to an idea, direction or way of thinking Refusal to adjust or course correct based on circumstances Refusal to see where reality of the truth conflicts the way of thinking |
Devoted Loving or loyal |
Possessive Demanding total attention, love & focus |
Diplomatic The ability to make people feel comfortable & welcomed, using 'white lies' & omission where necessary to achieve & maintain harmony & peace |
Deceptive The use of lies & misdirection in order to purposefully conceal something or lull someone into a false sense of complacency or security, often with the intention of taking advantage of this false sense of trust |
Doing Activity in which a person engages |
Getting The act of obtaining something, whether sought or as a gift |
Educating To give intellectual, moral or social instruction, in general, or for specific topics Intended to help the student come to greater understanding & awareness |
Persuading Falsely presented or limited information, often from a singular point of view, excluding other perspectives Intended to convince the listener to agree with the point of view |
Egalitarian Believing in, or based on, the principle that all people are equal & deserve equal access & opportunities |
Elitist Separatist thinking that divides society into a social & monetary 'class' system, where the populous is ruled by an 'elite' |
Empathetic Compassion for, and/or understanding of, a person's state or circumstances Offering support, advice, solutions & caring, without taking on the responsibility of the problem |
Pitying If empathy is throwing a ladder to someone in a hole, the pitying, or sympathy, is climbing down into the hole with them Pity also happens when there is alignment in wanting to complain for the purposes of complaining |
Encouraging Offering support or confidence; 'being supportive' Giving hope for future success, even in the face of present circumstances of failure The most obvious parallel here would be word-of-mouth awareness of something - your friend organically tells you that a product is great, and you are inspired to find out more Your decision is made on the recommendation & free will choice |
Promoting Support, actively encourage, or further the progress of a specific venture or cause, presenting it as superior, instead of allowing the reputation to develop naturally The matching parallel for promotion is an advertising campaign - they tell you the product is great, and that you must buy & use it above all others Your decision is made based on the word of the product marketers |
Energetic Showing or involving great activity or high vitality A more permanent state - a person is classified as 'energetic' Energy levels can be tempered & controlled in order to improve, or achieve, focus |
Agitated Uncontrollable restlessness that may appear as a high energy state Often a temporary or short term stage - she was agitated today State is outside of control, and the party often cannot calm or center themselves in order to achieve focus |
Enlivening Make something more interesting or appealing Make someone more cheerful or animated |
Exhausting Making one feel very tired A very tiring person, experience or circumstance |
Envisioning Imagine as a future possibility; visualize |
Picturing Represent, describe or form a mental image of a specific outcome or circumstance |
Equal Being the same in quantity, size, degree or value Being or feeling equipped to perform a task |
Superior Of a higher quality, volume, degree or value Having or showing an overly high opinion of oneself |
Erotic Relating to, or tending to, arouse sexual desire e.g. Your existing relationship arouses erotic desire, and you use sex to strengthen your bond - the relationship leads to the sexual desire, which then leads to coupling |
Lustful Having or showing strong feelings of sexual desire e.g. You go out looking for sex; you get aroused first, and then seek someone to relieve that desire with - the sexual desire leads to the physical experience of coupling |
Essential Absolutely necessary & extremely important Vital to the functioning of the whole |
Apparent Clearly visible; obvious Seemingly real, true or important, but not necessarily actually so |
Eternal Relating to matters of God, or a spiritual nature Timeless & eternal: unending & unlimited time |
Temporal Relating to worldly & secular matters Of a limited time or timespan; subject to the nature of time |
Ethical Relating to moral principles An internally-referenced code of conduct by which one conducts oneself, regardless of changing circumstances |
Equivocal Open to more than one interpretation; ambiguous An externally-defined set of standards that fluctuates according to circumstances, or people that are present |
Excellent Extremely good; outstanding Presented to the level of the highest quality that can be achieved |
Adequate Good enough; 'will do' Made to meet the minimum required standards of acceptability |
Experienced Knowledgeable by means of practical hands-on experience rather than learned theoretical knowledge Offers both positive & critical feedback & advice based on hand-on experience |
Cynical Jaded, judgmental sentiments that look for the negative or cast doubt Often based on repeated past negative experience, or the inability to overcome a past life experience Distrustful of humanity & sincerity |
Fair The state of treating people equally, without favoritism or discrimination A fair boss will treat everyone with the same set of standards - it looks like perfectionism, but it's actually meddling & a sign of lack of trust |
Scrupulous Careful, thorough & extremely attentive to small details Micro-management is a great example, with the unnecessary focus on details |
Fertile Producing or capable of producing abundant vegetation or crops Able to produce or conceive young or seeds |
Luxuriant Rich & thick in growth; thick & healthy Beautifully presented to appear fertile & amp; lush, but may be masking truth |
Flexible Able to bend easily, without breaking Ready & able to adjust, in order to adapt to changing circumstances |
Rigid Unable to bend, be forced out of shape or adjust Not able to be changed or adapted |
Forgiving Ready or willing to forgive Easy or safe to deal with or use |
Resenting Feeling bitterness, resentment & indignation towards someone or something in the past |
Free Able to act or conduct oneself according your own free will choice Not under the control of another Not trapped, imprisoned or incarcerated Able to develop organically & according to natural standards, trusting the process or natural flow of ups & downs |
Regulated Environment or process controlled by rules & regulations Under the control of another party or parties Evolution, growth & change is forced into a desired direction, with outcomes considered positive or negative when viewed in isolation & not as part of the process |
Generous Readiness to give more than is necessary or expected Larger or more plentiful than is usual or necessary |
Petty Concerned with small, trivial matters & focused on tiny details Small picture thinking & view that obscures the big picture |
Gentle Moderate in action, effect, or degree; not strong or violent Having or showing a mild, kind, or tender temperament or character |
Rough Uneven & irregular; not smooth or level; coarse &/or abrasive Violent, boisterous & potentially harmful, behavior or actions |
Gifted Having exceptional talent or ability |
Lucky Having or resulting from fortuitous chance, or 'good luck' |
Giving Freely transfer the possession of something to something Cause or allow to have an experience; provide with |
Taking The action or process of removing a possession from someone or something, whether willingly given or by force |
Global Related to the whole world; worldwide Encompassing the whole of something, or a group of things; big picture |
Local Related or restricted to a particular defined geographic area Relating to a particular region, part or area; more detail oriented |
Gracious Courteous, kind & pleasant, especially to one of a lower status |
Decorous In keeping with good taste & propriety; polite & restrained |
Grateful Feeling or showing appreciation for someone or something as a result of genuine gratitude |
Indebted Feeling obligated to, and often controlled, because of the expectation of gratitude created by an act of assistance |
Harmonious Forming a pleasing & consistent whole Calm & peaceful, without disagreement or dissent |
Disruptive Causing or intending to cause upset & turbulence Argumentative, rowdy, unruly & disorderly |
Healing In the process of becoming sound, whole & healthy again Tending to heal; therapeutic |
Irritating Causing annoyance, irritation & mild anger Friction, rubbing, tension & discomfort |
Helpful Giving or ready to give help Useful, constructive & positive intervention or assistance |
Meddling Interfering in something that is not your concern Touch or handle without permission |
Holistic The idea that the parts of any element or group are intimately interconnected & understandable only in relation to the whole The treatment of a person's entire or whole system, taking into account mental & social factors, and not just the physical symptoms of the disease |
Analytic Relating to, or using, analysis of details & facts, or logical reasoning An in depth look at a detailed section or part or a larger whole or system, often viewing it in isolation & ignoring the big picture Detail-oriented & focused as opposed to a larger big-picture view |
Honest Free of deceit; truthful & sincere; able to be trusted Decisions based on ethics, principles fairness & reason |
Legal Relating to, or permitted by, the laws of a region Decisions based on rules & existing protocols |
Honoring Regard with great respect, giving an adequate & balanced place of reverence Fulfill an obligation or keep an agreement |
Enshrining Honoring a revered or precious object or person, or preserve a right, tradition idea, or memory of a person to the point of excess, almost worship |
Humble Having or showing a modest, or low, estimation of one's importance |
Diffident Being or feeling modest or shy, as the result of a lack of self confidence |
Humorous A lighthearted feeling of laughter & amusement; comical |
Sombre Having or conveying a feeling of deep seriousness & sadness |
Impartial Treating everyone concerned equally & without favor Not allowing thinking to be swayed by partiality or alignment with a way of thinking |
Righteous Morally right or justifiable Convinced of a superior point of view, which can cause favor to one side & discrimination to the other |
Ingenious Clever, original & inventive Cleverly devised & well-suited to its purpose |
Scheming The activity or practice of making secret & underhand plans Cunning & manipulative behavior designed to achieve a specific goal |
Inspired An idea of extraordinary quality, as if arising from some external creative impulse |
Mundane Lacking interest or excitement; dull Of this earthly world rather than a heavenly or spiritual one |
Intentional Done on purpose; taking deliberate action |
Calculating Acting in a scheming & ruthlessly determined way |
Intuitive Using or based on what one feels to be true even without conscious reasoning; instinctive Big picture view that looks at the person, context, environment, circumstances & other influencing factors holistically |
Literal Taking words in their usual or most basic sense without metaphor or exaggeration Meta focus on individual words & small details, to obscure the big picture |
Inventive Having the ability to create or design new things or to think originally; showing creativity or original thought |
Prosaic Lacking imaginativeness or originality; commonplace; unromantic |
Inviting Offering the promise of an attractive or enjoyable experience |
Urging Prompting or encouraging someone to do something |
Involved Voluntary participation that is engaged, loyal & dedicated |
Obsessed Overwhelming preoccupation that fills the mind continuously & to a worrying extent |
Joyful Feeling, expressing, or causing great pleasure & happiness |
Pleasurable Designed to be obviously pleasing & enjoyable to the senses |
Just Based on or behaving according to what is morally right & fair |
Punitive Inflicting or intended as punishment |
Kind Having or showing a friendly, generous, and considerate nature; affectionate & loving |
Cruel Willfully causing pain or suffering to others, often feeling no concern about the pain or damage caused |
Leading Show (someone or something) the way to a destination by going in front of or beside them Be in charge or command of Have the advantage over competitors in a race or game; have or experience a particular way of life |
Coercing Persuade (an unwilling person) to do something by using force or threats Obtain (something) from someone by using force or threats |
Liberating Set free from imprisonment, slavery, or oppression A freeing experience that removes perceived mental, emotional, spiritual & even physical limitations |
Restricting Put a limit on; keep under control Deprive (someone or something) of freedom of movement or action Limit someone to only doing or having (a particular thing) or staying in (a particular place) |
Long-term Occurring over or relating to a long period of time; delayed gratification |
Immediate Occurring or done at once; 'instant gratification' |
Loyal Giving or showing firm & constant support or allegiance to a person or institution |
Chauvinistic Feeling or displaying aggressive or exaggerated patriotism; displaying excessive or prejudiced support for their own cause, group, or sex |
Merciful Showing or exercising mercy; bringing relief from something unpleasant |
Permissive Allowing or characterized by great or excessive freedom of behavior |
Modest Unassuming in the estimation of one's abilities or achievements |
Haughty Arrogantly superior & disdainful |
Natural Existing in or derived from nature; not made or caused by humankind In accordance with the nature of, or circumstances surrounding, someone or something Having an innate talent for a particular task or activity |
Artificial Made or produced by human beings rather than occurring naturally, especially as a copy of something natural Insincere or affected, put upon, 'putting on a show', 'wearing a mask' (of a person or their behavior) |
Noble Having or showing fine personal qualities or high moral principles |
Pompous Affectedly grand, solemn, or self-important; characterized by pomp or splendor (archaic) |
Nurturing Care for & protect (someone or something) while they are growing; cherish, help or encourage the development of |
Draining Cause something to run out, leaving it empty or dry; deprive of strength or vitality |
Observant Quick to notice or perceive things, without unnecessary or excessive surveillance Comfortable to let their guard down, as observation continues without non-stop surveillance Adhering strictly to the rules of a particular religion, especially Judaism |
Suspicious Having or showing a cautious distrust of someone or something Causing one to have the idea or impression that someone or something is questionable, dishonest, or dangerous Having the belief or impression that someone is involved in an illegal or dishonest activity |
Open Freely available or accessible; unrestricted Not concealing one's thoughts or feelings; frank & communicative |
Secretive Inclined to conceal feelings & intentions Withholding or not disclosing (all of the) information |
Optimistic Hopeful & confident about the future |
Pessimistic Tending to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen |
Orderly Neatly & methodically arranged |
Confused Lacking order & so difficult to understand; unable to think clearly; bewildered |
Outgoing Friendly & socially confident Gregarious, warm & welcoming |
Reserved Slow to reveal emotion or opinions; kept specially for a particular person |
Patient Able to accept or tolerate delays, problems, or suffering (time delays) without becoming annoyed or anxious |
Avid Having or showing a keen interest in or enthusiasm for something; having an eager desire for something, usually short lived with waning interest |
Patriotic Having or expressing devotion to & vigorous support for one's country |
Nationalistic Having overly strong patriotic feelings, especially a belief in the superiority of one's own country over others |
Peaceful Free from disturbance; tranquil; not involving conflict or aggression |
Belligerent Hostile & aggressive |
Polite Having or showing behavior that is respectful & considerate of other people |
Obsequious Obedient or attentive to an excessive or servile degree |
Powerful Having great power or strength & accurately applying it |
Forceful Excessively strong & assertive; Overly vigorous & powerful |
Praising Express warm approval or admiration of Express one's respect & gratitude towards (a deity), especially in song |
Flattering Excessively full of praise & compliments Contrived to appear pleasing & gratifying, often with the purpose of gaining someone's approval or manipulating them |
Principled Acting in accordance with morality & showing recognition of right & wrong |
Expedient (of an action) Convenient & practical although possibly improper or immoral |
Privileged Having special rights, advantages, or immunities |
Entitled Believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment |
Prolific Present in large numbers or quantities; plentiful; very productive or fertile |
Barren Showing no results or achievements; unproductive; infertile |
Purposeful Having or showing determination or resolve; having a useful purpose |
Desirous Having or characterized by desire |
Receiving Be given, presented with, or paid; suffer, experience, or be subject to |
Grasping Avaricious: having or showing an extreme greed for wealth or material gain & greedy |
Releasing Allow or enable to escape from confinement; set free; allow (something) to move, act, or flow freely |
Tenacious Tending to keep a firm hold of something; clinging or adhering closely |
Reliant Having or showing a limited degree of dependence on someone or something |
Dependent Completely contingent on or determined by; requiring someone or something for financial or other support |
Requesting Politely or formally ask for The act of asking for something to be given or done, especially as a favor or courtesy; solicitation or petition |
Demanding Forcefully or aggressively ask for, or require to give Requiring much skill or effort Making others work hard or meet high standards; not easily satisfied |
Respectful Feeling or showing deference & respect |
Demeaning Causing someone to lose their dignity & the respect of others |
Responsible Having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for someone, as part of one's job or role Being the primary cause of something & so able to be blamed or credited for it |
Guilty Culpable of or responsible for a specified wrongdoing; justly chargeable with a particular fault or error Conscious of, affected by, or revealing a feeling of guilt |
Satisfied Contented & pleased, having had consumed an adequate amount |
Sated Excessively satisfy (a desire or an appetite) to the full; supply (someone) with as much as or more of something than is desired or can be managed |
Selective Relating to or involving the selection of the most suitable or best qualified Tending to choose carefully Affecting some things & not others |
Exclusive Excluding or not admitting access to Restricted to the person, group, or area concerned |
Serene Calm, peaceful, and untroubled; tranquil |
Dull Lacking interest or excitement; lacking brightness, vividness, or sheen |
Serving Perform duties or services for another person or an organization Be of use in achieving or satisfying |
Ambitious Having or showing a strong desire & determination to succeed Intended to satisfy high aspirations & therefore difficult to achieve |
Sharing Give a portion of (something) to another or others; use, occupy, or enjoy (something) jointly with another or others |
Hoarding Accumulate (money, junk or valued objects) and hide or store away; keep in one's mind for future use |
Significant Sufficiently great or important to be worthy of attention; noteworthy Having a particular meaning; indicative of something |
Important Of significance or value; significantly original and influential Having high rank or status |
Sober Not affected by alcohol; not drunk Serious, sensible, & solemn |
Intoxicated Distracting & alluring; can cause to lose control of their faculties or behavior |
Spontaneous Performed or occurring as a result of a sudden impulse or inclination and without premeditation or external stimulus Having an open, natural, and uninhibited manner Occurring without apparent external cause |
Impulsive Acting or done without forethought Acting on a sudden desire or impulse, often fleeting or newly discovered |
Spiritual Relating to or affecting the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things; relating to religion or religious belief |
Materialistic Excessively concerned with material possessions; money-oriented |
Steadfast Resolutely or dutifully firm & unwavering Trustworthy & reliable |
Faltering Lose strength or momentum Speak or move unsteadily or hesitantly |
Striving Make great efforts to achieve or obtain something Fight smartly & vigorously |
Struggling Make forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint or constriction; engage in conflict Strive to achieve or attain something in the face of difficulty or resistance |
Surrendering Stop resisting an energy or direction & submit to the process & flow Give up or hand over (control, an energy, power, hope, hanging on, etc) |
Worrying Mental tension that causes anxiety about actual or potential problems; often unnecessarily pessimistic & alarming |
Tender Showing softness, gentleness, kindness, & affection Sensitive to pain, including others' |
Hard Solid, firm, and rigid; not easily broken, bent, or pierced Done with a great deal of force or strength or requiring a great deal of effort |
Thoughtful Absorbed in or involving thought; showing consideration for the needs of other people |
Pedantic Excessively concerned with minor details or rules; over-scrupulous |
Thrifty Using money and other resources carefully and not wastefully Thriving, prosperous, or successful; 'thriving physically', or growing vigorously |
Cheap Low in price, especially in relation to similar items or services; compromise quality for price Of little worth because achieved in a discreditable way requiring little effort |
Timeless Not affected by the passage of time or changes in fashion |
Faddish Intensely fashionable for a short time |
Tolerant Showing willingness to allow the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with |
Prejudiced Having or showing a dislike or distrust that is derived from prejudice; bigoted |
Tractable Easy to control or influence; easy to deal with |
Contrary Opposite in nature, direction, or meaning; perversely inclined to disagree or to do the opposite of what is expected or desired |
Trusting Showing or tending to have a belief in a person's honesty or sincerity; not suspicious |
Gullible Easily persuaded to believe something; easily manipulated |
Truthful Telling or expressing the truth; being honest |
False Not according with truth or fact; incorrect; made to imitate something in order to deceive |
Unifying Make or become united, uniform, or whole |
Dividing Separate or be separated into parts; disagree or cause to disagree |
Unselfish Willing to put the needs or wishes of others before one's own |
Selfish Lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure |
Valuing Consider to be important or beneficial; have a high opinion of |
Exploitative Making use of a situation or treating others unfairly in order to gain an advantage or benefit |
Virtuous Having or showing high moral standards; chaste |
Celebrated Greatly or popularly admired; renowned |
Warm Of or at a fairly or comfortably high temperature Having or showing enthusiasm, affection, or kindness |
Feverish Having or showing the symptoms of a fever Characterized by or displaying a frenetic excitement or energy |
Examples of the High & Low Energy Power Patterns
List containing real life & practical examples of the High & Low Energy Power Patterns.
