Why do twin flame relationships have to end and what good or helpful lesson could possibly come out of an experience so painful?
When you meet your twin flame and start a relationship with them, it really feels like that has to be the pinnacle of human experience. And then the relationship ends and your world absolutely falls apart.
When something this traumatic happens to you, it’s quite a normal response to start questioning your faith and the grand design and scheme of things. In fact, there are many stages in life where you think to yourself: what good or lesson could ever come out of an experience like this… and surely I’ve had enough pain in my life?
The universe tends to have a design though, and the lesson of twin flame separation is actually as powerful as a successful twin flame relationship – maybe even a little more so. Let’s start at the beginning though.
A Course in Miracles
For many of the spiritual people on the planet, we’ve always known that forgiveness is important in this lifetime. Few books go into the topic as extensively as A Course In Miracles (ACIM).
In a nutshell, what ACIM teaches is that forgiveness is the mechanism by which you release the ego’s hold on you, ego being the thought that we are separate from God. At the same time, you acknowledge that we are all one soul, and that lack of forgiveness held against one is lack of forgiveness held against all.
So basically, how it works is that you forgive those around you and yourself for the separations that cause you pain – separation from people, experiences, money, desires, dreams, hopes. The Course teaches that the only reason these separations cause us pain is that they mimic the original pain of the thought that we are separate from God.
As we forgive each person around us, and we forgive ourselves, we come ever closer to forgiving ourselves for the original thought that we are separate from God, which is known as ego. Ego is the sense of individuation or the awareness of the self, as well as the need to hang on to it.
Your twin flame is you
Your twin flame is a part of your own soul, and while coming together and reconciling the dualities within your relationship or yourself is important, the lesson in leaving your twin flame is the lesson of leaving the self (ego) behind.
Twin flame relationships are ultimately about loving and accepting yourself completely, because the dualities and complements your partner will express will be the things you see as the bad sides of you in many cases. In order to reconcile that and make your relationship work, you have to accept and love those bad parts of yourself.
When the relationship ends however, what you are experiencing is the loss of yourself, and it often feels like a loss of your identity, because that’s exactly what it is: the twin flame separation lesson gives you the chance to energetically experience and release the ego or self identity that you have been holding onto.
A Higher Spiritual Calling
If you think about it, the fact that this mechanism exists makes perfect sense.
Many of the lightworkers currently on the planet needed to live lives that would ensure they stayed free of material and worldly temptations, and not fall into the trap of ego.
Now, as the shift intensifies and the new order starts to show itself, we need leaders who have mitigated ego, who have overcome the need to hold onto the self and put their individual needs first.
In a way, facing your twin flame separation can therefore be considered a calling of the highest order.
It Doesn’t Have to be Permanent
This is the really good news. Your twin flame separation does not have to permanent.
What you need here is the lesson – you need to accept and surrender and just let go. Accept that it is over and let that settle into your system.
If you’ve experienced the loss and pain deeply already, then there is a global energy moving and I’m seeing a lot of twin flame relationships have major speed bumps, break up or reconcile.
Remember that twin flame energy is a global energy as well, so it is subject to what is happening among all the twin flames and not just your personal stuff.
So if you are one of the twin flames that split up in the last two to six months, and you are feeling a strong urge to contact your partner and see if there is an option for reconciliation, please do it.
I know I took the risk and am really grateful and relieved to say that even my twin flame relationship is back together, more committed than ever before and on the mend. There is reconciliation and forgiveness in the air – the energy exists to save some of the twin flame relationships.
If you’re feeling the pull, then this is the message from the universe telling you yes, reach out to your estranged twin flame. There is hope that this can be resolved.
Love & light