What do you do when you feel suicidal or if you are inclined towards feeling suicidal when things get too much?
With so much energy moving in the world right now, many people are going to be feeling stuff deeply on a personal level. That means for many people their emotions are all over the place - and they’re deep and intense emotions.
As we approach the festive season, a lot of people will also be feeling added financial pressure and loneliness because of the holidays.
When deep and intense emotions hit, often they hit quite suddenly, coming on over a short period of time, and when you’re at the bottom of that hole it’s very difficult to know where to turn or what to do next.
The following life coaching strategy is a way for you to prepare so that you aren't lost when it happens. The strategy will only help you as far as you implement it, and it is really important that you reach out for professional help if you need to. I have listed alternatives in energy healing that you can try if you want to forgo medication this time around.
There are also a number of free resources on the lifecoachestoolbox.com website to assist you with various life issues if you cannot afford professional assistance, or find it too difficult to reach out. The Mirrors of Relationship tool appears frequently on the website and it will bring you enormous emotional and mental relief if you apply the mirrors questions properly. Please follow and read all the interlinking media from the various pages, as there are more in depth explanations of the mirrors process, as well as an easy reference infographic that acts as a visual aid.
Ground, center and settle into your body. Maybe go stand outside on the grass barefoot or sit firmly on a rock. Now feel for the edges of your energy and say out loud three times: Just Me.
Because empath energy is designed to connect to energies around it, often those connections form without us knowing. The just me exercise is designed to shake off the other energies attached to you so that you are just feeling what you feel – and not what everyone in your geographic vicinity is carrying.
You can also feel where cords are and pull them off or shake the energies off. It really doesn’t matter what technique or words you use, the important point is setting out the intention that you want to shield yourself form other energies for while and just feel your own stuff.
Set a deadline
If you’re going through this now then chances are good that you’ve been through this before, so you know that it usually passes in 24 to 72 hours. Use this to your advantage.
The decision to commit suicide is usually very sudden and in-the-moment. Simply say to yourself: ‘If I still feel this way in 24 hours then I can go ahead. I just need to make it through the next 24 hours.’
If it makes you feel better, set an alarm on your mobile phone and note the time. Just give yourself a break from thinking about this for a while, knowing the date is already set. The pressure is off.
Most often by the time you get to the next morning, the impetus and strong urge to commit suicide has subsided. If it’s still there and ridiculously strong then it may be time to seek professional help.
The only way out is through
“One may not reach the dawn save by the path of the night.” - Kahlil Gibran
Sometimes with lessons the only way out is through. So if you have the mental fortitude and strength, go as deeply into the pain, anger, fear, guilt, humiliation, vulnerability and embarrassment that you are feeling as you can, and find out what is at the bottom of it.
Lessons of pain are hard – really hard – and often they are lessons of faith and deep understanding. Lessons on this level can look like “I can’t make a difference, nothing I do will ever matter in the world, I mean nothing.” Lessons like that are often very painful to bear.
On the upside though, there is often an incredible and instantaneous energetic release that happens, and it’s in those moments that you stand closest to the divine.
These lessons are often just us learning the extremes of bigger lessons, like the idea that you can never really make a huge difference is the lesson of impermanence and how the beauty of life lies in its impermanence.
Make a few lists
One of the feelings you most often encounter at the bottom of the suicide hole is that there is no one, you are completely alone and there is nobody you can reach out to. This one is actually easy to fix ☺
Make a few lists for yourself:
- The five people that call you the most often
- Your five closest, oldest or dearest friends
- Five people you have helped who owe you
- Five people who are always happy to hear from you
- Five family members you have a special bond with
As soon as you are in that in hole, take out the lists and call those people one after the other until you find one that has time for you right then and there.
The only reason you ever have to face anything alone is if you choose not to reach out. The people that love you really do want to be there for you – it’s your job to let them know when you need them.
Accept that it’s difficult to reach out
“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it - then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.” – M. Scott Peck
Reaching out when you are depressed and suicidal is one of the most difficult things you’ll ever do. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
It’s difficult and humiliating and vulnerable to be in such a place of weakness for most people, and that makes you forget that the people who love you want to be there for you and look after you.
Reaching out will be the single most difficult thing you can do from the bottom of that pit, but once you’ve done it a few times you’ll understand that simple company and a conversation can be enough to pull you out of what you feel. Every subsequent time you reach out it will be easier to do.
A caveat on reaching out
Your life is busy – and so are the lives of your family and friends.
When you reach out to someone when you’re in a tough space, they don’t always have the immediate time there and then to help you. That doesn’t mean they don’t want to help you, it just means they have a million things to do, are distracted, are busy and are human.
Getting offended because every person on the list didn’t respond exactly the way you expected is only going to make you feel worse and more unloved.
Have faith that the universe will make available the person and insight you need in that moment. Have respect that maybe the first few friends you called on are carrying their own stuff and don’t necessarily have the strength to carry you at that time.
Go to a coach or practitioner if you need professional help
With the wide community of coaches and energy healing practitioners that is around, medical intervention and medication are not your only options for help anymore.
A life coach can work with you ongoing, while BodyTalk can help support your system. A shaman can also work alongside you to release any negative energies or entities that are attached to you, as well work with you to reconfigure and realign your energy.
Soul retrieval can also be a very useful shamanic tool to help you overcome a repeated cycle of depression and suicide.