In this list we will look at the extreme examples of these patterns.
When you look at some of these examples, it really seems like they are the same, or very similar.
Remember the word pair is being compared TO EACH OTHER; so, to understand them, ask yourself: if these are the two options available, then which one is preferable?
HIGH | LOW |
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Abundant Having enough food available to meet your needs, with some extra Buying or replacing the clothes you need, when you need them, without having to worry about the resources |
Excessive Eating more food than you need, to the point of excess Buying more clothes than you need, on debt, and having unworn items in your closet |
Admitting Tell the whole truth Invite & welcome someone into your space |
Denying Persist in continuing or believing a lie Cut someone off or isolate them |
Aesthetic Creating a visually pleasing environment or home that reflects your own timeless beauty & style Wearing timeless items of clothing that suit your personal style & lifestyle Making the most of what you have & what God gave you |
Artsy Matching current design trends in an effort to be validated by others Being a dedicated follower of fashion, even if it isn't comfortable or doesn't really suit you Forcing your body to adhere to fashion's standards, rather than finding styles that suit you, even if that means plastic surgery |
Agreeable A person who is easy to get along with & likable Looking for commonalities & points of agreement |
Condescending Someone who acts in a way that others perceive as 'too superior' for them You'll label a person condescending when you think that they think that they are better than you |
Allowing Going with the flow & letting stuff play out or happen |
Controlling Trying to determine the direction of something, a situation, or a person's actions, as well as the steps it takes to get there along the way |
Appreciative Thankful & grateful for assistance, support, etc Valuing the item, experience that was received & wanting to offer an exchange |
Envious Unhappy that someone else has something, and wanting it for yourself, or not wanting the other person to have it |
Approving Having positive things to say, and/or a welcoming attitude |
Critical Having negative things to say & always looking for the worst in everything |
Attractive Something that appeals to your senses in a way that makes you think about it & want to go back to it Usually very appealing to look at, so 'eye candy' |
Seductive Something purposefully contrived to be obviously attractive & arouse your loyalty or sexual desire Designed to obviously draw your focus away from things that would naturally normally appeal to you |
Authoritative Somebody who is in charge, and is comfortable & confident about being in charge A decision maker who sets clear boundaries The key differentiator here would be that the authoritative person is good at making decisions - whether those are new, out of the box, or abide by old ways or rules |
Dogmatic A 'tight' micro-managing type of person, who sticks the rules & protocols, even when they don't make sense An inflexible thinker who is mentally bound to adhere to rules & regulations, and usually can't process 'out of the box thinking' or new ideas The kind of person who would immediately and wildly reject an idea, and then possible come back a few days or weeks later, presenting it as their own, when they've had time to process it |
Aware Someone who is conscious of what is going around them, and is present in now time This kind of person notices what is happening with & to others around them, and when you speak to them, it feels like they are really listening |
Preoccupied Someone whose mind is 'off with the fairies' - thinking about something else entirely, and not present in the moment with you When you speak to this person, you get a sense that they aren't listening or understanding, and often that they're just waiting for you to finish so that they can have a chance to talk |
Balanced In a balanced diet there is space for everything - from fruit to veggies, starch, a few slices of cake or even a bar of chocolate. A balanced way to lose weight would be to introduce a manageable amount of exercises that you maintain over the long term, and allow the weight to fall off organically over time A balanced lifestyle would make time for work, play, time alone, spirituality, quality time, fun, and everything else you can think of A balanced approach to alcohol would be to drink when it's appropriate, in appropriate quantities - and yes, sometimes it's appropriate to to get drunk occasionally |
Extreme An extreme diet would be where you overeat of something in extreme - like having chocolate or a cheeseburger every single day, or always having one near for when you want it An extreme way to lose weight would be to go on a crash diet, or use excessive exercise to lose weight quickly An extreme lifestyle would see you dedicate most, or all, of your time to a single pursuit, e.g. workaholics or extreme hobbyists An extreme use of alcohol would be an alcoholic who starts his day with a glass of something & cannot function without alcohol in his system |
Beautiful Pleasing & appealing to the senses, especially visually Most likely naturally occurring & of a timeless nature, and so appealing across the ages, like a woman's face |
Glamorous Glamor is artificially contrived visual appeal that is designed to catch your attention & 'dazzle' you, usually to blind you to faults or what is being purposefully hidden Magazine covers are glamorous, while a really good picture of you could be said to be beautiful |
Being You can 'be' in a relationship with someone, which means you are present & engaged usually, and you actively participate by your free will, more than is required to meet the expectations of the relationship You can 'be' happy with your circumstances, but you can't have, obtain or go buy 'happy'; in this state your happiness is not dependent on the 'stuff' around you |
Having Conversely you can 'have' a relationship with someone where you are distant & withdrawn & you don't participate except to respond as much as you 'have to' to meet expectations & obligations 'She has everything that opens & closes, but she's still not happy' - happiness, like peace, freedom, understanding, and so many energies, is a state, and not something you can obtain |
Believing Belief is an internally validated experience that is reliant entirely on your own experience, and cannot be shaken by external validation or lack thereof When you really believe in something, you feel no need to discuss it with others When you truly believe something, it doesn;t matter to you what others think, or what 'reality' shows you - you develop a single-minded, almost dogmatic stance |
Insisting When you want to discuss something with others, it's because you want to convince them of your way of thinking, or piggy back off their faith as they convince you of their way of thinking. We also initiate these kinds of discussions when we want to clarify our own thinking, and/or reinforce our beliefs, or change them When you insist that others agree with you, or hear you, it is because you are trying to find the extra layer of thought to align with yours, so that you 'feel', on an energetic level, the agreement that is reached when two thoughts align to create reality - read more |
Brilliant To understand brilliant, you need to think of the typical 'lightbulb moment' concept.... the ideas presented are so smart, so applicable, that they shine with their obvious benefits & application A brilliant person is someone who has a mind that seems to operate on that level permanently, producing ideas that automatically grab your attention for their design & device Often these solutions seem very obvious once you see them, and leave you with a thought of 'well duh... obviously that was the answer!' Maybe even a... 'why didn't I think of that?' |
Clever While brilliance, and brilliant ideas, often seem inspired by some external force of 'creativity', or seem to be some sort of inherent natural talent that you're either born with, or not, cleverness is the ability to be able to learn something and see good, and often, great, solutions, by applying your mind The ideas offered by someone considered brilliant are usually way superior, but it's really difficult to find people born with natural talent, and so we make do with cleverness in society instead The advantage at a societal level is that 'cleverness' is more easily created by force, learning & application, while brilliance has to show itself & is unpredictable in its occurrence |
Candid 'With her, it's never a spade... it's always a %$*# shovel!' is about the best contemporary metaphor we have to describe a candid person You know where you stand with somebody who is candid... and often you know SO much that you wish you didn't know Candid people might not always be comfortable to be around, but you know where you stand with them - and anyway they couldn't keep a secret long enough to be able to have a master plan |
Calculating On the other hand, a calculating person is VERY liberal in their application of the truth - telling you ONLY the bits of information that they want you to know in order to support the perspective that they want you to see or have Candid people are trustworthy; calculating people, who watch their words & guard what they say, are not |
Carefree 'You shall be free indeed when your days are not without a care, nor your nights without a want and a grief, but rather when these things girdle your life and yet you rise above them naked and unbound.' - Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet To be carefree is NOT to be completely free of worries or responsibilities, but rather the ability to be able to turn off the worry, and not allow it to take over your life |
Frivolous A lighthearted person would be the life & soul of the party, while a frivolous person would inappropriately make fun, say at a funeral To be frivolous is to be wasteful & inconsiderate, e.g. buying unnecessary clothes or home items when you don' have enough money for food for the month, or even to buy unnecessary food that goers to waste Frivolous people don't care about the consequences & are inclined towards being wasteful |
Challenged A challenge is something that can be faced & overcome - and so a challenged person can move past a current (short term) obstacle they are facing A challenging person is a person who makes you think, and/or push yourself |
Impeded When someone is impeded, they are permanently stalled or stopped; they have an impediment that 'holds them back' - a permanent problem they can't overcome The idea of problems we can't overcome, like addiction for example, create the belief that there is some stuff we are powerless against |
Charitable A charitable person is considerate of the needs of others, and will put themselves aside in order to assist someone or offer support & guidance |
Prodigal A prodigal person is what we'd call a narcissist nowadays - someone who will put their needs ahead of others', even putting their comfort & luxury ahead of another's survival |
Cheerful Someone who is cheerful is usually smiling & happy, and easy to be around, as they say & do fun, enjoyable & positive things You want to share time with them, because you feel energized when you are around them or after you've seen them |
Manic A manic person is also high energy, and for brief bursts can be fun - but they quickly drop into depressions, having repeated cycles of ups & downs It can be exhausting to be around mania - first because you can't keep up with the speed of the high, and then because the lows are so draining & all-consuming |
Cherishing When you cherish something or someone, you hold it near to you & keep it safe, looking after & nurturing it |
Prizing Something that is prized is often about the perceived superiority of the item in question Prized items will be treated with much greater favor - like a favorite pet or child |
Choosing-to When you choose to do something, it is by your own free will decision that you decide to participate, and so you have agreed & are more likely to engage & be engaged |
Having-to When you have-to do something, you feel forced & like the decision is outside of your control, and so you often land up feeling powerless, stuck, trapped, and like you want to rebel |
Civil When you treat someone with civility, you are decent to them, even if you don't happen to particularly like them You will do what is expected of you, and maybe go a little further; perhaps even showing genuine warmth & interest |
Formal Formality, on the other hand, is when you have that clear, cold distance with people; only doing the absolute minimum you have to with them - not opening to them, or 'letting them in' |
Concerned Concerned is when you look at something, have clear positive AND negative thoughts about it, and want to give input because you want the venture to turn out positively |
Judgmental Judgmental is when you look at something with the aim of finding fault with it, or criticizing it, finding only the negative aspects, and showing your superiority for having had spotted 'the problems' What is implied here her is that you know better & have better answers - although those who criticize rarely have positive feedback or solutions for the 'problems' they perceive: the joy exists in pointing out he fault and illustrating self superiority |
Conciliatory Being conciliatory is about wanting to find a compromise, make amends, and find a middle ground When you are conciliatory, you are often ready to hear, and incorporate, what the other party has to say |
Inflexible Inflexibility occurs when you won't change your mind, thoughts, stance, perspective on a situation or person, sticking doggedly to one way of thinking & refusing to compromise |
Confident To be able to agree to bake a cake, you have to know that you can source the ingredients & the recipe, and can satisfactorily execute them, and then decorate that cake - so you need to be 'sure' of which parts of that process you are capable of This is confidence - the knowledge of your skills & abilities, and the level to which you are able to exercise them |
Arrogant Arrogance in mainstream thinking, is a confident person who believes that they are superior to others by virtue of their skillset Arrogance is a funny one though, because it's a label that we apply by PROJECTION onto others We label someone else as being arrogant, and this means that we perceive them as being someone who thinks that they are better than us, or others, because we feel inferior to this person somehow |
Confronting When you confront someone, you raise an often-difficult-to-speak-about issue, that you know will likely lead to an emotionally charged situation, with people getting hurt & offended Basically this is dangerous territory, and you enter it carefully & tread lightly Your aim is to resolve the issue with the least amount of emotional upset to all parties concerned |
Harassing With harassment, the issue often changes, because the point is the emotional abuse & drama that the confrontation creates The issue is just an excuse to purposefully create emotional upset & usually cannot be resolved, mostly because it's not a 'real' issue for the complainant & they aren't looking for a solution The aim is to use any excuse to create confrontation so that you can create the emotional upset that will you make you 'important' in someone else's life |
Conscious Someone who is conscious makes decisions, or acts, by free will choice, because they have their wits about them & are able to make a conscious decision about what they are going to do next They are able to 'think before they speak' in other words |
Unaware Conversely, someone who is unaware may be temporarily distracted, or permanently unfocused, and therefore tends to let most of their processes, actions & behaviors run on default, or by habit Because the processes run on default, the ability to interrupt them & choose differently is not present |
Considerate To be considerate is to take into account the needs, comfort & opinions of others, or to see from their perspective |
Indulgent An indulgent parent, for example, would blindly assume his or her child is correct, and offer unwavering, often financial, support |
Constructive The concept of constructive, has its roots in 'construct', which means to build Something is considered constructive when it's end achievement is that it builds up the person, idea or understanding Empowering something or helping it to grow, even if the process of growth is difficult, awkward or uncomfortable |
Destructive Similarly, destructive has its root in the word 'destruction', or 'destroy' Something is considered destructive when it breaks down a person's confidence, hope, drive, passion, or puts an end to plans Sometimes endings are necessary though, and not everything is meant to survive forever |
Contending To contend is to 'throw your hat into the ring' & participate Contending is about matching your skill against others', in order to measure & benchmark your own progress, so that you are able to evaluate & validate your skill level according to an internally-referenced yardstick that happens to include others When you measure & benchmark against yourself & your own performance, then you notice all the improvements & losses that have occurred, and are able to form a more well-rounded picture of your overall progress |
Competing Competition differs in that it is about benchmarking against an opponent - by winning, or defeating the opponent Where a contender will set out to play the best possible match they can, and thus can be a 'good sport' or 'good loser', the ONLY benchmark in competition is winning The danger here is the over-emphasis placed on winning - an achievement like being in second place can feel like a soul crushing defeat, even if that second place is a massive improvement on your previously-recorded position of 137 |
Courageous 'Feel the fear & do it anyway' is the best statement to describe courage, or bravery Being courageous does NOT mean that you feel no fear - it means that you are willing to walk into the fray, even though you are scared, and will likely face danger - whether you know what that danger is or not |
Reckless Impulsively jumping into ideas & behaviors, with no regard for, or thought of the consequences of that behavior While fear is a healthy ally in courage, as it reminds & encourages you to be cautious, all caution is thrown to the wind with reckless behavior This is where stupid accidents happen; where you think to yourself... 'Well! They should have known better' |
Defending To defend is to protect, using physical force if necessary, oneself, another person or a possession or place In any situation requiring requiring forgiveness, there are three positions - the perpetrator, the victim & the bystander; the bystander's guilt stems from not interfering to help or defend the victim, even though they knew what was going & had the ability to run some sort of interference |
Attacking When violence, aggression & force are used in defensive activity, they are used because they have been provoked - an attack is usually the activity that provokes such a defense |
Democratic For the greater good & aligned to the needs, but not necessarily wants, of the majority |
Dictatorial Aligned to the needs & desires of a single individual, with the populous forced to adhere to the rules & regulations as 'dictated' |
Detached Present but not overly attached or involved to a situation or person Able to remove oneself mentally & emotionally from something by free will choice, even if you strongly disagree |
Removed Where detachment sees the person still being present, when the person is removed, they are completely separated or isolated; entirely cut off from all activity, interest & engagement with the person or object |
Determined When you're determined, you have set your mind to something, and have decided that you will make it happen, regardless of what it takes for you to get there |
Stubborn Stubbornness is a refusal to budge from an activity, way of thinking, perspective or behavior, doggedly holding onto it, sometimes even if the mindset can be shown to be erroneous |
Devoted To be devoted is to be be completely committed to someone or something, by your own free will decision & choice |
Possessive To be possessive is to demand the undivided attention & the behaviors & energy of devotion from someone or something - wanting it to be entirely focused on you |
Diplomatic To be diplomatic is to have the ability to soothe ruffled feathers, make people feel comfortable and help them to feel heard Diplomacy is to consider & act on the needs of many different parties, playing a careful balancing game of egos & pride |
Deceptive Deception is diplomacy used for devious ends, in order to blind someone to a truth, or gain their trust with the purpose of taking advantage of them in some way Deception only takes into account the needs of the deceiver, and does not consider the needs of the victim, or their comfort |
Doing The most obvious analogy here is the idea that if you do what you love, you'll never work a day in your life; when you do something with purpose, you feel fulfilled, because your intention is in the right place |
Getting If you're working only to get a salary, and your career is about what you can accumulate, or get, in terms of material wealth, then your criteria for job selection will be money, instead of asking if the role will fulfill you & give you joy |
Educating Arming & empowering with information designed to increase overall general awareness, knowledge, and the ability to apply oneself to a task at hand |
Persuading Limited & tailored exposure to information that is designed to give a one-sided view that hopes to inform the choice made by the listener |
Egalitarian Approaching life, or a situation, in a way that assumes that everyone is equal, and deserves equal right of access to goods & services |
Elitist The belief that a particular race, culture, country, people, ethnicity, gender, tradition, religion or wealth status can superior to others in the same class, and that members of those classes should be excluded from certain elements of society |
Empathetic An empathetic person is willing to lend an ear, be a shoulder to cry on (for a limited time), and may offer solutions or advice to the injured party The truth is that, no matter how you cut it, some people don't want stuff to get better, they just want to complain - they don't want real help |
Pitying Someone who has pity on the other hand, will often join in the 'pity party', and spend hours commiserating, agreeing & in mutual complaint about the unfairness of the situation, with little to no constructive discussion or resolution taking place |
Encouraging Standing behind & supporting someone, offering hope for a positive outcome; holding the space of belief that they can 'make it' in their intended aim You encourage someone to become the best they can be, or to do well |
Promoting Encouraging someone with the purpose of aligning them to a specified goal or aim Presenting something as 'best in class' in order to more quickly build a positive or favorable reputation, rather than organically, or legitimately, earn one |
Energetic To be in high spirits, or have high vitality, presence or motivation to get stuff done |
Agitated Restless & unable to find stillness or peace; high energy behavior that can be disruptive to those around |
Enlivening The process of making a process, person, circumstance or place, more lively, exciting & engaging |
Exhausting A circumstance, person or pace that drains your energy & motivation, leaving you tired & disinterested |
Envisioning Imagining what a future could be or look like, with all the potential possibilities You have or receive or receive a vision - it's more of a state |
Picturing Picturing a specific desired outcome, that channels energy into a specific outcome, usually designed to serve the desires of the individual You envision the future, but you picture what you want |
Equal Treating with the same level of respect, or with the same right of access Treat as if of equivalent value, dimension or ability; managing without favor or prejudice |
Superior Believing that someone or something is of better quality, more worth, or more important than something else, by virtue of a characteristic or set of characteristics |
Erotic The act of sexual intimacy as an expression of connection, bonding & tantric union Being sexy within the context of a union, for your partner |
Lustful Designed to appeal to sexual desires & senses in general, and not limited to specific partner Having sex appeal with the sole intent of provoking lust in others, to be seen or validated as 'sexy' |
Essential A vital part of the system or process, critical to its ability to keep running, e.g. the cogs and springs that drive a watch's timing mechanism, vs. the apparently useful watch face |
Apparent The obvious part of the mechanism or system that apparently seems to be most useful, i.e. the mechanism, cogs & springs can still run, and even 'keep time' without the watch face, but without the mechanism, the face is purely decorative |
Eternal Something that is eternal, is beyond the reach of time. often not changing even though standards of the day may vary wildly The eternal transcends temporary fads & fashions, offering timelessness |
Temporal Of limited time, or limited to exist within time, or a timeframe A fad may be wildly popular, but it will only be so for a brief period of time |
Ethical To act in a way principled manner that is aligned with an internally-referenced moral code, that is not swayed by outside interference, even if it does allow for external input |
Equivocal An externally validated set of principles that is able to be swayed, or will deviate, according to the people, environment or circumstances in which one finds oneself, most often in order to 'fit in', gain approval or curry favor |
Excellent Of exceptional quality & standard; a memorable & perhaps perfect example |
