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Heart Chakra Healing Question Tool

💠 HEALING QUESTIONS FOR THE HEART CHAKRA 💠

Unpack & heal imbalances in your Heart Chakra.

  Heart Chakra Healing

A guided question tool,using a process of elimination, that you can use to heal your Heart Chakra imbalances.


Instructions for the Question Healing Tool.


The Question Healing Tool works kind of like a backwards form... but instead of picking which statements or concepts you agree with, you're going to dismiss the statements and concepts you disagree with.

Why do we do this process backwards like this?

We learn wisdom from failure much more than from success.
We often discover what will do, by finding out what will not do.
And probably... he who never made a mistake, never made a discovery.
Samuel Smiles (1812 - 1904)

The truth is that most people don't know how they feel, what they want, or where they stand on most issues.

BUT (big but!)... people DO know what they disagree with; in other words they know "what will not do".

For the most part, people are usually sure about what they don't like, what they don't want, and what they disagree with.

So, we've used this natural mental default to make this entire process easier for you.

Simply read through the statements listed below, one by one, and dismiss the statement if you disagree with it.

Let me say this carefully again... your task is to REMOVE the statements you disagree with - and ignore the statements that you don't disagree with. It's a process of elimination in other words.

Don't worry about how much you agree with the statement, or not; focus ONLY on removing the statements that you immediately disagree with.

At the end, what you're left with will be the balance of the statements, and this will be used to generate a crafted statement for you.



The questions will follow this format.

🗑 This is an example field. Click on the trashcan at the right of this block & watch me disappear.
🗑 This is another example field. Click on this wording & test the typing feature.
Any typing edits you make will be saved for you. This way, you are free to edit any of the statements to perfectly suit your individual situation.
🗑 Using conjunction words, like and, when & because, will you let you expand any statement, e.g. I am truly sorry I let you down and... or, I disappointed you because... or I let you down when...



Where in my life do I need to be more loving?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I need to be more loving when I am alone.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my partner.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my child.
🗑 I need to be more loving with children.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my friends.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my parents.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my siblings.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my grandparents.
🗑 I need to be more loving with family members.
🗑 I need to be more loving with colleagues.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my subordinates.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my superiors.
🗑 I need to be more loving with my boss.
🗑 I need to be more loving in bed.
🗑 I need to be more loving in the bedroom.
🗑 I need to be more loving at home.
🗑 I need to be more loving away from home.
🗑 I need to be more loving at someone else's house.
🗑 I need to be more loving at school.
🗑 I need to be more loving at work.
🗑 I need to be more loving while traveling.
🗑 I need to be more loving while driving.
🗑 I need to be more loving while commuting.
🗑 I need to be more loving while shopping.
🗑 I need to be more loving with acquaintances.
🗑 I need to be more loving in my community.
🗑 I need to be more loving with strangers.

Do I need to work on my self love?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I need to make time for myself.
🗑 I need to make time to do things that I enjoy.
🗑 I need to allocate money & resources to myself.
🗑 I need to find no-, or low-cost forms of self care.
🗑 I need to do something that I've been putting off - like studying.
🗑 I need to put my needs ahead of my family's needs occasionally.
🗑 I need to set clear boundaries - and enforce them.
🗑 I need to find a hobby.

Do I judge others for being loving or in love?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I see loving behaviour as weakness.
🗑 I see forgiveness as weakness.
🗑 The only way to be loving is to pander to people.
🗑 I won't accept being a doormat.
🗑 Nice people always get treated badly.
🗑 Nice guys always come in last.
🗑 The only way to get through to people is to be firm with them.
🗑 Public displays of affection make me uncomfortable.
🗑 Public displays of affection should be banned.
🗑 "You shouldn't eat in front of a starving person."
🗑 "Why don't they just get a room?"
🗑 People become one dimensional when they are in a relationship.
🗑 I lost a close friend or family member after they got involved with someone else.

Am I afraid that people will judge me when I express my love and passion?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 People won't understand what inspires me.
🗑 People will think I'm weird.
🗑 People will reject me.
🗑 People will see me as weak.
🗑 I'll be viewed as a doormat.
🗑 I'll be judged as a brown-noser.
🗑 I'll be treated badly.
🗑 I'll always have to put my needs aside.
🗑 I'll become a pushover.
🗑 I will lose credibility.
🗑 I will lose people's respect.
🗑 In truth, I am an ugly person inside.
🗑 I can't take the risk of expressing my true colors.
🗑 I'll make people uncomfortable.
🗑 It's rude to show off what you're good at.
🗑 People will get bored of me.
🗑 People find my passion boring.
🗑 I'll be seen as one-dimensional.

