Okay so you pushed the red button... and this is a real emergency!
You are your wit's end, and unless you get some sort of assistance things are just not looking good.
That's what this resource is here for.
Surely anger is not a healthy emotion, so why would we want to get angry?
If you go take a look at the Human Consciousness Scale, what you're going to notice is that guilt and humiliation, where we lie when we're suicidal and depressed, is right at the bottom of the scale, resonating between 20 and 30.
Anger, on the other hand, sits significantly higher - at 150 in fact.
So when you're at your wits end and really don't know what else to do, simply getting yourself as angry as possible will help lift your mood enormously, and can be the catalyst you need to shake you out of a funk.
Most importantly though...
When you're busy being furiously angry at someone else, you're not busy taking it out on yourself, and you're much less likely to harm yourself.
So let's get you... Fighting Angry!
Pick a Fight
Right up front you need to know with this that it's always easier to ask forgiveness than permission.
Chances are you may have to go say sorry later, but you can live with that. At least you'll be around to do it.
There's usually somebody around who you can get angry at, somebody you're currently angry with.
What to do?
- Sit in front of a mirror or imagine the person in front of you and begin to talk to them as if they were actually there. Don't be afraid to raise your voice or shout.
- If that feels too much, then start by writing down all the reasons you're angry with them and everything they have ever done wrong to you. Go into detail about why you're pissed off - as much detail as possible. Get really incensed about it.
- Another way to do this as a written exercise is to write a letter to the person.
- If you're brave enough, pick up the phone or drive to the person and face them in person. You'd be amazed at how good you can feel after you've vented in this way.
- You can also video yourself on a smartphone, saying what you want to say. A nice benefit of this method is that you can watch the video afterwards, which usually triggers more stuff for you to be angry about.
If the idea of aiming this at one person is too much for you, or you can't think of someone, then use the list of typical stressors below to remember annoying and frustrating events from your life that you can get angry about.
Typical Daily Life Stressors
- People who cut in line or in front of you
- Rude people
- People who don't listen to you
- Having to wait on hold
- People who abuse resources
- People who think they're above the rules
- Entitled people
- People who drink and drive or text and drive
- People who don't say please or thank you
- Backstabbers and hypocrites
Typical Work Life Stressors
- Colleagues who take credit for your work and ideas
- Technology problems
- Rude clients
- Being pressed for time
- Gossip and politics
- Favoritism and nepotism
What to do?
- Remember back to an incident in your past and really feel the anger and emotion you feel about that situation.
- Write down in detail everything you were and are angry about in regards a particular situation or person.
- Write down exactly what you would say to someone who has angered you in your past.
- Plan your revenge for an incident that you are angry about.