Adequate Good enough to meet the standards of requirement, while not surpassing them, or showing any extraordinary value |
Experienced Knowledge & ability gained from hands-on exposure to the matter in question Knowledge that extends to the practical application, beyond just theoretical book learning |
Cynical Jaded, often pessimistic, views of the situation, frequently accompanied by complaints, judgment & negative sentiment Often presented as born of experience, but mostly born of disappointment & failure |
Fair To be fair is to give an approximately equal consideration to all the parties concerned A good example would be dividing land equally between two people - you can agree on an approximate halfway point & compromise around that This fair approach looks at the big picture of the issue and makes decisions based on that view, without going into unnecessary detail, e.g. a judge makes a decision, but the lawyers scrupulously handle the details amp; terms of the agreement |
Scrupulous To be scrupulous is to be pedantic & OCD about being fair - taking it to the tiniest detail & measurement, or 'hearing absolutely ALL the facts of the case' To continue our example of land division, a scrupulous approach would be to measure and divide the land down to the final millimeter, and then perhaps to compensate for someone getting a more fertile patch of land by giving the other person more land, or to create a weirdly shaped piece of land that also equally shares access to water A scrupulous person would find more & more details that come to bear on the decision, making it more and more complex - so detail-oriented thinking |
Fertile Something that is fertile may not appear lush or beautiful, but it is capable of producing This is the old 'don't judge a book by its cover' analogy - just because land does not look lush & beautiful, doesn't mean it isn't great for growing crops While fertility is about creation & productivity, luxuriant is about presenting the aura of those elements within a limited space |
Luxuriant A nice contrast view here would be an oasis in the desert: it looks lush & luxuriant, and amazing when you're standing inside it, but you would not want to establish a farm there The salesman of a firm always looks well-presented & gives you the best view of their product, but if you wanted to invest, you'd want to meet the nerdy tech guys - these guys may not look the part, but they are the guts of the company The salesman is apparently useful, but the tech guys are essential; they are the true fertility and creation of the company |
Flexible 'In any system, the element that shows the most amount of flexibility will experience the least amount of strain' This statement beautifully captures not only the essence, but also the benefits of flexibility: when you're flexible you go with the flow & are able to adapt to changing circumstances around you, embracing change & thriving within it The ability to be able to perform miracles, for example, requires extreme flexibility: you must adapt to change on a massive scale, and be able to INSTANTLY accept that change, even holding it in the face of absolute doubt in 'reality' |
Rigid Rigid is an easily understandable contrast to flexibility - where flexible behavior enables you to bend without breaking, rigidity means that too much pressure will make you snap A rigid person is someone who will not change their point of view, or budge from a way of being, doing or thinking |
Forgiving Forgiveness is about letting go of thoughts &emotions that plague you (see resentment) When you let go those thoughts, you gain back time & energy to invest in yourself & what you want to achieve Forgiveness is about freeing yourself from the perpetual reminder of the historical event or person (it's ALWAYS history, because it isn't happening RIGHT NOW) So a forgiving person is someone who does not allow themselves to dwell on stuff from the past, who accepts that those things & people are over & gone, and who moves forward with life as it exists now, pulling all their energy & focus into the now moment |
Resenting When you resent someone, or hold any negative sentiment towards them, what you'll eventually come to realize is that the entire process of resentment takes place inside your own head - you spend time &, sometimes daily, thinking about this person, what they did to you, how much it hurt you, etc, etc That's the power that resentment & emotions like that hold over you - the time it takes up in your life to continue doing that on a daily basis A resentful person is therefore someone who holds onto issues from the past, constantly recalling & remembering them , dwelling & lingering on them, and choosing to relive the emotional pain & trauma on a regular basis, so that it stays fresh in their mind, and a priority for them to deal with... ever noticed how resentful people love to complain about their list of issues? they have to, because they want to keep them top of mind |
Free Something that is free is allowed to develop organically & naturally, free of external interference, and according to the laws of free will If a jungle or wood is free, a garden is regulated In a free or natural environment, local or indigenous species will automatically grow, which parallels nicely to how we pick up our culture from our environment - you pick up & develop according to what is naturally occurring around you |
Regulated A regulated person, situation or process is one that is subject to rules that aim to prevent certain behaviors & directions from being pursued: 'rules & regulations' A garden entered into a garden competition may be even more 'regulated' as it has to meet certain predetermined standards, such as size, use of plants, products used, etc Controlling personalities often like to implement their need to control through regulations - think of that micromanaging supervisor you used to work for |
Generous To be generous is to freely share & give of what you have, no matter how small or large that resource pool may be A generous person will go out of their way to make you feel welcomed & like you have the right to be present, but the degree of comfort you feel will be determined by how comfortable & deserving you feel A generous boss is gregarious & forgiving, within reason |
Petty A petty person or attitude conversely, can be explained by the host that makes you feel uncomfortable about everything - always rushing around cleaning up, taking bowls away, focusing too much on details - so much so that you feel uncomfortable for creating so much work for them A petty boss will micromanage & try to control every detail of every thing |
Gentle To be gentle is to be soft & tender in your approach, treating people with kid gloves & catering foremost to the idea that you do not want to hurt or offend their egos or sensibilities Cotton & other soft materials are gentle, while sandpaper or sacking material is rough, coarse & abrasive |
Rough To be rough in your approach is to rush in without forethought, acting as you see fit, often without consideration that others even matter A gentle person will make someone comfortable, while a rough person often expects everyone to be comfortable with their coarseness |
Gifted A person who is gifted, is usually considered to be 'naturally' so, so in this way there is an element of luck involved as well This once-off, at-birth luck enables the person the to create success each time, with most or all of what they encounter, in general, or in their area of talent |
Lucky While a gifted person is able to create success, lucky is a situation to situation occurrence, and requires fate, or divine intervention, to interfere each time The ability to generate the luck needed is entirely outside the person's control, and the gift cannot be consciously exercised or directed to specific ends |
Giving A giving person is someone who freely extends themselves, their resources and/or time to others, placing equal importance on others & themselves, or giving others greater priority A giving person would host lunch & probably cover the costs |
Taking Someone who expresses an attitude of taking aims to interrupt the flow of resources, time, or effort, diverting them to flow for their own personal gain A taking person would pitch up to eat lunch without remembering to bring the thing they were supposed to bring |
Global To take a global view of a situation is to look at all the elements impacted, and how it fits into the big picture In practical application, a global decision would be deciding that you are going to study, or that you are going to get married |
Local When you look at something locally, you zero in on a specific aspect or element within the whole, viewing it in isolation To continue our practical example, this would deciding exactly what the course is you're going to study, or setting a date & picking a venue for your wedding |
Gracious A gracious person is almost blessed with the warmth & appeal that we would imagine a divine being to have - grace There is a mystical quality about them, that makes them appealing & you want to approach them Gracious behavior is often paired with the idea of treating everyone you encounter equally, regardless of discriminating factors, including social standing |
Decorous The word decorous has its roots in 'decorum', which basically means protocol & regulation; conducting oneself with decorum, or according to the 'rules' A gracious host is warm & welcoming, but a decorous host would do only what is necessary to be seen as doing their duties - their role is almost 'decorative' (another root?) Decorous behavior would see people treating others 'in line with', or 'as befits', their social class |
Grateful When you're grateful, you feel thankful for, and appreciative towards, someone or something, usually for support, help, assistance or some kind of positive intervention, usually that benefits you or someone that interests you The distinguishing factor here is that you feel thankful of your own accord, and want to offer thanks or repay the debt |
Indebted When you're indebted, it's also often because you've received help, assistance or support in some way, but now you feel like you are in the debt of the person who offered The distinguishing factor here is that you feel obligated to be thankful, like you HAVE to be thankful, and are expected to keep repeatedly showing that thanks - usually way beyond the lifespan of the appreciation |
Harmonious When an environment or process is harmonious, all the parts work together seamlessly to create a well-functioning whole A harmonious person usually fits into an environment or group easily, and has the added benefit of being able to bring other parties or elements into the perfectly functioning whole So a harmonious person not only acts harmoniously, but usually displays the characteristic of being able to create harmony |
Disruptive When something is disruptive, it upsets the natural flow of the process & prevents the parts from working well together A disruptive person is someone who upsets the people and/or energy in an environment or group, even if that system operated flawlessly previously A hallmark of a disruptive energy is that the sense of discontent & friction often disappears when they leave the room, the way so many offices brighten up when the 'bad' boss walks out |
Healing If something is healing it is getting better or has the ability to make something get or feel better A healing person is someone who helps others heal to by being around them, and/or is good at healing themselves |
Irritating If something is irritating, it chafes you, causing mental, emotional or physical discomfort & tension An irritating person is someone who causes that kind of tension reaction when you spend time with them, either for you personally, or for others in general the irritation factor can range from energetic presence, to mannerisms, appearance, personality, characteristics, and so much more - or may be nothing specific in particular |
Helpful When something is considered helpful, it is because it offers support, makes a task easier or lightens the load of another It's a difficult measure though, because what people consider helpful vs. meddling will depend on their particular mirrors & belief systems - what is helpful to one is meddling to another A good measure to use here is to ask yourself if the help you are offering is in line with the recipient's free will choice - if it is, then it is helpful; meddling would be taking away the person's free will choice |
Meddling When something or someone is considered meddling, it is because they 'help' in a way that creates frustrations for the recipients & people involved In many cases, these people are often also not directly involved or included in the situation, and are 'assisting' so that they can find out what is going on, or often because they want to make the issue about them, as a form of attention seeking In our free will choice example, you can further clarify by looking at whether you like the solution or not - even if you don't like the way things are going or the decision made, if you can support it, you're helping; if you're trying to get it to go your way because you don't agree with the direction, then you're meddling |
Holistic When you take a holistic view of something, you look at everything involved in it - it's the difference between sitting down to plan a wedding, or ensuring that you put equal attention into per-marriage counseling, spending time together, managing finances so that you don't spend everything on the wedding, planning for after the wedding, and setting up structures to support the marriage A holistic approach considers all the factors influencing the situation, including subtle & secondary elements |
Analytic An analytic approach, on the other hand, would drill down into the details of a specific part of say, just the wedding plan, like the budget A holistic view of the wedding itself would include guest's experience, the bride & groom's dreams, family requirements, contingencies, etc, while the analytic approach would zero in one only reducing line items on the budget to save costs Analytic is an extremely detail-oriented point of view, focused only a specific aspect at a time, an aspect that is 'analyzed' |
Honest An honest person is someone who deals in truth, aiming to speak truly, share honest information, and in many cases, walk their talk Truly honest behavior would require no laws or legal system in order to regulate it |
Legal Because of the lack of honesty, and trustworthiness, in our society, we need laws to govern and manage how people deal with each other To reach the point of legal intervention, you have usually reached a point where communication has irrevocably broken down |
Honoring When you honor someone or something, you hold a special place for it, in a part of your life the item is important, and given a place of importance, but it is not unbalanced, or takes over the person's entire life In the case of death, the deceased will be remembered, but not to a point of disrupting the present status quo |
Enshrining Enshrining, on the other hand, is honoring taken to an extreme level A handy modern day example, is parents who have lost children, where they turn the child's bedroom into a shrine, treating it with sacred honor, because they are unable to let go The distinguishing factor here is the inability to let go |
Humble To be humble is to be modest & unassuming about one's abilities & talents Humility is usually associated with those with great ability or potential, and is assigned because these people don't display perceived 'arrogance' with that ability An additional meaning of 'humble' is to reduce a notch in importance, usually self-importance; a person is humbled through their challenges or losses, i.e. brought down a peg |
Diffident Diffidence differs from humble, in that the diffident person is truly doubtful of their abilities & skill level, and the lack of confidence stems from a genuine lack of self worth, knowledge or experience A humble person will be able to do the job, but won't make a big deal about it; a diffident person can't do the job, and you'll be in no doubt of their lack of ability |
Humorous To be humorous is to be lighthearted in your approach to stuff, inserting joy, laughter, comedy & a funny perspective into a situation in order to obtain, or retain, a positive sentiment, hope & perspective Humor can be beautifully used to diffuse the tension, stress, and strain of a situation, enabling you to survive even the most difficult of stages or transitions |
Sombre An extreme contrast of being humorous, sombre people are dull, dreary, serious, and inclined towards treating everything as if it is of critical importance The Goth/Emo culture is a great representation of the sombre mentality - they are dark, dreary, negative, inclined to look for the worst, judgmental & critical, in many cases |
Impartial An impartial person will look at all the sides of a situation, viewing the situation & players in it with equal consideration, and not allowing any former allegiances or ties to sway them, if these even exist An impartial person is someone who is not emotionally involved in the situation, affected by the outcome, or worried about the outcome Impartiality is well expressed by the concept of 'having no skin in the game' - the person's decisions will not be swayed by the outcome in any way A lack of impartiality that is coming more and more to the fore is doctors and kickbacks - are doctors prescribing because the medicine is needed, or because the pharma companies give them kickbacks? |
Righteous In context of this duality, a righteous person is someone who is strongly & completely aligned with one of the sides of this argument, believing firmly in that side's view & perspective, and (often blindly) agreeing with the arguments presented by that party, even if they can be shown to be illogical or true A second hallmark of righteousness is that the person additionally believes that their viewpoint is not only superior to any other viewpoint, but to a markedly superior to a specific viewpoint in particular, which they label and deem as 'wrong & bad', while theirs is 'right & good' |
Ingenious An ingenious idea is one that solves a problem so well & perfectly, that it seems like the most perfectly obvious solution to the challenge once you see it An ingenious person is someone who is full of ingenious ideas, able to see solutions in a& for almost everything; often simple & easy solutions that always seem to perfectly tackle the challenge |
Scheming A scheming person, while often gifted with an ability to see & create solutions, will only usually focus on aspects that suit or serve their own particular needs or ends Where ingenious will solve the problem for many, scheming will only solve problems that are self-serving in their outcome |
Inspired An inspired idea is brilliant in it's application, and almost seems to come from an external source it is so perfect An inspired person is someone who can generate these kind of ideas, or has been inspired to a level of great passion (and usually action) by a great idea |
Mundane A mundane idea is a boring, run-of-the-mill idea, that basically anyone could come up with - and anyone would come up with if faced with that particular challenge A mundane person is equally dull & boring, very ordinary, and not at all memorable, generating similarly commonplace ideas |
Intentional When you act intentionally, you are acting with free will choice, on purpose, and with a specific purpose or aim in mind To act intentionally is to have an intention - a reason why you're doing this; think 'setting your intentions' or 'having clear intentions' |
Calculating Calculating behavior is often also intentional, but in this case, the intention is often self-serving, and/or designed to harm someone else, or benefit the self When someone is calculating, they will go out of their way to manipulate people, or a situation, in order to steer it in a particular direction that suits their own ends |
Intuitive When you operate from an intuitive level, you make decisions & act from a more instinctive level, making bigger picture decisions that don't drill as far down into details The application of intuitive, in contrast to the duality of the pattern here, is that 'the rules' would be interpreted much more broadly, as opposed to followed to the letter |
Literal Literal, for all intents & purposes, means 'exactly as it is written' So a literal person would take exactly a word you say at face value, without holistically looking the intent of the entire argument presented A literal person is the kind of person who will follow the rules 'exactly' as they are presented, even if a variation would make sense or is called for |
Inventive When you're inventive, you're good at finding new ways to apply existing technologies & ideas, or finding new solutions, usually cost-effective & efficient, to problems that exist The root of the word is the same as inventor, which is the archetype that bests represents this energy; think 'Doc Emmett Brown' in Back to the Future, with his crazy ideas that seem to come out of nowhere, and his machine for every purpose |
Prosaic A prosaic approach lacks originality on the other hand, and the ideas presented are lackluster, unoriginal, commonplace & ordinary If an inventor is inventive, then a typical engineer would be a prosaic inventor... the inventor creates new technologies & envisions new worlds & possibilities, but the engineer takes the safer road and works with already known elements, more comfortable fixing your toaster than building a time machine |
Inviting An inviting energy draws you in: you notice it of your own accord & are drawn towards it, feeling like you want to enter it by choice |
Urging Conversely, when someone is urging you towards something, you feel pressed, compelled, pushed & forced towards it, usually against your own free will choice |
Involved When someone is involved, they are an active & engaged participant in the environment, situation, task or relationship, but it is only a part of their life |
Obsessed When someone is obsessed, the area of interest becomes the primary focus of their life - it's all they want to think, talk & hear about |
Joyful Joyful is a state of being happy & cheerful, and expressing positive, uplifting sentiment, usually not dependent on the environment or circumstances the person finds themselves in: they can be in the worst circumstances & still experience a state of joy |
Pleasurable Pleasurable relates directly to the environment or situation you find yourself in usually - you have a pleasurable experience, or experience pleasure; you're not considered a pleasurable person |
Just A just situation is one that is fair, or in which fair justice has been served, so a convict rightfully captured for a crime & serving a sentence |
Punitive A punitive result, conversely, is one in which the person is punished for something, as opposed to justice being served; in law they speak of 'punitive damages', which literally means 'to punish for the damages caused' |
Kind Someone or something who is considered kind, is caring, compassionate, and usually easy to handle or be around If the day is kind to you, things go well, are easy & tend to go your way |
Cruel A cruel person, on the other hand, is one that deliberately goes out of their way to hurt, harm, or upset you, often taking pleasure in your pain & discomfort |
Leading When you lead someone, you go first, put yourself in danger first, and show those following you which way to go, making yourself answerable to people, and responsible for their well-being Again, the distinguishing factor in this duality set is free will - a leader is followed by the choice of those following them |
Coercing When you are coerced into following someone, you are threatened, cajoled, forced, manipulated, blackmailed, etc, into following the person Seductive tactics may also be employed to lure you into the fold or a certain direction |
Liberating If something is liberating it is freeing - it frees you from a previous restriction that held you back in some way, enabling you to move forward in a different direction in life Slaves were 'liberated' when they were freed from their owners; prisoners of war are similarly 'liberated' from prison |
Restricting In contrast, a restriction places a limitation on you that restricts your behaviors, actions, or speech, such as school rules, or a dress code An example of a restricting personality would be someone controlling, who tries to place limitations on what you can do |
Long-term When you are working towards something long-term, you are willing to invest a (significant) period of time, energy, money & resources into the investment before seeing any results from it A great example of long-term is investing in your studies & gaining a degree - the time spent can give you a foot up in the business world as you embark on your career, with university & college graduates tending to earn more for starting salaries, for example |
Immediate Immediate results are what we commonly refer to as 'instant gratification' nowadays - wanting results that turn around immediately, for minimal effort To continue our example in long-term, this is opening a business & expecting it to yield results quickly, or wanting an MD job straight out of high school |
Loyal When someone is loyal to a person, group or cause, he or she is aligned to that energy, and stays true to those principles, even if there is no one around to see it As an example, a loyal man will take his manly duties seriously, stay faithful to his wife & do right by his children for example, knowing that his actions impact those around him |
Chauvinistic Chauvinistic behavior, on the other hand, takes it to another level, with the idea that the body the person is aligned to is far superior to anything that can paralleled against it A male chauvinist, however, believes in the superiority of males over females, and does not believe that he has to take any action to illustrate his superiority - he is superior by dint of birth, as are all males, and this gives him the right to conduct himself as he pleases |