What doubts do I have about being lovable?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I've never even been likable.
🗑 I'm not relatable.
🗑 I've never been good with people.
🗑 People never seem to want me around.
🗑 People tolerate me being around.
🗑 I get invited to things out of obligation.
🗑 I've never felt accepted outside of family events.
🗑 I've never felt included by my family.
🗑 I feel like a red-headed stepchild.
🗑 I feel like my only purpose is an audience.
🗑 Nobody even notices if I am not there.
🗑 I've never had even a single friend.
🗑 I've never had a close friend.
🗑 I never forged a bond with anyone outside my family.
🗑 Nobody has ever returned my feelings of attraction.
🗑 I've never had a romantic relationship.
🗑 Every time Ive been in love, it has been unrequited.
🗑 I've never had a serious relationship.
🗑 I can't seem to connect to anyone.
🗑 Whenever I've connected to someone they've turned out to be an ugly person.
🗑 Whenever I've connected to someone, I've been rejected & hurt.

What do I fear about not being loved?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I will be excluded.
🗑 I will be forgotten.
🗑 I will be abandoned.
🗑 I will be rejected.
🗑 Not even the people who are meant to love me, can love me.
🗑 I an unwanted.
🗑 I will discover that I have always been unwanted.
🗑 I will be alone.
🗑 I will be lonely.
🗑 I will die alone.
🗑 No one cares what happens to me.
🗑 No one would notice if I died.
🗑 My existence means nothing.
🗑 I will never make a difference, or matter to anyone.

Is there an incident of abandonment or rejection in my past that needs to be reconciled?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 Someone neglected me.
🗑 Someone abandoned me.
🗑 Someone rejected me.
🗑 Someone spurned my advances.
🗑 Someone betrayed me.
🗑 Someone cheated me.
🗑 Someone cheated on me.
🗑 Someone defrauded me.
🗑 I neglected someone.
🗑 I abandoned someone.
🗑 I rejected someone.
🗑 I spurned someone's advances.
🗑 I betrayed someone.
🗑 I cheated someone.
🗑 I cheated on someone.
🗑 I defrauded someone.

Am I hanging onto lost passion?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 There is a desire I won't let go of.
🗑 There is a "want" I won't let go of.
🗑 There is something I treat as a "need," that really isn't a need.
🗑 I won't let go of a dream I have.
🗑 I'm hanging onto hope about something I should let go of.
🗑 I believe things will turn around, despite the fact that there are no indications for that.
🗑 I'm holding onto a lost cause.
🗑 I'm in a relationship I should have walked away from years ago.
🗑 I'm in a dead end job.
🗑 I'm in a job I hate.
🗑 I'm working for someone who belittles or abuses me.
🗑 I accept intolerable working conditions.
🗑 I'm constantly planning get-rich-quick-schemes.

Does it make me feel vulnerable to open myself to love?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 Everybody who has ever said they loved me, has hurt me.
🗑 I've never been able to trust anyone.
🗑 I've been defrauded or cheated when I let somebody get close.
🗑 People take advantage of me.
🗑 People think it's okay to lie to me.
🗑 I've always been betrayed by people who said they loved me.
🗑 Love is a lie.
🗑 Nobody is loyal.
🗑 There's nobody worth having a relationship with.
🗑 I will be rejected.
🗑 I will be abandoned.
🗑 I will be betrayed.
🗑 I will be cheated or cheated on.
🗑 I will be lied to.
🗑 I'll be hurt again.
🗑 I will be taken advantage of.
🗑 I will be defrauded.
🗑 I will be taken for a ride.
🗑 Nobody has genuinely good intentions.

What are my unmet expectations about relationships and love?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I thought my mother would love.
🗑 My mother should love me.
🗑 I thought my father would love me.
🗑 My father should love me.
🗑 I thought my family members would love me.
🗑 My family members should love me.
🗑 I thought my friends would love me.
🗑 My friends should love me.
🗑 There is someone destined for me to love.
🗑 There is someone destined to love me.
🗑 My partner has already been chosen for me.
🗑 A relationship is only successful if it lasts a lifetime.
🗑 I will love any children I have completely.
🗑 I will love my children immediately.
🗑 Love means I don't have to change anything about myself.
🗑 Love means accepting me exactly as I am.
🗑 Love means never criticizing.
🗑 Love means never having any complaints.
🗑 Love means liking everything about the person.
🗑 Love means never having angry words or a fight.
🗑 A fight means that there is not love.
🗑 Love is peaceful & accepting all the time.
🗑 Love should be unconditional.
🗑 Love means accepting whatever a person says or does.
🗑 It's okay to say whatever you want in a fight.
🗑 All's fair in love & war.
🗑 If people really love you, they'll forgive you.