Merciful A merciful response, or person, would look at a situation that had a wrongdoing, acknowledge the wrongdoing, and then offer mercy, as in forgiveness & compassion, perhaps with an opportunity to make up for the wrongdoing Importantly the wrongdoing would be acknowledged, and mercy would be offered in spite of the wrongdoing taking place The merciful boss would say, 'okay I understand you made a mistake, and now we have to fix it - but make sure this doesn't happen again', and would extend that magnanimous to all the staff in the office, within reason |
Permissive A permissive person however, would allow an extreme level of wrongdoing, usually repeatedly, without pointing it out, or doing anything to correct it Where the merciful person acknowledges that something wrong was done, the permissive person just doesn't even look at it, or if they do, turns a blind eye, usually as a result of special favor towards the party doing wrong The permissive boss would allow someone, or a group, to get away with murder basically, but usually will not extend that to other persons who do not curry as much favor |
Modest A modest person, situation or place is unassuming, practical, not fancy, but good enough to get the job done... it may not be the best couch, but you can sit on it & rest |
Haughty A haughty person, in contrast, is one who believes they are better than the people or situation they find themselves dealing with, assuming an superiority, and often making those around them feel uncomfortable, or trying to make them feel inferior |
Natural Something natural has been allowed to develop according to standards determined by nature, so a (genetically unmodified) apple seed growing into a tree The apples from that tree would also be considered to be natural Natural literally means 'as it appears in nature', or 'according to its original, instinctive & basic nature'; nature being the root of the word A natural person is one who is true to their nature, accepting themselves as they are |
Artificial If however, you planted a genetically modified (GMO) apple seed, that would be unnatural - as would any kind of farming or agricultural practice, as it forces the apple trees to behave in a certain way, grow in a certain spot, and manages & controls the elements that that apple tree is exposed to, in order to ensure quality 'produce' Similarly, if you took that apple and made it into juice or baby food, that too would be artificial or 'produced' An artificial person would put on a pretense, fro example, or may have plastic surgery or weight train & exercise in order to force a certain body shape |
Noble A noble person is someone who is usually of a higher social standing, but conducts themselves with the presence of mind of their role, and with cognizance of the responsibility that is attributed to their station in life Queen Elizabeth is very noble in her conduct of the role of monarch, taking care to always put her best foot forward & conduct herself as befits what people expect of her, without being too full of herself, or 'pompous' |
Pompous A pompous person on the other hand, whether they are superior on some way or not, is someone who conducts themselves with an attitude of being better than everyone around them In an extreme example, Sadam Hussein or Muammar Gaddafi were pompous - convinced of their own superiority & treating everyone around them as less-than (inferior), as a result |
Nurturing When someone or something is nurturing, it encourages the elements around it to grow A gardener nurtures a garden, a mother nurtures her baby, and a nurse nurtures her patients |
Draining Conversely, something or someone draining will deplete the resources that the person or element needs in order to grow & flourish; the energy is sucked out or 'drained', often leaving you feeling exhausted, without energy & demotivated |
Observant When you are observant, you will notice things around you, but as a matter of course of your normal day-to-day activities, noticing things in general When you're observant, you notice something is wrong because it seems out of place |
Suspicious Suspicion is the extreme observation of a specific person or element, usually because you want to find fault or identify wrongdoing When you're suspicious, you notice something is wrong because you were watching like a hawk for anything that raised a red flag Ironically, this also often gives you tunnel vision blindness to noticing other things, e.g. you're so busy watching your husband because you think he's cheating that you don't notice a problem your friend is having |
Open An open person will freely share information, and is most likely to get themselves in trouble for sharing too much, saying the wrong thing, or giving away a secret that they weren't supposed to |
Secretive A secretive person however, is guarded about the information they share, who they share it with , and what people know - they're the person who is likely to get angry at the open type for blabbing what was supposed to be a 'secret' |
Optimistic An optimistic person or situation, on the other hand, is one in which hope, and usually positive sentiment about current & future plans, can be found Optimism is nicely encapsulated in the idea of a 'glass-half-full type of person' |
Pessimistic On the contrary, a pessimistic person will only have negative things to say, offering criticism & pointing out the problems To extend our illustration, this would be a glass-(half-)empty approach & mindset |
Orderly An orderly environment, situation, person, process, etc, is one that is neat & organized: things are 'in order'; all the 'ducks are in a row' An orderly person will do things with a structured & methodical approach |
Confused On the other side of orderly, you have confused, where order is replaced with chaos If an organized filing cabinet is orderly, then the infamous 'file 13', or a random stack of papers on a desk, is confused A confused person will show no order or reason in their actions or words, and will appear 'confusing' when you look at them |
Outgoing Someone who is outgoing is usually social, comfortable with approaching & talking to people, and is confident & engaging in most situations Outgoing people often are energized by social contact, making them extroverts You're most likely to get irritated by an outgoing person if they forget to include you, or if you can't get them to sit still |
Reserved Reserved personalities, on the flipside, tend to keep to themselves, both in terms of going out, and when it comes to speaking up when they are out A reserved, or withheld person, may come across as distant, aloof & even secretive, or suspicious |
Patient Patience is the ability to allow time to pass while waiting for a goal or desire, without getting frustrated or annoyed that you have to wait for time to pass, and without getting annoyed that you have not achieved it yet A patient person may have a hobby, but will allow it to fall into the natural order of life, i.e. when they have time to pursue it, as opposed to making time on a daily basis |
Avid An avid person is someone who cannot sit still and allow the time to pass - they dedicate every moment to the achievement of the goal, 'avidly pursuing' it, with new approaches, actions, behaviors & tasks, never allowing other elements to get in the way Many hobbyists in areas like the comic con genres could be considered avid, with a lifestyle-level dedication to their hobby or 'passion' |
Patriotic A patriotic person is loyal to their country, and aligns themselves to the ideals & vision of the country they are from, within reason |
Nationalistic A nationalistic mindset, however, will see the person blindly follow the rules of their nation, even when those don't make sense, out of a mistaken belief in the superiority of that nation over other nations In this context, a nation may be a religion, creed, culture, race or ethnicity, e.g. white supremacy |
Peaceful Th real measure of peace is 'what is your inner voice doing?' If your inner voice is still & restful after an interaction, and you're not left endlessly running the event over & over in your mind, then you are at 'peace' |
Belligerent When you walk away from a situation or person or event, and your mind is going wild with all your responses, replaying the saga over & over, with a tone & suggestion that 'I was right', or 'I'll show you', then you're being belligerent - you don't want to budge from your point of view, even if that view is not justified |
Polite A polite person will offer you the courtesy that is expected within the realms of normal life, making an effort to not go to places that will upset you |
Obsequious An obsequious person on the other hand, will wait on you hand & foot, acting almost as your servant or slave, often making you feel very uncomfortable |
Powerful Something or someone that is powerful has the ability to effect or influence an element, even if that power is not exercised Power is usually exercised in alignment with a sense of responsibility for the consequences of the actions Because the powerful person can influence change to take place, they often achieve the free will 'buy in' of interested parties, who become willing participants |
Forceful A forceful person, conversely, may not have power over people, but may have the ability to force their hand in a situation, like a controlling boss where tasks are performed grudgingly & out of fear of losing your job A forceful person will use violence, hostility, anger, control & fear to 'make' someone go in a specific direction or do something, against their will, and with resistance |
Praising When you you're praising, you acknowledge the apparent positive qualities of someone or something, extolling its virtues, which are true & can be verified by another party |
Flattering When you flatter someone, you sing their praises in an excessive way, often praising characteristics that they don't actually have, usually with the purpose of winning their favor & getting into their good graces, or to manipulate them into feeling comfortable for more devious ends, such as fraud or a con |
Principled A principled person will conduct themselves according a fixed internal moral & ethical code, a code that won't deviate according to circumstance or the people in the situation, because it is internally defined |
Expedient In contrast, when you act expediently, it is with the intention of achieving the aim in the minimum amount of time, even if that means cutting corners or breaking the rules; profit trumps principles in this regard |
Privileged A privileged person has had access to better opportunities, and/or the finer things in life Cognizant that the morphic field is about words & language, and how we use them to give & receive (love, ideas, knowledge, affection, etc), it is worth noting the contemporary trend of terms like 'white privilege' and 'male privilege' The resonance of the energy of a word in the field is created by the alignment of thoughts within the field, so words in the power patterns list will change & evolve over time An example of this is an idea like religion or church - a few centuries back, churches were so revered you could claim sanctuary in them, and people would stop chasing you at the church walls; now that role is exclusively reserved for the right of governments, and the church is no longer really seen as a 'power player'. In fact churchgoers may be actively ridiculed in secular society nowadays, where non-churchgoers would have been shunned in times gone by |
Entitled When you look at terms like 'white privilege' & 'male privilege', what they're really referring to is what this list would define as entitlement: the belief that you are automatically worthy of access to a place, experience, object, person, by right of association or birth Entitlement means you believe you have right of access, a right to be somewhere, a right to resources, as you are now, without having to put in any extra effort to earn it or be worthy of it Many of our family issues and societal complaints are driven by a sense of entitlement: the expectation that something should happen in a certain way, which causes discontent when it doesn't play out that way; if there was no expectation, the disappointment would not take place in the first place This is why releasing expectations is such a powerful tool - when you let go of the expectation, you learn to see what you already have |
Prolific If someone or something is considered prolific, it means they produce a lot (of whatever); so a writer that generates a lot of books or articles would be considered to be prolific, or to be a prolific writer One important distinguishing factor here is that the volume of product does not adversely impact the quality of the final output |
Barren In context of prolific, barren means unproductive, or unable to produce In common parlance, an infertile woman is referred to as 'barren' A writer that has writer's block could also be considered to be barren, although you're not likely to hear that term used |
Purposeful When someone is purposeful, they are driven by a purpose, working towards a purpose, or tend to approach most, or all, of what they do, with purpose, intention & focus A good statement for purpose is 'I will achieve', 'I will do' or 'I will create'; this presupposes that you will have to work towards it |
Desirous To be desirous however, is to be purposeful with the intention of a specific aim or desire that you want to achieve Here, the statement becomes 'I want to have', and the problem is that the purpose is directed only towards the desire & cannot be applied to any other part of life |
Receiving When you receive something, you willingly accept something that is willingly given to you When you have a receiving nature, you are welcoming & warm, inviting people to enter your space by free will choice |
Grasping Grasping is holding onto something, usually that is being taken away from me, that you've lost, or that you no longer have right of access to Someone with a grasping nature can otherwise be described as clingy, or possessive, making you feel emotionally uncomfortable about being out of their line of sight |
Releasing Releasing speaks to your ability to 'surrender to' or 'let go of' Somebody who expresses an attitude of releasing, is able to go with the flow, move past & forgive situations |
Tenacious Tenacity speaks to the ability to hold on when things are not going as expected or wanted Tenacious people are known for hanging in there well beyond the point when most people would have given up; 'like a dog with a bone' |
Reliant To be reliant on something, is to be dependent on it, but only to a degree A business that is reliant on a client's business will experience a setback if they lose that client, but will be able to bounce back from it |
Dependent To be dependent on something is to be entirely reliant on it When is a business is dependent on a client, their entire income comes from that client, and the business will likely fold without that business flow continuing |
Requesting Requesting is to ask ask someone to give you something, or access to something, by their free will choice |
Demanding Conversely, to demand is to require a person to give you that right of access, usually against their free will choice |
Respectful To be respectful is to afford people the type of treatment that befits their station in life, or to 'show the respect due' to a person, place or situation A respectful person is someone who shows respect accordingly, and often treats everyone with decency, courtesy & equality, regardless of their station in life, or the respect naturally commanded by that station |
Demeaning To demean is to reduce, or make to feel inferior, or to show as inferior A demeaning comment may disparage someone, or break them down, or reduce their character in the eye's of others A demeaning task is one that reduces & humbles a person, e.g. having to take a menial job after bankruptcy would be considered demeaning, or below a person's station |
Responsible A responsible takes on the burden of being answerable for someone or something, or in general in their life In the case of 'everybody thought that somebody should do it, but nobody did it', the responsible person is the one who finally got up & got it done |
Guilty Where responsibility sees you take the onus & initiative, guilt sees you take the blame, and happens in retrospect; you only feel guilty after the fact, usually when you can't do anything about it |
Satisfied To be satisfied is to have had enough in order to slake a desire, thirst or similar If you eat until you are satisfied, then your hunger has abated, but you're not about to pop because you're so full |
Sated To be sated on the other hand, is to have had so much that you probably cannot take anymore, so that the desire in question is fulfilled to a point where it no longer exists As an example, if you eat until you are sated, you can't take another bite; you're saturated with food |
Selective When you are selective, you are choosy about who is allowed access to the person, situation, object or place, usually according to a set of criteria that must be met |
Exclusive Exclusivity on the other hand, is to leave out based on certain criteria; it's selectivity to the extreme, almost discrimination |
Serene Someone who is serene is calm & peaceful, able to hold their center of balance in most situations, and are not easily unsettled or upset |
Dull While still calm & grounded, dull people take it to the extreme, being so safe and still as to be boring |
Serving When you do something with a serving attitude, it is in service to someone, something or a purpose, hoping to propel that element forward in some way, and meeting its needs |
Ambitious Ambition, conversely, is pursuing the element for the sake of success, with success, and often fame, celebrity, wealth & popularity, the goal, and not the betterment of the aspect |
Sharing A sharing person gives freely of what they have, whether that is time, resources, energy, or more |
Hoarding When you hoard, you stockpile & store an unnecessary amount - way in excess of what you need or could possibly use on your own |
Significant When someone or something is significant, it is noteworthy in its level of importance When something makes a significant impression, for example, it means that you don't, or can't, forget it |
Important When something is important, it is noteworthy to a lesser degree, and if the two elements were contrasted, the significant item would eclipse the important one in worth or allure |
Sober To be sober is to be clear and level headed, free of influences that could cloud the thinking Negatively aspected, sober people are often considered to be dull & boring |
Intoxicated When you are intoxicated, your senses, clarity & thinking have been clouded by some external influence A great contemporary example are people who are considered 'drunk on love' or 'high on success' |
Spontaneous To be spontaneous is to embrace opportunities that arise, making calculated decisions to have adventures after weighing the risks |
Impulsive To be impulsive is to be spontaneous to an extreme degree, regularly taking risks, most often without considering the potential consequences |
Spiritual A spiritual person is one who places higher value on spiritual values, and on the subtle & intangible |
Materialistic A materialistic person, on the flipside, places a much higher value on things of the corporeal, or physical, world, valuing the tangible above the subtle |
Steadfast A steadfast person is a 'good man in a storm'; someone you can rely on & trust in pretty much any situation |
Faltering A faltering person, on the other hand, is someone whose character changes from situation to situation, someone who cannot be relied upon or trusted |
Striving When you strive towards something, you are diligently moving towards, putting your effort, time & resources into achieving your aim, always moving ever closer to it |
Struggling Struggling is battling to holding into something, on the other hand, fighting against losing control or grip on the item |
Surrendering To adopt an attitude of surrender is to 'go with the flow' & 'roll with the punches' that life delivers, accepting what is happening without resistance, anger or frustration |
Worrying Worrying |
Tender When someone is tender, they are soft, kind, warm & approachable usually, gentle in nature, handling situations & people softly & with a gentle touch |
Hard On the opposite end of the spectrum, to be hard is to be rough & run roughshod over people or items in the situation in question |
Thoughtful When someone is thoughtful they consider others & their interests, treating them with compassion, and catering to their perspectives Thoughtful people are often people who take the time to make each individual feel special & seen |
Pedantic A pedantic person varies by taking the attention to detail to an extreme degree, focusing on tiny details to the exclusion of seeing the big picture If thoughtful would be buying everyone a personalized gift; pedantic would be making sure those gifts cost the same, down to the cent |
Thrifty A thrifty person is someone who can make money & resources stretch, using them wisely, to live a good life, or have a good experience, without breaking the bank |
Cheap A cheap person is equally focused on the final cost of the item, but with them the cost will be the defining factor If a thrifty person will make their dollar stretch to include quality, a cheap person will zero in on the lowest price, ignoring all other factors; 'money talks' with a cheap attitude |
Timeless When someone or something is timeless, their energy & aura have an appeal that extends across the span of time The quality of intelligence is timeless, as it useful in every age - the act of knowing a lot about sports statistics is faddish, as the need for that knowledge will fall away in a few years from now |
Faddish Faddish concepts & ideas are those that are limited to a specific time in history, and have a natural expiry date, after which they are no longer relevant In a larger sense of history, spirituality is timeless, while alignment to a specific religion is faddish |
Tolerant When someone is tolerant, they are accepting, to a lesser or greater degree, of others & other ideas, even if it only to grudgingly accept their presence |
Prejudiced On the contrary, a prejudiced person has determined certain characteristics that they will not tolerate, or be around, and will not deviate from that mindset |
Tractable When someone is tractable, you generally get along with them easily, like them, enjoy being around them, and find them easy to work alongside or cooperate with |
Contrary A contrary person however, is someone that is difficult to work with - always causing problems, criticizing, unsettling people, creating drama, or creating situations that require everyone to put their focus & attention on them |
Trusting When you are trusting, you are open to the idea that the person you are with is worthy of trust, but you will pay attention to, and heed, warning or danger signs |
Gullible A gullible person, on the other hand, is someone who will not ignore obvious signs, but may not even know what kind of signs to look out for, as gullibility & naiveté are regular bedfellows |
Truthful When something is truthful, it presents an honest & accurate description of the person, item or situation, without embellishment or omission If the facts of the account were to be validated, they would be found to be in accordance with reality as the even unfolded |
False Falsehood differs in that it presents a partial or inaccurate account of the person, situation or item, usually with the aim of presenting it from a particular, and biased, perspective |
Unifying When someone has a unifying energy, they bring people & elements together, to work together as a functioning whole, as opposed to individuated parts, performing separate functions 'The whole is greater than the sum of its parts' is a great way to understand the benefits of unification |
Dividing When someone or something is divisive, they drive people & elements apart, causing them to operate in isolated silos, focused only on their area of focus |
Unselfish Someone who is unselfish is a person who will not withhold of what they have, sharing if necessary, or by free will choice, wanting to be charitable or generous |
Selfish A selfish person, on the other hand, is someone who will keep what they have strictly for themselves, not wanting to share what they have freely, even if others are in need, wanting to cater to their own current & future needs |
Valuing When you value someone or something, you place importance on it, offering it special favor or a place of honor The idea of value is aligned to the concept of cherishing, or taking special care of something, which extends to nurturing it in order to ensure its longevity |
Exploitative Conversely, an exploitative approach would see the element being used to the point of exhaustion, in order to attain (usually monetary) value from it An exploitative approach would see very little care placed to preserve the sustainability or well-being of the person or element being targeted |
Virtuous A virtuous person is one who conducts their life by a moral and ethical code The concept of chaste, or to not have sexual intention or a sexual nature, especially not to engage in premarital or extramarital sex, is often associated with being virtuous |
Celebrated A celebrated person on the other hand, is someone who is widely known & accepted by the people of the day, regardless of their morals, principles or ethical code |
Warm Someone who is warm is inviting, easy to be around, and usually pleasant & cheerful in their demeanor |
Feverish A feverish person, on the other hand, is too-excitable, energetic to a point of frenzy, and possibly even obsessive or manic in their approach |
Positive & Negative Aspects of the High & Low Energy Power Patterns
This list is a way to further unpack the power patterns, but is a little different, in that we show the positive and negative aspects of each power pattern by utilizing examples & analogy.
Every energy is neutral effectively, and it's up to you how you want or choose to express it.
To use an extreme example, three people encounter the energy of pedophilia - one goes on to hurt children, another becomes an children's advocate, and the third gets involved in rehabilitating offenders.
Same energy, expressed in three different ways, with three different results.
It was not the energy that was effectively good or bad therefore, it was the way that people chose to play it out that made it good or bad - the actions that they took that were driven by the energy were therefore either 'good' or 'bad'.
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Abundant Positive: an abundance of goodwill can open doors & pave the way for diplomatic solutions to difficult issues Negative: an abundance of feedback (read criticism) can leave people feeling downhearted |
Excessive Positive: excessive care is take with a quality control process, ensuring that every item produced meets the most strongest standards, as advertised Negative: excessive cleaning can lead to killing off healthy & unhealthy bacteria, leaving you more prone to illness instead of less |
Admitting Positive: admitting a wrongdoing & for forgiveness, or trying to make amends Negative: revealing a secret that you know will hurt someone by its revelation, or take away their free will |
Denying Positive: denying access to someone who has truly hurt you in the past, for example, a physically or sexually abusive partner Negative: denying your emotions, or warning signs that you see |
Aesthetic Positive: artfully applying make up in order to enhance & frame features Negative: deliberately manipulating the tone of a space in order to generate a desired emotional response, usually for financial gain, or to present a false front or mask |
Artsy Positive: over the top stimulation & chaos that promotes artistic & creative inspiration Negative: garish, almost clown-like make up that transforms people into cartoon or anime characters |
Agreeable Positive: a positive, warm & friendly person that people enjoy collaborating with Negative: a pushover who agrees with everyone they are with, coming across as hypocritical, two-faced or flaky, because they will take opposing stances in order to curry favor with the present company |
Condescending Positive: executed correctly, a condescending attitude can pull someone out of their own similarly arrogant stance Negative: condescension can break down confidence, worth & trust, not in only in the self, but among group members, establishing a hierarchy within a group, and/or creating division & factions |
Allowing Positive: to give permission to exercise freedom, within the boundaries of what is acceptable & appropriate Negative: giving too much freedom, and not applying the brakes when things get out of control |
Controlling Positive: to guide & direct, preventing potential risks & harm, and steering towards success Negative: to limit the movement, behavior, actions and/or words of someone or something, to a degree where permission is required for anything undertaken, often because the object of the control begins to doubt their every move |
Appreciative Positive: give appropriate thanks, in line with the size of the boon received Negative: to go overboard with thanks, making way too much of a big deal of the gift or aid provided, often making the giver feel uncomfortable, and/or hesitant to assist you again |
Envious Positive: to use the desire that is ignited in you to propel you forward to achieve that, or similar, for yourself Negative: going out of your way to damage someone else's property because don't want them to have it |
Approving Positive: offering support & validation that empowers people to further themselves or their cause Negative: allowing clearly unethical, illegal, and/or delinquent behavior because of special favor |
Critical Positive: pointing ought critical faults or errors that could make something a bad investment or decision Negative: breaking down someone's self esteem with repeated slander & slurs, until they lose hope or faith in their situation, abilities, or themselves in general |
Attractive Positive: appealing, exciting & inviting items, energies & people that add value to your life experience Negative: addictive behavior, such as drugs, gambling, sex & alcohol, that offers short-term thrills & rewards, but often does long-term damage |
Seductive Positive: taking time to utilize pleasurable sexual experience to strengthen & reinforce a romantic love bond Negative: teasing & alluring sexual behavior that is designed to distract from, or hide, something else, like the truth |
Authoritative Positive: able to make learned & experienced decisions, with the confidence to execute them Negative: dictatorial & autocratic behavior, under the guise that the 'man-in-charge' is always right; 'my way or the highway-style thinking |
Dogmatic Positive: loyally dedicated to a beneficial practice, such as spirituality, exercise or study, over a long term period Negative: stubbornly refusing to budge from a fixed set of beliefs, even if one or most of these can be shown to be errant |
Aware Positive: cognizant of your surroundings, while still able to focus easily & take in peripheral information Negative: overly alert, almost to the point of mania or paranoia; obsessive and/or unable to sit still |
Preoccupied Positive: completely focused on the task at hand, with nothing distracting you or diverting your attention Negative: distracted & not properly paying attention their immediate surroundings, which often results in silly mistakes & clumsy accidents |
Balanced Positive: having an appropriate amount of space, time, resources & energy for all areas of life Negative: refusing to allow the natural extremes that happen in life: experience is immersive, which means you experience one thing at a time, e.g. being in love, OR being out of love - you can't experience both at the same time Because of these extremes, you are 'immersed' in the one emotional experience at a time, and it is important let those extremes happen, because you can't understand doubt, or fear, or pain properly, unless you have lived through it yourself, and been completely immersed in that experience If you experienced faith or hope at the same time that you experienced doubt, then your experience of doubt would not be pure: the presence of the faith automatically cancels out at least a part of the doubt you would otherwise have experienced |
Extreme Positive: an extreme obsession with cleanliness is a positive characteristic for someone like a surgeon, while in a gardener, the same would be OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) behavior Negative: the obvious extreme to mention is addiction - a desire so strong, that you believe you have given up your right to be able to say no to the item, or choose against it Your obsession with the so-called addictive item is so extreme, that you have willingly given over your right to be able to choose against it, pre-deciding that you will ALWAYS want it when you encounter it, and will most likely not be able to stop yourself from partaking of it when & where it is made available to you - even if that means you have to go out & seek it |
Beautiful Positive: pleasing to look at, pleasurable to the senses, a joy to be around or experience; enhancing the natural features & making more visually pleasing Negative: artfully contrived glamor that masks or hides the true nature of the element; misrepresenting it to a larger or smaller degree |
Glamorous Positive: a formal ball to celebrate something of importance, or to raise funds for a worthy cause Negative: stylized & airbrushed photoshoots that create an unrealistic expectation of beauty standards, and also the sexual experience |
Being Positive: allowing & trusting the flow of life, and being patient with the process, giving it time to unfold Negative: sedation & inactivity to the point of laziness & achieving or completing nothing |
Having Positive: to accrue & gather the elements you need to live reasonably comfortably & have your basic needs taken care of Negative: to gather, store, buy & accrue more than what you need, in excess, to the point of wastefulness |
Believing Positive: having a firm set of convictions, principles & ethics by which you conduct yourself in all situations Negative: doggedly sticking to a perspective or point of view, or supporting a person, even when it can be shown to be errant, or untrustworthy |
Insisting Positive: a mom requiring her kids to do their homework, bath & eat dinner Negative: stubbornly holding onto a point of view that you try to convince everyone of, in order to feel that your choice is validated |
Brilliant Positive: an ingenious idea or approach that is so outstanding as a solution that is adopted by all interested parties, or becomes a standard or benchmark Negative: something or someone so bright that they eclipse other elements around them, for example someone with such good ideas that no one else gets a chance to shine, and whose leaving would damage the group irreparably because the group is dependent on their ideas to keep going |
Clever Positive: a smart idea whose application is an obvious solution to an existing problem or challenge Negative: someone who is able to manipulate parties in order to divert a situation into the direction they want it to go |
Candid Positive: telling the whole truth about a situation, including the relevant facts, but leaving out unnecessary detail, e.g. your husband cheated with this person, at these times; in this case the person has the relevant big picture facts to work with, with ENOUGH detail of what they need to know Negative: going into graphic descriptions of moments, events & experiences, giving intimate details that aren't usually shared, or that people don't want to hear, e.g. providing photos and recordings of the cheating partner in the throes of sexual activity, as opposed to photos that prove the infidelity, but are not over-the-top or painful to view; this is way too much detail |
Calculating Positive: the ability to be able to use shrewd decisions to make a positive difference for a group of people, or work within a tight budget, or with limited resources Negative: manipulating a group of people in order to defraud them |
Carefree Positive: not weighed down by worry or anxiety, even if stressors are present in life; able to to 'rise above' anxiety, and put negative inner voice monologue to rest Negative: not taking any responsibility & actively avoiding responsibility |
Frivolous Positive: having fun on a holiday or party day, being light-hearted, carefree & indulgent for a period of time Negative: spending your entire salary the day you get it, on an unnecessary shopping spree, and then having nothing to carry you through the month - and doing this repeatedly, month after month |
Challenged Positive: facing an obstacle that tests your skills & abilities, helping you to advance onto another level Negative: an inability to face any rough patch or down period, or lack of faith in internal abilities & skillsets, causing you to avoid facing anything in life |
Impeded Positive: delays that prevent a desired outcome that turns out to be the best thing over the long-term Negative: permanently stopped or stalled, without the ability to find a way to move forward |
Charitable Positive: understanding & having compassion for someone, and aiding them through a rough patch or set of difficult circumstances, offering varying levels of help Negative: 'Give a man a fish & you feed him for a day; teach him to fish & you feed him for a lifetime'... charity is negatively aspected when it makes people dependent on the help proffered, leaving them unable to care for themselves |
Prodigal Positive: spending freely as a luxury or indulgence, in an appropriate setting, like a vacation Negative: buying on credit when you don't have cash, to the point of having excessive credit bills every month, that interfere with monthly cash flow |
Cheerful Positive: a lighthearted person who injects joy & positive sentiment, offering hope & injecting brightness Negative: making jokes & being overly raucous in an inappropriate environment, like a funeral |
Manic Positive: using the frenzy of a highly energetic period to complete or achieve something quickly Negative: disrupting the normal course of everyone's lives with drama & unnecessary conflict & chaos |
Cherishing Positive: looking after something carefully, and holding it close, without being overly protective or possessive Negative: elevating something to level of addiction or need; feeling like you can't live without it; refusing to move on after a break up or death |
Prizing Positive: using a specific goal, usually something of value, to drive you towards an aim Negative: elevating someone or something above others, to the point of nepotism or discrimination, or obvious favor |
Choosing-to Positive: making a free will choice to participate in something, bringing your enthusiasm, optimism & excitement, as well as dedication & commitment Negative: having to choose between two options that you don't want, such as choosing who you can save between two people; regardless of the decision you make, you will feel guilt, doubt & regret |
Having-to Positive: being pushed in a direction, such as school or education, as a child, that you don't want to engage in, but benefits you long-term Negative: having no choice in a situation, such as a hostage, kidnap or sexual assault; having-to fight back in a fight that somebody else starts |
Civil Positive: allowing someone or a party access to a place or element, and offering them the same amenities & respect that all are afforded Negative: instituting a private (civil) legal suit in order to sort out a situation because you can't reconcile it yourselves |
Formal Positive: the formality of the work environment helps people keep their emotional reactions in check, and keeps them focused on the job at hand Negative: so rigid & regulated that people feel uncomfortable & don't want to be there |
Concerned Positive: offering guidance or advice without expectation of it being implemented; committing mental time & energy to something, with the view to solving it Negative: obsessive worrying & over-thinking, often when you have no ability to do anything about the situation, at least immediately |
Judgmental Positive: using discernment based on past experience in order to dodge a potentially risky situation Negative: overly critical & constantly expressing negative or disparaging sentiments |
Conciliatory Positive: willing to compromise & put in the effort in order to achieve harmony Negative: willing to go to any lengths to appease an offended party, even when their requests are unreasonable |
Inflexible Positive: unwilling to bend the rules because doing so would create danger or put people at risk Negative: unwilling to budge on a specific point that becomes make-or-break in a situation |
Confident Positive: self-assured & outgoing behavior, where the person is at ease in the situation Negative: being so sure of your answer that you don't listen to what someone else has to say |
Arrogant Positive: using a right of entitlement to force service delivery and not let a group get away with cheating people Negative: leaving people feeling like you're too good to be around them |
Confronting Positive: tackle a challenge or issue directly, by speaking tot he person involved or taking direct action Negative: approaching someone in a an aggressive & hostile manner, so as to strike up a conflict & create drama |
Harassing Positive: nagging, badgering & pestering someone to do something that is good for them, such as exercise, even when they have to be forced on a daily basis Negative: a stalker or ex that won't accept that a relationship is over & keeps trying to initiate contact |
Conscious Positive: aware and alert, able to recognize & take in the information in the surrounds Negative: unable to sleep, even when very tired, with the mind racing with excitement, ideas or thoughts |
Unaware Positive: not recognizing danger & able to maintain a positive forward momentum Negative: oblivious to the surroundings, innocent, naive & gullible |
Considerate Positive: aware of, sympathetic to, and catering to the needs, wants & comfort of others Negative: overly attentive, to the point of not sitting still, or making someone else uncomfortable with how much you fuss |
Indulgent Positive: taking time, and/or using resources to pamper or luxuriate, with the aim of rest & rejuvenation, or 'enjoying the fruits of your efforts' Negative: buying unnecessary luxury items that do not fit into your budget |
Constructive Positive: to methodically build up something up to a level of quality that is appropriate to the element Negative: constructing a building from inferior materials |
Destructive Positive: to break down a challenge or roadblock that enables you to move forward; to massively surpass a previous record: 'destroy' it Negative: to break down someone's personality until they become completely dependent, unsure of everything they do |
Contending Positive: participating in a competitive arena in order to benchmark your ability against others Negative: fighting or vying for a position against someone else, where only one can win |
Competing Positive: voluntarily testing your skill level against a group in order to establish a ranking or hierarchy system Negative: constantly trying to outdo or one-up someone else, with the intent of proving your self 'better' than them in general |
Courageous Positive: being brave enough to swallow your own fear to take on something that others refuse to do Negative: taking an unnecessary risk that leads to injury or death, because there isn't enough of a limiting sense of fear |
Reckless Positive: to not worry about limitations or rules in an appropriate setting, where not too much damage can be done, but to enjoy yourself with wild abandon within those constraints Negative: to take unnecessary risks because thrill-seeking has become one of the few ways you actually feel anything; 'adrenalin junkies' |
Defending Positive: to stand up for yourself when you are unfairly attacked, or to stand up for someone who cannot stand up for themselves Negative: to protect an excess of resources from a starving population, with the intent of securing your own comfort |
Attacking Positive: to pre-emptively strike when you know an attack is imminent, with the hope of impeding the future attack Negative: to constantly be vicious, aggressive & hostile towards someone whenever you encounter them; to start wars & pick fights |
Democratic Positive: when the element or decision is used for the benefit of the greater good, or greatest good Negative: 'majority rules' situations where people who are not armed with all the facts are making the decisions |
Dictatorial Positive: a parent making a blanket decision for a child that they are not equipped to make for themselves yet, like the choice to engage in sexual activity below a certain age Negative: strictly controlling the behaviors, actions & words of another to the point where they require approval for every move |
Detached Positive: interested, but not emotionally attached to the outcome, or trying to force it into a specific direction Negative: totally disinterested in what is happening, not engaging or participating |
Removed Positive: something or someone is kept temporarily or permanently away from an element it may be harmful to, and vice versa Negative: someone or something is withheld from something it wants or needs access to, such as water, or other survival resources |
Determined Positive: focused & dedicated to doing what needs to be done to achieve the aim in mind Negative: determined to stick with a specific path, even if it has been shown to errant or unwise |
Stubborn Positive: doggedly holding onto an idea that supports an important part of life, e.g. the idea that God exists is crucial to a spiritual path Negative: refusing to vacate a house when a hurricane is impending, or your life is otherwise in danger |
Devoted Positive: loyal to & protective over someone, caring for their well-being & making yourself available to them Negative: unable to accept the end of a relationship, or experiencing unrequited love, remaining focused on the object of their affection, even when that affection becomes unwelcome |
Possessive Positive: keeping a watchful eye over something precious, and guarding it carefully Negative: not letting something out of your sight, not letting anyone anywhere near it, and/or jumping into attack mode if somebody ventures too close by |
Diplomatic Positive: able to smooth over ruffled feathers & bring conflicted parties together again, unifying them for mutual benefit Negative: able to use their powers of persuasion to manipulate a situation or the people in it |
Deceptive Positive: telling a white lie in order not to offend or emotionally upset someone over something that there is no reason for them to know Negative: telling lies of varying degree in order to manipulate & bamboozle, usually |
Doing Positive: taking positive action that propels a person or situation forward Negative: keeping obsessively busy in order to avoid thinking about something; busy to stay distracted |
Getting Positive: obtaining what you need in order to sustain yourself & thrive, or be comfortable Negative: obtaining resources way in excess of what you need or purchasing beyond your available finances |
Educating Positive: enhancing someone's overall level of knowledge while fostering their ability to be able to think & apply that knowledge in a way that they choose to in the future Negative: offering a limited set of information that forms a fixed set of opinions, that are predetermined & purposefully striven towards, perpetually being reinforced by the content & curriculum that is chosen |
Persuading Positive: encouraging someone verbally to push their own boundaries, and/or take a risk that makes them uncomfortable, because the growth experience is in their best interests Negative: using your influence over someone to convince them that your point of view is superior, often to the point of disregarding other perspectives |
Egalitarian Positive: making sure that people are allowed equal right of access to a service or space, regardless of any discriminating facts; finding a win-win compromise that meets the needs of the parties, with a view to solving the challenge Negative: forcing a body to proportionally represent a population, selecting 50% female membership because that is the proportionate demographic split in the area, instead of allowing the most capable members to be selected from all who have equal access to vie for those spots |
Elitist Positive: limiting access to areas of study that would be dangerous if you have not reached a certain level, until you prove yourself worthy of having attained right of access, e.g. not allowing spiritual seekers to pursue certain knowledge until they have achieved a specified degree of ego mitigation; or only allowing you to pursue a certain area of study if you have certain subjects behind you, like mathematics for engineering Negative: limiting access to a service or space based on unchangeable characteristics, such as gender, race, religion, tradition, social class or other accident of birth |
Empathetic Positive: able to understand another's point of view, offering insight from their perspective Negative: pressing an issue on someone's behalf, or getting involved where you have no business, because the issue at stake hits home for you personally |
Pitying Positive: taking time to stop and help a person or animal because you can imagine what it would be like to be stuck in their situation, e.g. buying a meal for someone who is down on their luck Negative: constantly reinforcing negative habits of laziness and entitlement, using a single event, or series of events, as a reason to excuse someone's behavior - often long after the events should be behind the person, e.g. excusing drunken behavior a decade later because the person was cheated on once |
Encouraging Positive: letting someone know that you think they need to go out on a date, or on a diet, and that you will support them on the journey Negative: making a doctor's appointment or setting up a date for the person, and putting in the effort to get them there because they won't do it alone |
Promoting Positive: speaking to key trusted people about the choice of doctor, or looking for a date; creating awareness about your business services in order to earn a sustainable income Negative: approaching guys in the street and 'selling' the person you're setting up; claiming to be 'the best' or better than your competitors |
Energetic Positive: able to find the energy to apply and focus the self on tasks at hand, with vigor, clarity and focused mental application Negative: highly energized to the point of where it disrupts others in the environment, or is out of context, such as laughing at a funeral |
Agitated Positive: staying alert and on guard because the intuitive senses are picking up a danger; healthy fear that intends to protect Negative: highly restless and unfocused, unable to focus on anything with clarity |