Have I damaged or lost a relationship I am still holding onto from my past?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I won't accept someone has died.
🗑 Someone has gone missing & I don't know what happened to them.
🗑 I blame people in my past for what is happening to me now.
🗑 I blame incidents in my past for what is going in my life now.
🗑 I still blame my mother for everything.
🗑 I still blame my father for everything.
🗑 I blame my siblings for my unhappiness.
🗑 I blame a former lover for things that are happening to me.
🗑 I'm holding onto unrequited love.
🗑 I'm holding onto my ex.
🗑 I'm hanging onto a lover that rejected me.
🗑 I'm hanging onto someone who doesn't want me.
🗑 I'm trying to change myself to be what someone wants.
🗑 I'm only doing healing work to get someone to come back to me.
🗑 I'm chasing someone when I've made a commitment to someone else.
🗑 I'm chasing someone who is committed to someone else.

Do I live up to my own expectations of how loving I should be?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I am warm.
🗑 I am inviting.
🗑 I am tender.
🗑 I am affectionate.
🗑 I am caring.
🗑 I offer compassion.
🗑 I am welcoming.
🗑 I am hospitable.
🗑 I am tactful & diplomatic.
🗑 I am forgiving.
🗑 I am accepting of other's faults.
🗑 I am sympathetic to the plight of others.
🗑 I am open minded.
🗑 I am cold.
🗑 I am aloof.
🗑 I am distant.
🗑 I'm uncaring.
🗑 I am uncompassionate.
🗑 I maintain my distance.
🗑 I prefer to keep to myself.
🗑 I'm inconsiderate.
🗑 I'm unforgiving.
🗑 I'm demanding & exacting.
🗑 I am rigid & infelxible.
🗑 I am unyielding.
🗑 I am closed minded.

Do I feel loved and respected by those around me?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I feel loved & respected by my partner.
🗑 I feel loved & respected by my kids.
🗑 I feel loved & respected by my parents.
🗑 I feel loved & respected by my family.
🗑 I feel loved & respected by my friends.
🗑 I feel loved & respected by my acquaintances.
🗑 I feel loved & respected by my community.
🗑 I feel loved & respected by my colleagues.
🗑 I feel loved & respected by my boss.
🗑 I feel loved & respected in public.
🗑 I feel loved & respected as a public figure.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my partner.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my kids.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my parents.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my family.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my friends.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my acquaintances.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my community.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my colleagues.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected by my boss.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected in public.
🗑 I do not feel loved & respected as a public figure.

Is my environment loving or cold?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 My bedroom has a loving feel.
🗑 My home is warm & inviting.
🗑 I feel welcomed & valued in my workplace.
🗑 I feel included at school.
🗑 My family is welcoming & inviting.
🗑 My friends are inclusive &anp; understanding.
🗑 I feel comfortable & at ease in public.
🗑 I enjoy social situations.
🗑 My bedroom is codl & uninviting.
🗑 My home is dark & cold.
🗑 I feel unseen & worthless in my workplace.
🗑 I feel excluded at school.
🗑 My family is cold & distant.
🗑 My friends are exclusive &anp; judgemental.
🗑 I feel uncomfortable & uneasy in public.
🗑 I dislike social situations.

Have I fully committed myself to my relationships?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I'm constantly on the lookout for new friends.
🗑 I'm dating someone that is "good enough", while I look for someone else.
🗑 I'm keeping someone on a string, even though I know they'll never commit to me.
🗑 I am cheating on my parter.
🗑 I have chated on my partner in the past.
🗑 I'll happily cheat if someone better comes along.
🗑 I find it easy enough to lie to my partner.
🗑 I have ongoing emotional relationships with other people outside my relationship.
🗑 I know that what I do is considerred cheating in my partner's eyes.
🗑 I am comfortable cancelling plans at the last minute, if something better comes along.
🗑 I'm comfortable with disappointing a person who trusts me.
🗑 I'm comfortable breaking someone's trust.
🗑 I will pretend I like a person even when I don't, and let them confide in me.
🗑 It's okay to be disloyal to people. They'd do the same to you.
🗑 I'm constantly looking for a new job.
🗑 I always have 'one foot out of the door' at work.
🗑 I keep my best ideas for myself.
🗑 I've got my own business on the side.

Does love make me feel powerful?

Remember to impulsively delete the statements that do NOT apply.

🗑 I want people to notice me.
🗑 I want people to be attracted to me.
🗑 I want people to desire me.
🗑 I get a kick out of knowing that people find me hot.
🗑 I flirt to get what I want.
🗑 I actively encourage interest in me.
🗑 People are more likely to do business with me because they're attracted to me.
🗑 I'm willing to "sleep my way to the top".
🗑 The end justifies the means, so it's okay to do what I need to succeed.
🗑 I crave popularity.
🗑 It's important that people include me in social activity.
🗑 I'm active on social media.
🗑 I measure my self worth by what I see of others in social media.
🗑 I present the "best" version of my life on social media.
🗑 I lie to impress others.
🗑 I seek out fame.
🗑 I'm willing to do anything in the name of fame.
🗑 Being liked is more important that being respected.

 

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