Enlivening Positive: using a bright splash of color, such as painting a feature wall, to inject energy and excitement into a space Negative: overusing bright primary colors, e.g. in fast food restaurants, in order to overstimulate people to eat really quickly, in order to achieve higher sales and more quickly turnover 'bums in seats' |
Exhausting Positive: 'good tired', where you have done a hard and honest day of labor, that has tired you almost to collapsing, but enables you to sleep a well-deserved night of rest, earned by the labor you put in that day Negative: tiredness to the point of collapse, where you just can't go on anymore, and cannot find the reserves to extend yourself even a little bit further |
Envisioning Positive: creating a vision of a great gathering where everyone has fun and enjoys themselves Negative: fastidiously contriving every detail of the event or gathering in order to awe people and force a good time through awe-inspiring detail and experiences |
Picturing Positive: simplifying a concept by using a visual aid in order to make it more easily understandable Negative: making a detailed mock up or model that is so accurate, it is practically a scale replica of the original, leaving no room for creative evolution along the way: a great example is modern marketing strategies, that aim to schedule and plan every activity well in advance, not allowing room to evolve according the results yielded |
Equal Positive: offering equal rights of access, or a compromise befitting the needs of all the parties Negative: painstakingly ensuring that the exact measure is equally given to each party, regardless of their needs |
Superior Positive: acknowledgment of a level of knowledge, achievement, ability or skill in someone who is regarded as an expert Negative: behaving as if your needs are more important than those around you |
Erotic Positive: engaging in tantric sexual practice with a bonded partner Negative: utilizing spiritual sexual practices, such as tantra, purely to elicit physical pleasure with casual partners |
Lustful Positive: teasing and tantalizing your partner over an extended period of time in order to build up sexual anticipation, perhaps even engaging erotic literature, porn or other devices, to increase anticipation Negative: regularly using sexual stimuli such as porn, on a daily basis, purely for physical release, and to the exclusion of other sexual practices |
Essential Positive: an important part of a system, which aids or greatly enhances the efficacy of that system Negative: a part of a system or group that is so crucial that the group cannot operate if that element is removed |
Apparent Positive: easy to grasp and understand Negative: blatantly obvious and unavoidable |
Eternal Positive: timeless and of lasting quality, enduring in its appeal Negative: going on forever, without hope of end in sight |
Temporal Positive: nothing lasts forever; all things must come to an end Negative: not having enough time; feeling that time is limited, e.g. a death at a young age; 'only the good die young' |
Ethical Positive: applying wisdom and insight to a situation or challenge, and finding the best possible solution from within that framework Negative: rigidly sticking to a set of principles or rules, and stubbornly refusing to budge, or gauge the situation in context |
Equivocal Positive: willing to hear others out before coming to an opinion Negative: adjusting your opinion to match the opinion of whomever you're with, with the intent of currying favor |
Excellent Positive: made to a high standard of quality and showing expert craftsmanship Negative: made to meet required standards, or a benchmark of excellence, but not striving to be the best it is possible to be |
Adequate Positive: meets requirements of the situation, with a level of quality additionally Negative: meets the minimal requirements necessary, cutting corners whenever possible |
Experienced Positive: balanced exposure to an area or ability, with the ability to work towards a positive outcome and a healthy fear and understanding of potential risks Negative: extreme positivity or jaded negativity, born of an excess of success, which inhibits caution, or an excess of failure, which creates doubt and lack of self worth |
Cynical Positive: a cautious approach that prevents hasty and impulsive decisions before due diligence is exercised Negative: lack of faith, hope or optimism, paired with negative verbal sentiment, that kills ideas before they even making out of the starting gates |
Fair Positive: offering a balanced judgment or verdict based on the circumstances and needs of the parties concerned Negative: excessive focus on ensuring a perfectly equal 50/50 split, with over-attention to unnecessary details |
Scrupulous Positive: fine-toothed attention to detail; extreme moral uprightness characterized by a life that supports the perspective, e.g. walking your talk when you have a strong moral code and voice that to others Negative: micromanagement of every aspect and detail of an element, with a focus on detail that tends to eclipse the big picture, e.g. making sure your handwriting is perfect instead of investing time in researching content, because the lecturer or teacher penalizes even the slightest untidiness |
Fertile Positive: land that is rich in nutrients and produces healthy crop yields Negative: the fast growth experienced in breeding rodent populations, causing damage to food stock piles |
Luxuriant Positive: opulent and comfortable surroundings that engage and comfort the senses Negative: unnecessarily expensive products that are priced for the brand name they carry, or because they are associated to a certain celebrity |
Flexible Positive: the ability to do yoga comfortably and easily, stretching your body and keeping it in good working order; being able to go with the flow Negative: obsessively looking for something new to stimulate you; readily accepting any excuse given to you by a certain person |
Rigid Positive: sicking to your guns on certain issues, e.g. not spending more than you can afford on an entertainment experience Negative: refusing to allow an occasional splurge on something to spoil yourself |
Forgiving Positive: able to release the psychic pain and tension caused by a past event, and move forward into new experiences without the shadow of that former incident lingering over you Negative: repeatedly accepting abusive behavior from a spouse or partner, and not holding them accountable to change their behavior |
Resenting Positive: being driven into action because of a failure or experience of envy Negative: becoming mean and ill-tempered towards someone because of something they said or did, but not confronting them about the issue |
Free Positive: able to make choices that serve your free will desires, while still respecting the free will choices of others and the generally accepted norms of society Negative: forcing your free will choices onto others, even when doing so breaks the law, e.g. rape or indecent exposure |
Regulated Positive: made to conform to a minimum required level of quality in order to ensure health, e.g. food standards Negative: controlled to the point of where no organic growth takes place anymore; excessive bureaucracy and administrative red tape; overwhelming complexity; micro-management |
Generous Positive: willing to share freely of what they have, welcoming others to partake in the bounty, or what is available, regardless of how much is available Negative: giving and sharing freely to the point of running out of resources yourself |
Petty Positive: managing the books or accounts of an organization and fastidiously accounting for every cent Negative: being focused on small details that you easily get offended about; charging for every single small item, down to the chocolates on the bed; a good example would be businesses who go as far as monitoring the keystrokes of employees on their computers |
Gentle Positive: a soft and tender touch, or approach, or demeanor, appropriate to handling something delicate, such as a mother with a baby Negative: being so soft that you become a pushover, and find it impossible to say no |
Rough Positive: a hard and abrasive approach or demeanor, suitable to handling something crude, e.g. construction workers or garbage collection Negative: an abusive situation, spouse or family member, who uses alcohol to excess and then takes whatever actions they see fit, without considering the needs of, or ramifications for, others, often resulting in emotional, verbal, physical and sexual abuse actions |
Gifted Positive: skilled, talented and capable in an specific arena, or arenas, with the requisite experience to be able to make sound decisions Negative: seemingly supernatural ability within an arena where power of decision making is awarded beyond what is commensurate with the experience,e.g. someone who gets appointed to management very young because of a natural talent, but then lands up messing up because they lack hands on experience |
Lucky Positive: 'One-in-a-million chances happens nine times out of ten' - Sir Terry Pratchett; i.e. having exactly the right thing happen at the right moment in order for you to be saved, make a getaway, or somehow extricate yourself from a potentially threatening situation Negative: a propensity to having things play out in your favor that results in you inadequately preparing for anything in life; 'We had a statue in our dorm quad, and it was said that if you rubbed its nose before tests you'd have good luck. My roommate firmly believed in the power of the statue - she probably should have studied more and then she wouldn't have failed!' Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy |
Giving Positive: to share freely of what you have, no matter how little or much, being willing to extend your time and resources to those who need it Negative: blindly supporting the spending habits of a spouse, partner or child, without placing any limitations on them |
Taking Positive: willingly accepting something that is offered to you, e.g. graciously accepting a gift or donation Negative: forcibly removing something or someone from someone else, against their will, or when you have no right to the item, e.g. the police seized their assets; they were robbed last night |
Global Positive: taking a look at the bigger picture at play, and how it impacts all parties concerned, directly and peripherally Negative: building a worldwide distribution network that establishes you as a monopoly, destroying macro business opportunities |
Local Positive: within a close distance, close to home; impacting you directly Negative: limiting you to a confined area that you cannot grow beyond, like a supervisor who won't allow you to expand your role or abilities because they feel threatened by you |
Gracious Positive: welcoming and inviting people equally into a space, offering them the same regard and consideration, regardless of status Negative: making a show of welcoming a less privileged person into a space, being overly attentive and accommodating, to the point of discomfort |
Decorous Positive: decorating a space according to your personal style because you spend a lot of time in that space; decorating or dressing up for an event or occasion Negative: fastidious attention to a motif or style in order to 'fit in' or gain approval, e.g. dying your hair black because you're Emo or goth, even though black hair doesn't suit you at all |
Grateful Positive: buying someone a thank you present or card, or offering sincere words of thanks Negative: feeling obligated to jump whenever someone says you must, or feeling under their control, because they helped you once, or help you from time to time; this is the classic parent controlling the child with money situation - if the (usually adult) child steps out of line in any way, financial assistance is cut off or threatened, where overtly or subtly |
Indebted Positive: taking out a loan that you can comfortably afford, to buy a house, so that your future is more secured Negative: feeling obligated to someone for anything they ask for, because they did something for you once and use it to keep a hold over you |
Harmonious Positive: an easy going relaxed person, who fosters a similar mood for the people around them, allowing everyone to get along and have a great time, e.g. a really great event host Negative: someone who does not allow people to raise issues of contention, always brushing stuff under the rug, allowing it to fester until it explodes and cannot be contained anymore |
Disruptive Positive: upsetting the status quo, and forcing people out of their comfort zones, in order to stimulate and encourage growth in various areas Negative: destruction of property, possessions and ending relationships because of wild and reckless behavior, such as addiction, wild parties or gambling |
Healing Positive: an improvement in state that leads to the recovery of an element from damage Negative: soothing actions and behavior that do not allow someone to descend into an emotional or mental low period, when such is necessary for long-term health, e.g. not allowing someone to grieve or talk about a lost loved one |
Irritating Positive: away-from driven motivation that forces you to move away from an abrasive factor, such as isolating yourself when you need time to think about something, or jealousy spurring you onto achievement in some area Negative: chafing and tension on the physical, mental and emotional levels that makes you not want to be in an environment, or facing a situation, and/or can make you want to give up the will to fight |
Helpful Positive: offering aid and assistance aligned with the free will choices of the recipient, aiding them to follow their chosen path Negative: offering aid and assistance only if an end goal as decided by the giver are pursued; controlling the outcome of an event and using the aid to ensure that outcome, which is often not aligned to what the recipient has chosen of their free will, e.g. I'll pay for your wedding if you marry this person that I chose, or have you wedding where I decide and invite who I want to have there, but I'll disinherit you if you do it your way |
Meddling Positive: interfering in a situation when you can clearly see that someone is about to make a naive and obvious mistake out of ignorance, because you want what is in their best interests Negative: using your powers to interfere in order to push your own agenda, and control someone or something, e.g. using your influence over a family member's supervisor to force that person to have weekly drug tests because you no longer have control over their life through money and where they stay, when there has been no aberrant behavior to raise suspicion (sadly, this is just one of many real-life examples) |
Holistic Positive: taking a big picture view of a situation, exploring all the options, e.g. looking into mental and emotional aspects when tackling illness or weight loss Negative: refusing to ignore certain elements of a system, when the system can operate without that interference, e.g. consulting a medical doctor to get approval before pursuing a homeopathic treatment, and/or not being willing to pursue the treatment without that validation |
Analytic Positive: perusing something in detail in order identify an error or fault and rectify that element Negative: overly critical and focused on detail, to the extent that it eclipses the big picture, e.g. someone who zeroes in one statement you've made, coming back to that over and over again, preventing you from discussing the actual issue at play |
Honest Positive: sharing the honest facts of the situation, without bias, and offering a perspective from all major concerned parties Negative: telling someone 'the truth' about something because you know that hearing it will hurt them |
Legal Positive: protecting the rights of the naive and innocent so that they cannot be unfairly swindled by a 'bad guy' Negative: utilizing legal action, or the threat thereof, to strong arm a situation or try to control the outcome, often when you have an unfair advantage |
Honoring Positive: remembering, recalling, and reminiscing about a person or place, recognizing the role they played in the past, and/or play now Negative: favoring a person or persons above others, as a result of some form of discrimination, e.g. nepotism in the workplace; another example would be favoring a candidate because they belonged to the same sorority as you, especially when another candidate shows more suitable ability |
Enshrining Positive: putting something special into a special place of honor, so that it cannot be enjoyed by many, but is kept safe, e.g. a family tomb or burial plot Negative: favoring the preferred element or person to such a degree that you do not allow any disturbance of their possessions, even after they're gone, e.g. parents who keep a deceased child's bedroom intact years after the child's loss |
Humble Positive: remaining somewhat reserved and gracious in collaborative environments, even if your expertise is vastly superior to those you are engaging with Negative: not putting yourself forward, or sharing ideas or insight, because you doubt your abilities, likability and/or right to be present in the forum |
Diffident Positive: healthy doubt in your ability and/or need to learn more before you are classified as an 'expert', or have the 'right to make decisions'; knowing your place in the pecking order or hierarchy Negative: refusing to take on responsibility because you have no faith in your abilities, and doubt everything you do, regardless of how much validation you get; being permanently scared to 'mess up' |
Humorous Positive: inserting lightheartedness, jokes, laughter and fun into an appropriate environment, such as a social gathering Negative: making jokes as a means of avoiding dealing with a tense or awkward situation, or in inappropriate situations, such as at a funeral or other solemn occasion |
Sombre Positive: a serious demeanor befitting a situation, such as a state of grieving a loss; 'the president was sombre as he delivered the devastating news' Negative: bitterness, melancholy, and rigidity of nature in an environment not suited to it; the girl who spends the whole day at the funfair sulking because you won't go do what she wants to go do, or an Emo or goth type that refuses to don a costume to go to the beach, sitting in long black clothing all day |
Impartial Positive: willing to look at both sides of the story equally and give equal credence to them, without bias, in order to reach a just decision Negative: focused on being fair and being seen to be fair to the exclusion of giving the issue at hand the consideration it actually needs, e.g. insisting that both parties are punished because the rules said so, when one party's breaking of the rules saved the company a lot of money or embarrassment |
Righteous Positive: dedicated to living a morally upright and/or holy life, with a strict inner moral code that is always abided by Negative: believing that the way you choose to conduct your life is superior to the way others choose to live, and letting people know that you feel that way, often forcing your beliefs onto others, e.g. white supremacists |
Ingenious Positive: a solution so brilliant in its design that you wonder why no one thought of it before Negative: something that is extremely well suited to its purpose, to the point of being perfect, but is under patent and sold at a ridiculous premium, making it inaccessible in to those who may need access to it, e.g. brand name medicines and proprietary software |
Scheming Positive: working together collaboratively to bring about a change that will result in a greater good, e.g. freedom fighters or a resistance movement Negative: manipulating a person or situation in order to swindle, cheat, con or otherwise lie to them, potentially causing them financial, physical, mental, emotional damage |
Inspired Positive: being driven to achieve a greater purpose on a societal level, as a result of a personal experience, that brings about change that benefits many, e.g. Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela Negative: becoming focused on revenge as a result of a wrongdoing or perceived wrongdoing, and making the attainment of that revenge a priority that eclipses other areas of your life |
Mundane Positive: a sedate, calm, stable and drama-free existence, that 'chugs along nicely' Negative: boredom, feeling stuck and trapped by the banality of everyday existence |
Intentional Positive: undertaking activities and entering environments with purpose and focus, present and clear mentally, applying yourself to the task at hand, moving towards achieving a specific goal, or staying aligned with a defined set of principles, or a moral code Negative: staying focused on a goal or desire, and being unwilling to budge the goal posts, e.g. hanging onto lost or unrequited love and refusing to even entertain dating someone else or considering another relationship |
Calculating Positive: working out the steps, tasks and activities required to make a group or system run flawlessly as a whole, without interruptions caused by one element in that system breaking down or operating poorly, e.g. making sure that the bakery gets enough resources to keep producing, but not so much that they run out of space to store it all Negative: using the ability to manipulate and influence situations in order to drive them towards your desire end, even if that aim will mean that another will suffer damage or have their free will choice taken away from them |
Intuitive Positive: keen insight, able to deduce and glean important details, seemingly out of thin air; has proven the ability trustworthy Negative: not taking the time to research or investigate anything because of trusting their ability to 'figure stuff out' and 'just know what to do' |
Literal Positive: exactly as it played out, offering a comprehensive view of the facts so that a sound decision can be made Negative: misinterpretation of the words and meaning of what has been communicated because of a lack of understanding of the subtle nuances of vocabulary and how the terminology may be used, e.g. ecological in healing means 'in the person's best interests', while ecological in mainstream understanding means 'about the natural environment' |
Inventive Positive: able to look at the elements available and create a solution that meets needs but doesn't require a complex overhaul of an existing system Negative: a solution that, while effective, would cause too much disruption to day-to-day activities, and would require people to undergo extensive training |
Prosaic Positive: an easier everyday solution that will offer a temporary fix in order to give time to deal with other priorities first, and not cause too much disruption to day-to-day activities Negative: an event or experience that is boring and does not engage or require much imagination, e.g. hosting an informal barbecue for an event, as opposed to a more formal dinner party, which may be more suited to, say, an engagement or marriage celebration; a completely unoriginal idea |
Inviting Positive: someone who welcomes you warmly, in an appropriate manner for your relationship, and/or the situation, having you feel comfortable and like you want to be there Negative: having a friend's spouse offer unwanted sexual attention, offering a sexual tryst |
Urging Positive: supporting someone, verbally, mentally, emotionally and otherwise, to go for their dreams and goals, especially when they need a push to take the leap Negative: strongly encouraging someone to do something that they would not necessarily choose to do themselves or have to be forced into doing |
Involved Positive: being an active participant in a situation or group, freely giving of your time, knowledge and resources, in order to further the aims of the group as a whole Negative: inserting yourself into a situation that has nothing to do with you simply because it is good gossip, or you want to try and control the outcome, e.g. the parent who controls with money in order to be able to 'call the shots' in other areas, or the friend who always wants to listen but them goes on to tell everyone else; addicts |
Obsessed Positive: short-, medium- or long-term dedication to a goal or outcome, with passion and interest that allows you to commit to it on a regular basis, e.g. a weight loss and health plan, or learning to play an instrument Negative: refusing to give up a particular focus on an object or person, even when that attention is unwanted, and/or eclipses other areas of life, e.g. groupies who follow bands around or stalkers who 'fall in love' with celebrities |
Joyful Positive: happiness, elation and feelings of pleasure related to an experience or person or object, resulting in appropriate expressions of enjoyment Negative: always looking for a party or otherwise 'fun' experience, to the exclusion of other areas of life; always being the life and soul of the party, and making sure a party happens every night |
Pleasurable Positive: enjoyable and pleasing to the senses, like having a great meal or going for a massage in order to unwind and 'have some R&R' Negative: being obsessed with pleasure to the point of neglecting other areas of life, e.g. addictions such as drugs, porn and sex |
Just Positive: fair and unbiased, willing to look equally at everyone and everything concerned Negative: determined to stick to the letter of law, when a considered decision is actually called for, often because the letter of law may suit their (often unconscious) bias |
Punitive Positive: meting out just punishment, commensurate with the infraction, in order to act as a deterrent in future, both to the offender and others at large, 'making an example' Negative: unfair punishment meted out for unjust infractions, where the punisher has created rules that are designed to be failed, e.g. sadistic activity |
Kind Positive: gentle and approachable in nature, and inclined towards being easy to be around or deal with Negative: scared to offend or upset anyone, and inclined to give people their way so that they don't get upset, even if those actions make the giver uncomfortable |
Cruel Positive: tough love that forces someone to look at their life and take responsibility for their actions; 'being cruel to be kind' Negative: purposefully malicious and hurtful actions and words that are designed to make someone else feel inferior and experience shame and self doubt, as well as inadequacy |
Leading Positive: making the choice of direction for a group of persons who willingly choose to follow you and participate in the activities Negative: forcing a group to follow a direction they don't agree with because you have the power in the situation; having to step forward and direct and guide a group of followers as a result of someone else vacating a position, by death or otherwise, because you are the next in line, e.g. royalty and titles, or being the matriarch or patriarch of a family |
Coercing Positive: convincing someone to do something they don't necessarily want to do, when it really is in their best interests, e.g. helping a mom and her kids escape an abusive domestic situation Negative: convincing someone to do something they don't want to do because the results of the outcome will be in your own personal best interests, and may damage the person being coerced, e.g. helping someone lie to someone else, or catfishing |
Liberating Positive: freeing someone or something from an oppressive environment that inhibits their growth and development or causes them pain, e.g. freeing animals from a lab that tests on them Negative: stealing something from someone that you want and/or don't believe that they deserve to have, or delivering a piece of bad news that you know will end someone's relationship because it's what you want to have happen |
Restricting Positive: limiting actions, behaviors and activities that you may choose for before you know better, i.e. when you are too young, such as a drivers license age Negative: limiting behaviors in a way that limits growth to an unnecessary degree, inhibiting the development of required skills, e.g. parents that don't let kids date at all before the end of high school prevent the normal development of relationship skills that are necessary later on - this is where the good girl gets herself stupidly pregnant shortly after going off to college, because she is unused to the freedom and has not developed limits |
Long-term Positive: it takes 10,000 hours of exposure and experience in order to achieve mastery, and so long-term commitment allows you to really master what you focus on, from learning an instrument to karate and coding Negative: when a goal takes too long to achieve, you lose momentum and focus, and start to feel like you will never get there, reinforcing the idea that you are a failure |
Immediate Positive: if you've had an accident or major trauma, then you likely need instant action taken in order to save your life Negative: our societal focus on instant gratification has bred a population of impatient and entitled people who will 'flip out' because of any reasonable delay, believing that being forced to wait makes them less-important somehow |
Loyal Positive: to willingly offer your allegiance to someone, in general, or according to a specific set of criteria, such as fidelity in monogamous relationships, and having that positive sentiment stay in place, regardless of whether you can 'get away' with doing something behind their back or not, e.g. staying faithful even when you have an easy opportunity to cheat Negative: to remain allied to a person or cause, even when current circumstances prove that that element does not deserve your trust or support |
Chauvinistic Positive: the ideal of male chauvinism and superiority can produce very traditional personalities, where the male takes on sole responsibility for looking after the wife and family, and values the female role equally in its place Negative: the idea that this differentiation of roles somehow makes one side superior to the other inherently, classing the 'other side' as inferior or sub-par; e.g. male over female gives the right to abuse; white over black gives the right to murder someone |
Merciful Positive: to be understanding and hear the elements of the situation in context, offering a commensurate response to the challenge presented, with a tendency towards leniency Negative: blindly accepting anything done by a group or persons, based on nothing more than their word or a misguided sense of loyalty |
Permissive Positive: allowing freedoms and liberties corresponding to the level of maturity shown by the recipient, e.g. you are allowed to apply for driver's license at age 18, but must wait until you have passed it before you can actually drive on your own Negative: blindly allowing freedom to someone, regardless of their ability to handle such freedom, or exercise it carefully, e.g. you can automatically drink at age 18 without the need to prove that you will be a responsible drinker and/or make responsible choices |
Modest Positive: reserved and unassuming in approach, quietly confident with no need to show off or prove oneself to gain others' validation or approval Negative: playing down your abilities because you doubt them and don't want to take the risk of being called on because you're sure you'll mess up |
Haughty Positive: a somewhat visible degree of self confidence and trust in your own abilities, that people perceive as being something that makes you trustworthy in this instance; the confidence of a leader who knows what they are doing and is comfortable with taking the lead Negative: excessive pridefulness and superiority that becomes discriminatory towards anyone that does not met a strict set of criteria that 'make them worthy to be around'; snobbish behavior and acting superior towards others |
Natural Positive: of natural origin, in it's original, unaltered state, e.g. an organic apple Negative: seeming to maintain its natural state or form, while actually cleverly masked, e.g. 'apple juice' that is a mix of clarified grape and apple juice, and natural apple flavors, as opposed to being pressed juice from an apple; genetically modified (GMO) fruits, vegetables and other crops, which look like the originals but have been altered to be pesticides or herbicides and actually offer little to no nutritional value anymore |
Artificial Positive: the altered form of a processed product, often combined with other products and ingredients, to create something completely different, e.g. turning the apple into baby food by cooking it, processing it, and adding various spices and preservatives Negative: an engineered substitute that takes the place of something that should occur naturally, e.g. drinking energy drinks or capsules with vitamins as opposed to absorbing these from the food you eat, in the way they were meant to be absorbed |
Noble Positive: an upstanding and ethical person, who honors and respects the status and expectations of their status as a leader, even if that role has been thrust on them by birth, e.g. Queen Elizabeth's dedication to her role as queen and maintaining the visage of the royal family as moral, upstanding citizens to be admired and revered Negative: assigning importance to persons by nature of their accident of birth; so royalty can only marry royalty, because their bloodline must not mix with that of commoners |
Pompous Positive: someone who places importance on traditions, roles and protocol, helping preserve the knowledge of these practices through their fascination with the topic Negative: someone who believes that they, and select group, are superior to others somehow, and deserve preferential treatment, excluding others by discrimination based on a certain select group of factors, such as social class, financial wealth, race, or accident of birth |
Nurturing Positive: offering the support and resources needed to help a person or element grow at a steady and sustainable pace Negative: overextending support and resources offered, until the recipient becomes somewhat or entirely dependent on the giver for their every need |
Draining Positive: when you get a stomach flu or some kind of poisoning, your body will drain your entire system, purging the toxin through your bowels, bladder, etc; crying is an emotional drain that helps you release and relieve negative emotion and sentiment that has built up inside you and may be causing you pain to carry around Negative: a draining person can make you feel tired and exhausted for days after seeing them, no matter how excited or energized you felt when they walked in your door; it's almost like they suck the good energy out of you |
Observant Positive: aware of your surroundings, and able to take in overt and peripheral detail, while still able to relax and enjoy the moment Negative: overly alert and cautious, paying so much attention to perceived potential fears, that you forget to focus on the actual proceedings taking place in front of you |
Suspicious Positive: following up on something that caught your attention and made you concerned, in order to allay your fears or prevent a potential problem Negative: constantly being on the look out for strange behavior, or being overly untrusting of someone, particularly over the long term, e.g. a wife who has suspected a husband of cheating for years but has never been able to prove it, always treating situations with mistrust, fear and doubt, and being overly careful not to allow even the slightest opportunity where infidelity could potentially happen, such as ending a friendship because you suspect your husband MAY be attracted to the woman in question |
Open Positive: interested in and welcoming towards new ideas, people and places; confidently sharing the truth because there is nothing to hide Negative: constantly looking for the next new thing, unable to settle down and enjoy something twice; sharing too much information (TMI) or being OTT (over the top) |
Secretive Positive: keeping information hidden purposefully because you're planning a surprise party or a special treat for someone Negative: purposefully lying about or omitting information that you know would make someone view a person or situation differently, or may influence a decision in a direction opposite to where you you want it to go |
Optimistic Positive: expressing positive sentiment about a task , person, environment or venture, and expecting a favorable outcome, in line with the work that will be put into making it happen Negative: not planning or preparing and expecting everything to just fall into place without having to put in any effort |
Pessimistic Positive: a tendency to look for the downside in anything, can be put to good use when you want to identify potential risks and threats that could get in the way of your plans Negative: negative verbal sentiment that drags everyone else down and kills an idea before it evens has a chance to get off the ground, or be properly considered |
Orderly Positive: neatly presented, arranged and organized, making it pleasure to be in the space or work with the element Negative: overly fussy attention to detail, with someone who gets annoyed if even a single item is 'out of its place' |
Confused Positive: a messy and disorganized pile of stuff that has all been lumped together because it is about to be sorted out properly Negative: unable to make sense of, sort or organize; lacking clarity or the ability to think coherently, e.g. Alzheimers or dementia |
Outgoing Positive: confident and gregarious, able to engage other people, even when they are unknown elements; easily able to find common ground Negative: always active and busy, looking for the next thing to do, the next people to meet; unable to sit down and focus on enjoying the present (boring) moment |
Reserved Positive: purposefully withheld and restrained, choosing to observe and assess a situation before jumping into it Negative: withheld and restrained from fear of inadequacy, lack of self worth or doubt in one's abilities or right to be present in the space |
Patient Positive: willing to make a continual investment of time and resources, over an extended period, before seeing results Negative: waiting for something to happen, without taking any action to realize it: an old man repeatedly asks God to win the lottery, and to his surprise, one day he gets a verbal answer from God: 'Sure, you can win the lottery - but just do me a favor: BUY A TICKET PUH-LEESE!' |
Avid Positive: a keen and engaged participant, observer or supporter, whose interest continues over an extended period of time, allowing them to achieve mastery through their dedication and passion Negative: overt and excessive focus on a specific area of interest, to the exclusion of other areas, e.g. a new lover means that you don't see your friend for a few weeks or months |
Patriotic Positive: validated loyalty towards a tradition or culture, showing justifiable pride in the easily observable achievements of that group of people Negative: belief in the superiority of a nation, tradition or culture over another, because of an historical attitude, that has often been indoctrinated into the thinker, creating a false perspective |
Nationalistic Positive: the idea that the government and country work for the people, and are designed to create the greatest good so that the majority may benefit equally, and people have a stable and prosperous society to grow up in; in Mein Kampf, Adolf Hitler makes an interesting point when discussing the rougher, lower social class elements of society, saying that you cannot hold a man accountable for his thinking when he is a product of the society that he has been raised in. If you want to improve these people, you must improve the world they live in - you cannot judge them for being what they are when they had no say in being molded as that. What's interesting here is how the Internet has changed the game, making information much more freely accessible, even across borders and behind boundaries we could never previously reach. Can we still say that man is a product of his societal influences, or is he now responsible for his development because we have such easy access to information? Is the lack of intelligence we see nowadays a product of our upbringing, or is it a product of willful ignorance? Negative: the idea that the people are the product and resource of the state, and that this resource can be used and directed at the state's will, overriding the free will choices of the citizens concerned, e.g. the idea of conscription, or forced military service, means that young men and families have to be willing to give up lives and futures in order to protect the financial and political interests of the state, regardless of the personal cost of this burden, whether that is trauma (PTSD), disability or death |
Peaceful Positive: calm and serene in presence, with an energy or ability that enables that state to be extended to others around you Negative: disregarding, or not taking seriously, a warning because of a false sense of security, which means that you don't offer enough caution in what is actually a dangerous situation, e.g. taking time your time during a fire evacuation because you think it's a drill, when it actually turns out to be a real fire - and you stayed behind ten minutes longer to finish with that important call |
Belligerent Positive: refusing to accept an obviously unjust decision, and bullishly fighting for what you know is right, standing firm and not allowing yourself to be swayed, e.g. lobbying for the release of a political prisoner or prisoner of war that has been unjustly incarcerated; the pig headedness and determination are what will eventually get your cause noticed here Negative: refusing to budge even when you are clearly in the wrong or have no right to take the stand that you are taking, e.g. the teenager who sulks because they had to come home by curfew, and gives you the cold shoulder for two weeks |
Polite Positive: offering genuine warmth and welcome to someone, whether guest or known entity, even if that person's actions in the past do not warrant such a warm welcome - but locking away the silverware and precious items in the company of known thieves Negative: barely tolerating a person, and while not saying or doing anything obviously rude, being cold and distant, and obviously in a hurry to get it over with as quickly as possible |
Obsequious Positive: a dedicated butler at a five star resort is chosen to wait on you hand and foot as part of the pleasurable luxury experience you have paid for on your vacation Negative: a partner who takes care of everything for the other, leaving them stranded in case of an emergency, and unable to fend for themselves |
Powerful Positive: able to exert influence to effect change, and knowingly where and when to apply that talent judiciously, for the greater good; respect that is earned and commanded, NOT demanded Negative: having the ability to exert influence and effect change, but only applying it for the benefit of the self, or to further your own interests |
Forceful Positive: using sheer willpower to open a door or effect a change that is in the best interests of the greater good Negative: using brute strength to overpower someone's free will, as in rape or abuse cases; managing through fear |
Praising Positive: offering positive verbal sentiment, and/or an assurance of ability or mastery, commensurate with the level of experience truly present Negative: perpetual compliments designed to curry favor, and/or force a bond; brown-nosing, where opportunities to compliment everything are sought actively |
Flattering Positive: suited to the person, making them appear in the best possible light, e.g. a flattering hair cut or dress style, that highlights their assets and downplays their weaknesses Negative: unfairly offering verbal praise, on a continuous basis, often when that praise isn't warranted, or the opinion is purely subjective; offering ongoing praise in order to falsely boost someone's confidence |
Principled Positive: standing by a a moral code or set of principles that has been defined by your own choices and experience Negative: adhering staunchly to a moral code or set of principles that is indoctrinated into you, without questioning if they ring true for you |
Expedient Positive: getting a time-sensitive task handled quickly and efficiently, as delays could cause critical problems in the system Negative: rushing through a task too quickly, and cutting corners, because time sensitivity trumps all else; feeling rushed |
Privileged Positive: having access to a superior class of products, resources and services, by virtue of association, status or means Negative: assuming right of access to superior products, resources and environments, or superiority over others by default, as a result of accident of birth, or wealth |
Entitled Positive: knowing what you deserve right of access to, in relation to your human rights Negative: displaying destructive or aggressive behavior because an expectation of delivery of a certain standard of product, service or resource is not met, when no steps or action has been taken to deserve access to that element |
Prolific Positive: an abundance of great ideas, that have great application and offer real return on investment value Negative: an abundance of mundane, ordinary or prosaic ideas that offer no real value in terms of their implementation, even if they will be effective stop gaps for a while |
Barren Positive: acknowledging that land is barren, for example, allows the farmer to make a choice to to rest the land, and/or nurture it back to health; a barren period for a creative type is a signal that the mind needs rest, and that a holiday, or distance, must be taken in order to recuperate the creative flow of ideas Negative: unable to produce effectively, destroying the resources that are put into it, and past its sell-by date in terms of productive output |
Purposeful Positive: to act with decision, commitment and dedication, remaining fixed on a specific outcome or result, not allowing the self to be easily swayed or deterred, and willing to make a long-term investment of time and resources in order to yield results Negative: not willing to consider other avenues or outcomes because of a dogged focus on a specific outcome; inflexible and rigid in approach, unwilling to compromise and adjust according to needs |
Desirous Positive: allowing a desire that you believe you can achieve, to propel you to work towards it, becoming an end goal that keeps you constantly motivated and focused Negative: to be driven by desire, and the instant gratification of those urges, to the point of addiction and compulsion, being unable to resist partaking in the activity on a daily basis, or until funds run out |
Receiving Positive: accepting something that is offered by free will choice of the giver Negative: knowingly buying stolen goods, taken from people by force, or even under violent circumstances; taking aid or charity when you know you don;t need it, and doing so anyway in order to increase one's own share, i.e. for selfish reasons |
Grasping Positive: holding on tightly to something precious under precarious conditions, or under circumstances of danger Negative: refusing to let go of something that has reached a natural end or conclusion, like refusing to give a divorce to your estranged ex who you've been separated from for years |
Releasing Positive: voluntarily letting go of something that has run its natural course and come to a natural end or conclusion Negative: being forced to let go of someone, such as the separation of family members for extended periods of time, in armed forces' deployments |
Tenacious Positive: holding on because you have hope and believe that if you make it through this you will yield turnaround or positive results Negative: refusing to let go of someone or something, whether a grudge or relationship, well past a reasonable period of processing and closure |
Reliant Positive: feeling secure enough to trust someone with part of your survival needs, because they have proven themselves to be reliable and trustworthy Negative: being wholly dependent on someone who takes unnecessary risks with money; not being allowed to establish any independence of your own because this is perceived as a threat |
Dependent Positive: being reliant on a trustworthy caretaker as a child, one who has your best interests at heart Negative: being unable to perform basic functions of maintaining or caring for the self, as a result of someone else taking on too much responsibility |
Requesting Positive: asking politely for something to be done Negative: sending a legal letter of demand forcing someone to comply with something you want, against their will |
Demanding Positive: insisting that someone meet their obligations, such as issuing an order against the salary of a father who keeps skipping child support payments out of spite Negative: insisting someone does something that is unfair, and potentially illegal to demand of them, or that they would not agree to if they had their full faculties or were old enough to understand, e.g. pedophilia or drug induced date rape |
Respectful Positive: honoring and being aware of traditions, customs, ways of being and boundaries of others, with the intention of making them feel genuinely comfortable Negative: demanding an unnecessary level of knowledge of a wide range of particular customs, and requiring that all are honored, e.g. South Africa has 12 official languages, which would make for very big street signs and very long forms, if each and every language had to be honored and given equal place; instead, the default language has evolved to be English, which is a powerful native tongue to have when competing in a global market, strengthening the country's ability to participate on the international economic stage; eventually this common language will breed a common heritage from the many tribes and cultures that currently make up the country's population |
Demeaning Positive: offering a negative or disparaging view of something that was previously considered flawless, when such knowledge would influence and inform a decision, or where caution must be advised because people are viewing a skewed perspective of the whole truth, e.g. someone presents themselves as being impartial when they are actually secretly on biased and firmly established on one side of the fence, and have been for a while Negative: negative verbal sentiment and biased opinions or stories that are designed to negatively skew someone's favorable opinion away from someone or something else, and in another direction |
Responsible Positive: power = responsibility: when I acknowledge that I already created the reality that I am facing, it becomes apparent that I have the skills and ability to create a chosen reality through my words, actions and deeds. Therefore, I claim my power to create the new reality I now choose to replace this one that no longer serves me, according to the decisions I make from here on in Negative: accepting the burden of caring for responsibility that is not your own, as a result of someone else's mistakes or errant behavior, e.g. allowing an absentee father to get away with not paying child support and shouldering the burden yourself, while still trying to provide as if there were no difference to funds and resources available; trying to fill the role of both parents to cover for an absentee parent who does not make space for the child |
Guilty Positive: away-from motivation triggered by your own internal reactions to your own past behaviors, that inspires positive change, forgiveness, making amends and healing bonds Negative: responsible for performing a harmful action or deed that caused harm to another, taking away their free will choice, or robbing them of resources, and is potentially illegal to have perpetrated |
Satisfied Positive: you have had enough of something, or you feel a sense that you have enough in your life; you are content and at peace with what you have achieved and done Negative: having had so much of something that you have reached the point of saturation and don't even want to hear the name mentioned again |
Sated Positive: having had your fill of something and feeling no need to repeat the desire or experience, e.g. his desire for other women was sated when he met his wife, and he was sure that he could honestly commit to a monogamous bond Negative: literally saturated in something; where you have experienced so much of that element that you become blinded to it, e.g. photographers who are surrounded by beautiful women all the time |
Selective Positive: choosy over who should be admitted, with the aim of finding those truly suited to the vocation or experience, e.g. testing a spiritual initiate before allowing them access to certain information, or requiring students of certain fields to meet certain predetermined criteria, such as subject selection and marks achieved, in order to ensure the student can cope with the workload and is suited tot eh field of study Negative: basing the criteria of access on elements that are outside the applicant's control, such as social status, race, gender or disability |
Exclusive Positive: limiting access to an environment so that like-minded seekers can enjoy a niche dedicated to their area of interest, e.g. forming an online community for enthusiasts and not allowing those that are not really avid followers to participate Negative: purposefully not allowing someone access to something in order to make them feel inferior or illustrate your superiority over them, to them, yourself, or others |
Serene Positive: calm and stable presence or nature, not easily upset or unsettled, able to stay calm regardless of changing circumstances, and thus reliable Negative: not displaying emotional attachment in any way; being distant, cold and aloof in circumstances where you would expect a vastly different response |
Dull Positive: sedate and toned down environment, with boring, quiet people, perfect for rest and recuperation after illness or injury Negative: a boring and uninspiring person or situation, that is easily forgotten the moment it's over, and is potentially a relief to have behind you |
Serving Positive: acts, deeds and activities undertaken in order to make more comfortable, lighten the load of, or assist another, by way of thanks or hospitality Negative: being a slave to someone's every demand and whim in order to retain positive favor |
Ambitious Positive: using desire of achieving a certain degree of knowledge, wealth or recognition, as a forward motivating factor, to drive one towards achieving desires and goals Negative: putting work and financial rewards ahead of all other areas of life, to the detriment of those areas, such as health or family |
Sharing Positive: distributing resources to others when you have excess and others are experiencing lack Negative: not controlling the volume of resources used, so that reserves are quickly exhausted, and all now experience lack |
Hoarding Positive: careful distribution and allocation of resources in limited quantities, so that longevity and sustainability are maintained should the deficit continue for longer than the immediate term Negative: refusing to share, even though an excess of resources is available; allowing others to suffer or die in order to secure your own comfort |
Significant Positive: relevant to a system or process; exerting a notable influence that is largely positive and yields results in the interests of the greater good Negative: making up a majority portion of something, so that the removal of that element would cause the whole system to collapse, e.g. a long-term reliance on chronic medication |
Important Positive: a key motivating factor to extend oneself and achieve goals and desires Negative: unable to function or operate without the person or element; a distracting factor such as alcohol, drugs, or other addictive substances and activities, like porn addiction and gambling |
Sober Positive: not under the influence of alcohol or other narcotics or numbing substances, of clear and rational mind, able to make sound decisions and be trusted Negative: a serious and dour demeanor, often with a strict, rigid and inflexible approach to life, making them an uncomfortable person to be around |
Intoxicated Positive: 'high on life'; able to enjoy oneself and experience a positive upswing of emotion, as well as being emotionally free and light, as a result of a positive natural experience, such as a great meal, being relaxed, being on holiday, being in love or experiencing a dopamine surge from exercise and activity Negative: under the influence of drugs, alcohol or other substances or influences that cloud the thinking and decision making abilities, leading one to make reckless or impulsive decisions that would not otherwise ordinarily be considered |
Spontaneous Positive: a spontaneous decision would be deciding to elope after being engaged and living together for a while - it doesn't come as a surprise to anyone that you got married, but the decision to run off and commit the act may just happen suddenly; likewise starting a business of your own after talking about it for years - the action to actually start the business and set the wheels in motion is actually quite sudden, and made in the moment Negative: crashing into a vehicle that suddenly appeared in your path because the other driver was speeding is an example of a bad spontaneous event; it's sudden and seemingly outside of your control, not giving you enough time to choose a more appropriate or safer action |
Impulsive Positive: deciding to pop put to local roadhouse or diner for a family meal or milkshake, to satisfy a sweet tooth and spend some time together, is an impulsive decision with happy results; you may spend a bit of money, but you certainly won't break the bank Negative: meeting a stranger and marrying them within 48 hours, just a few days after ending a previous relationships is a reckless and impulsive decision that probably won't end well |
Spiritual Positive: seeing a greater and purpose for our lives, as well as a unifying energy that connects us all Negative: rigid and dogmatic adherence to a creed or belief system, without allowing for the value or importance of any others; believing the native religion to be superior to others |
Materialistic Positive: focus on acquiring the resources needed in order to secure survival, and a degree of comfort, without unnecessary excess Negative: excessive greed, hoarding and isolation of resources, designed to establish superiority over others, and secure the luxury of the self and future generations; placing higher credence or value on material wealth and possessions than values, ideas or people |
Steadfast Positive: stable, trustworthy and unfaltering; reliable and consistent Negative: stuck in their ways, rigid and inflexible, potentially dull and boring |
Faltering Positive: able to be swayed from a previously rigid standpoint, willing or open to be convinced because new information has come to light Negative: easily swayed according the circumstances, people or environment; fickle and hypocritical, or two-faced; untrustworthy |
Striving Positive: reaching for a working towards an aim, moving past challenges and roadblocks Negative: pushing oneself to greater feats than what one is capable of achieving; reaching beyond your capability, and so setting the self up for failure |
Struggling Positive: fighting to hold on to or protect something precious or cherished; engaging in physical aggression for the purpose of defense, of the self or others Negative: finding it really difficult to cope, carry on, or have hope for a better outcome or the future; in need of rest and respite because of exhaustion, overwork or fatigue; in the process of 'burning out', or 'burning the candle at both ends' |
Surrendering Positive: willingly relinquishing control over a situation, person or outcome, willing to let it go for the best possible outcome for all concerned Negative: giving up because all other options are exhausted, you have no fight left in you, or you have completely lost hope |
Worrying Positive: healthy fear that inspires you to get the things done that you need to get done, such as earn enough money to pay your bills at the end of the month so that you can keep a roof over your head Negative: obsessive over-thinking and anxiety about future or current events, focused entirely on what the problem is, instead of finding a constructive way to deal with it, e.g. worrying that your boss will find out about a mistake instead of admitting to it and facing the consequences |
Tender Positive: a gentle and caring approach or demeanor, that offers nurturing, warmth and support, such as a care worker or nurse in a healing facility Negative: an overly sensitive spot on the body, or in the emotional range, such as a trigger word, that causes an unnecessary level of overdramatized pain when stimulated, or triggered |
Hard Positive: to stand firm and resolute with a decision or regulation, because of the known consequences of crossing that boundary; a no nonsense person that you do not cross or mess with, where respect has been earned Negative: a brutal approach that is designed to undermine and generate inadequacy in another, with the aim of making them feel inferior, or experience lack of self worth |
Thoughtful Positive: considerate of the needs of others, and cognizant of ensuring their comfort, e.g. a host that gifts a basket of bath products to each guest on arrival at a group event Negative: a passive aggressive approach, where someone knows what you like, and provides the exact opposite in order to irritate you, or push their own agenda in a subtle way |
Pedantic Positive: taking time to discover if there are any potential allergies to the bath products selected, or choosing popular scents that are frequently used, or options that are least likely to cause irritation Negative: to continue our example of the gift baskets, the pedantic person would make sure they found out each person's exact favorite scent for the bath products selected, visiting multiple stores to fill their exact list, which must see each basket contain exactly the same range of products and options, down to the style of basket used, in each appropriate color of course |
Thrifty Positive: the ability to be able to use money wisely, to make smart and logical decisions, knowing when to invest more for quality, and when to be price savvy Negative: only making use of second hand stores and hand me downs, and never willing to invest in quality items, even when quality would be more sustainable |
Cheap Positive: when budget concerns are a priority and survival is top of mind; the ability to be able to make a little bit go a long way; it may not be pretty, but it will get the job done - for now anyway Negative: prioritizing price over all other considerations, and always buying the cheapest option, regardless of other influencing factors, e.g. buying at the 80% off sale, just because the items were 80% off, especially when they are items you would never normally consider buying at full price |
Timeless Positive: elegant, refined and classic gems and attitudes that span across the ages, and have universal appeal, such as grace, mercy, compassion, forgiveness, wisdom Negative: material wealth such as gems and precious metals, that are highly valued for their monetary value, and are a risk throughout the ages, e.g. the sacking of graves, tombs, pyramids and other burial chambers |
Faddish Positive: fun and lighthearted gimmicks, such as songs like 'gangnam style', that excite the contemporary population for a brief period, uniting them in a common energy of having fun Negative: continually evolving high priced fashion that sees women spend way in excess of what is feasible, in order to keep up with the trends |
Tolerant Positive: willing to listen to and hear opposing opinions Negative: barely accepting the presence; only grudgingly putting up with in order to get the situation or obligation over with as quickly as possible |
Prejudiced Positive: having a favorable bias towards a specific element or group, as a result of positive personal experience, but still judging each individual case on its personal merits Negative: discriminating against a group, characteristic, or idea, based on the belief that that element is inferior to the comparable aspect within the self, e.g. you're black, and I'm white, so therefore I am better-mentality |
Tractable Positive: easy to collaborate and work with, a pleasure to run into or be paired off with Negative: easily swayed or convinced, coming across as unreliable, flaky, two-faced and hypocritical |
Contrary Positive: does not find it difficult to say no, or point or the risks or concerns; is not afraid (as much), to offend people by revealing the truth Negative: repeated negative sentiment can drain hope and enthusiasm, killing motivation and forward momentum, stopping a project in its tracks, and reducing the willingness of participants to contribute over the long term |
Trusting Positive: confidence in the authenticity and reliability of another who has proven themselves over a period of time, and in various circumstances Negative: offering blind trust to someone you barely know, and giving them access to personal details that could lead to them taking advantage of you, or stealing resources from you |
Gullible Positive: retaining an air of innocence and an easy going nature that makes them fun to joke and kid with; an almost childlike innocence despite the traumas and experiences that could have jaded them otherwise Negative: naivety that stems from ignorance due to being too closely shielded and guarded, or from a general lack of knowledge and know how |
Truthful Positive: revealing the honest facts about a situation or element, without omission or embellishment that could skew the perspective of the listener in a certain direction Negative: revealing facts to someone, that while truthful, are designed to cause the listener psychic (mental and emotional) pain and tension, with their revelation |
False Positive: the identification that an idea or theory does not apply to a certain element; a verbal and intellectual measure by which we can distinguish that something is not relevant to something, e.g. the pregnancy test was false because the woman was not pregnant; false is the word that enables us to express that concept Negative: negatively aspected, false means untruth, or lies; so the truth without all the facts (omission), or embellished in some way, added to and dramatized to skew the perspective of the listener to the speaker's stance |
Unifying Positive: the ability to bring together, unite and mold into a coherent process or team that can collaborate to work together as a seamless whole Negative: the merging of mentality, such as in cults, where free thinking and individual expression are discouraged, and members become blind followers, wielding a few key principles as facts, without taking the time to verify the authenticity of the of the 'truths' they are spreading |
Dividing Positive: ego separates larger pieces of soul into smaller individuated identities, that act with autonomy; a child separates from its parents at an appropriate age, going out to participate in the world and live a life of their design Negative: losing an organ or appendage; divorce that separates a family unit; creating a wedge between two people |
Unselfish Positive: gives freely and is willing to share of the resources that are available, generous and giving, within reason Negative: giving too much of the self and ones own resources, leaving no time, space, energy or resources to take care of your own needs, or burning out |
Selfish Positive: setting boundaries that help you maintain balance and sanity; making space for pursuits and activities that fill your tanks, invigorating you Negative: refusing to share with others, greedily withholding resources, time and energy, especially when you have excess |
Valuing Positive: treating as precious and cherished, and offering protection commensurate with how highly the item is valued Negative: cherishing purely for financial or monetary worth, or for the perceived status the object carries |
Exploitative Positive: exploiting a weakness to bring an enemy down for the greater good Negative: to purposefully manipulate someone in order to swindle, cheat or otherwise con or defraud them |
Virtuous Positive: living by strict moral and ethical code, often inspired by a religious or spiritual conviction, and including a vow of chastity and celibacy Negative: believing one's actions, deeds, ideals and principles are superior by default, and acting superior to others, particularly those who disagree; faked sexual chastity in order to entrap a man, i.e. 'withholding sex' |
Celebrated Positive: highly renowned because of an expertise of level of mastery in a field or arena Negative: infamous characters who are revered for the excitement and drama in their lives, rather than for an area of achievement that would justify the level of public recognition they have achieved |
Warm Positive: to be gentle and approachable, welcoming and gregarious, with an energy that invites people in and makes them feel comfortable to be around you Negative: experiencing an uncomfortable surge in (physical, mental or emotional) temperature that unsettles the system |
Feverish Positive: excited and in overdrive to achieve a passion or goal; a peak build up anticipation, surging right before the expected moment of release Negative: running an uncomfortably high (physical, mental or emotional) temperature, that runs the risk of doing damage to the system it is so extreme, e.g. extreme anger that results in a violent act |
Your Understanding of the High & Low Energy Power Patterns
This final list allows you to clarify the power patterns for yourself, by writing your own definition for each power pattern.
The answers will not save anywhere - the point is just for you to clarify where your understanding is by writing out a definition
Every time you share an idea, you clarify it in your mind simply by the act of putting it into words. This tool allows you to boost your growth by writing out those definitions from time to time.
You really do not need to save the list of words you've defined - the benefit of exercise lies in actually just getting the words down.
Every time you come back & do this again, your understanding will improve, and your definitions will be slightly different. So there's no point in keeping the list - by the time you've written the definition you've already started moving past it.
To keep or store a list this, and especially to go back & reread it, would only cause you to stall or slow down.
In a nutshell, it was a choice to not allow the list to be saved. It's better for your development.
There are no right or wrong answers, and you don't have to stick to a specific format. This is about what you understand about each power pattern, based on where you currently are in your development.
You can, and should, expect your understandings to change & grow over time, developing subtle nuances each time you clarify the pattern.
HIGH | LOW |
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Abundant Click & type here |
Excessive Click & type here |
Admitting Click & type here |
Denying Click & type here |
Aesthetic Click & type here |
Artsy Click & type here |
Agreeable Click & type here |
Condescending Click & type here |
Allowing Click & type here |
Controlling Click & type here |
Appreciative Click & type here |
Envious Click & type here |
Approving Click & type here |
Critical Click & type here |
Attractive Click & type here |
Seductive Click & type here |
Authoritative Click & type here |
Dogmatic Click & type here |
Aware Click & type here |
Preoccupied Click & type here |
Balanced Click & type here |
Extreme Click & type here |
Beautiful Click & type here |
Glamorous Click & type here |
Being Click & type here |
Having Click & type here |
Believing Click & type here |
Insisting Click & type here |
Brilliant Click & type here |
Clever Click & type here |
Candid Click & type here |
Calculating Click & type here |
Carefree Click & type here |
Frivolous Click & type here |
Challenged Click & type here |
Impeded Click & type here |
Charitable Click & type here |
Prodigal Click & type here |
Cheerful Click & type here |
Manic Click & type here |
Cherishing Click & type here |
Prizing Click & type here |
Choosing-to Click & type here |
Having-to Click & type here |
Civil Click & type here |
Formal Click & type here |
Concerned Click & type here |
Judgmental Click & type here |
Conciliatory Click & type here |
Inflexible Click & type here |
Confident Click & type here |
Arrogant Click & type here |
Confronting Click & type here |
Harassing Click & type here |
Conscious Click & type here |
Unaware Click & type here |
Considerate Click & type here |
Indulgent Click & type here |
Constructive Click & type here |
Destructive Click & type here |
Contending Click & type here |
Competing Click & type here |
Courageous Click & type here |
Reckless Click & type here |
Defending Click & type here |
Attacking Click & type here |
Democratic Click & type here |
Dictatorial Click & type here |
Detached Click & type here |
Removed Click & type here |
Determined Click & type here |
Stubborn Click & type here |
Devoted Click & type here |
Possessive Click & type here |
Diplomatic Click & type here |
Deceptive Click & type here |
Doing Click & type here |
Getting Click & type here |
Educating Click & type here |
Persuading Click & type here |
Egalitarian Click & type here |
Elitist Click & type here |
Empathetic Click & type here |
Pitying Click & type here |
Encouraging Click & type here |
Promoting Click & type here |
Energetic Click & type here |
Agitated Click & type here |
Enlivening Click & type here |
Exhausting Click & type here |
Envisioning Click & type here |
Picturing Click & type here |
Equal Click & type here |
Superior Click & type here |
Erotic Click & type here |
Lustful Click & type here |
Essential Click & type here |
Apparent Click & type here |
Eternal Click & type here |
Temporal Click & type here |
Ethical Click & type here |
Equivocal Click & type here |
Excellent Click & type here |
Adequate Click & type here |
Experienced Click & type here |
Cynical Click & type here |
Fair Click & type here |
Scrupulous Click & type here |
Fertile Click & type here |
Luxuriant Click & type here |
Flexible Click & type here |
Rigid Click & type here |
Forgiving Click & type here |
Resenting Click & type here |
Free Click & type here |
Regulated Click & type here |
Generous Click & type here |
Petty Click & type here |
Gentle Click & type here |
Rough Click & type here |
Gifted Click & type here |
Lucky Click & type here |
Giving Click & type here |
Taking Click & type here |
Global Click & type here |
Local Click & type here |
Gracious Click & type here |
Decorous Click & type here |
Grateful Click & type here |
Indebted Click & type here |
Harmonious Click & type here |
Disruptive Click & type here |
Healing Click & type here |
Irritating Click & type here |
Helpful Click & type here |
Meddling Click & type here |
Holistic Click & type here |
Analytic Click & type here |
Honest Click & type here |
Legal Click & type here |
Honoring Click & type here |
Enshrining Click & type here |
Humble Click & type here |
Diffident Click & type here |
Humorous Click & type here |
Sombre Click & type here |
Impartial Click & type here |
Righteous Click & type here |
Ingenious Click & type here |
Scheming Click & type here |
Inspired Click & type here |
Mundane Click & type here |
Intentional Click & type here |
Calculating Click & type here |
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