
Equal To Someone Else
💠 DIGITAL TOOLS & GUIDED COACHING PROCESS 💠
Use the tools on this page when you are battling to achieve a forgiveness release.
When you are equal to someone, you see both their good and bad characteristics - so a more balanced view.
It's hard to forgive someone you love totally, because you're scared you'll lose them.
It's hard to forgive someone you hate, because they don't deserve it.
But when you're equal to someone, you see a balanced view that allows for all sorts of possibility.
Equal To Someone Else
When you are battling to find forgiveness for someone, or for yourself, it's usually because you do not feel equal to them.
On some level, you feel inferior or superior to this person or theme, and bitterness or judgement are getting in the way of your ability to let this go.
Below you'll find two sections of tools. The first section is a range of digital tools that take you through a four-step process that unpacks the theme of hierarchy: superiority & inferiority.
To use the digital tools, just move through each section below, upload your pictures, and then follow the instructions in the little cards that are with the tool.
The first three steps will help you understand the concept of hierarchy, superiority & inferiority, while the last is a process that you can use to equal to the other person.
The second section you'll find is a real-life, good old-fashioned coaching exercise that will help you move through the process of equalling to someone.
You can use this tool on your own, or with someone else - or even have your friend facilitate it for you.
Even if it is your first time doing anything like this, don't worry: you can't get it wrong.
You really cannot break energy - all you can ever do is move or change it. And what you shift will always be what you most need to release at that time.
The tools on this page use a feature that isn't fantastic on mobile devices.
In cases where you can't these tools to work properly, we've left them visible as a visual aid.
To use this tool and play with it properly, you'd best use a lap- or desktop to view this page.
Only One Person Can Be the Priority
With this tool, we're going to illustrate an uncomfortable truth about hierarchy: that only one person can be superior at a time.
So if one person takes priority, then the others will automatically fall into second place.
To begin this tool, upload a picture of yourself, and a picture of the person you're working with.
Both pictures will load into the little widget below, and you will be able to sort those pictures - swapping them around.
Click through the questions & content next to the widget, and follow the instructions you find.
The instructions will be underneath on mobile devices.
This tool is probably not going to be awesome on a mobile device.
I won't bore you with the technical details, but you'll want to head over to a desktop, or laptop, in order to use this tool.
If you're limited to working a mobile device, then upload the pictures anyway and use them tool as a visual aid. The upload function should still work perfectly.
In order to operate the sliding and dragging functions, some mobile devices will let you tap to move the item.
Hierarchy: Superiority Creates Inferiority
Using this tool, we'll spend some time illustrating how assigning superiority to someone automatically creates inferiority in another.
To use this tool, upload a picture of yourself and the antagonist we're working with, as well as two peripheral parties. By peripheral we mean NOT primary to the situation.
So for example, if you're working with your partner, then you may upload pics of the kids, mutual friends, or close family members.
Once you've uploaded all your pics, follow the prompts in the slider.
This tool is probably not going to be awesome on a mobile device.
I won't bore you with the technical details, but you'll want to head over to a desktop, or laptop, in order to use this tool.
If you're limited to working a mobile device, then upload the pictures anyway and use them tool as a visual aid. The upload function should still work perfectly.
In order to operate the sliding and dragging functions, some mobile devices will let you tap to move the item.
Hierarchy is the Default in Life
In this tool, we're going to illustrate how, when you make a decision to rectify the imbalance, the default of hierarchy settles back in when you go back to your normal life.
To use this tool, upload a picture of yourself & the other party, and then follow the prompts in the slider.

This tool is probably not going to be awesome on a mobile device.
I won't bore you with the technical details, but you'll want to head over to a desktop, or laptop, in order to use this tool.
If you're limited to working a mobile device, then upload the pictures anyway and use them tool as a visual aid. The upload function should still work perfectly.
In order to operate the sliding and dragging functions, some mobile devices will let you tap to move the item.
Equal To Another Person
Now that we've taken time to consider hierarchy, and how it can impact us, and influence the way we feel and what we think about the situation, we're going to do an exercise to help you equal-to the other party.
To begin, answer, or read over the questions below. Then, upload a photo of each of you as indicated.
Take a moment here to center yourself, and really bring your attention into the moment. If you'd like to, you can also ground yourself, open your chakras, call on your Guides or a Higher Power, or pray.
Now click the button to launch the healing statement, and either watch it load, or read it out loud as it loads.
To seal the exercise, click to light the forgiveness flame as indicated.
You can leave this page open on your device for a few days, so that you - "accidentally" - see it a few times over the next few days.
This is a brilliant way of reinforcing that the change is still happening, and will help you to overcome any resistance or blocks you may have to believing that this will work.
Equal-To Coaching Questions
Equal-To Healing Tool
🚴 Real Life Coaching Exercise to Equal To Another Person
The resources in this section can be used alone or with somebody else.
You can run through them in your head mentally, act them out completely, talk them out with somebody, or just answer the questions.
All we're doing is giving you options... the sky's the limit in terms of how you want to use them.
Equalling-To with Reality Shifting
Practical Coaching Exercise

Have someone proxy for the person this exercise is centered on, imagine they are there, or use a photograph of them, printed or on your phone or tablet.
1. Stand on a chair and look down on the other person for a while if needs be, and notice when it starts feeling uncomfortable for you.
If you need, you can stay in that position for a few minutes to let the discomfort really settle in.
2. Now reverse positions and have the other party stand on the chair, above you, looking down on you.
If you're working with a photo, hold it so that it's looking down on you, or better yet, have someone else hold it.
Notice when it makes you feel uncomfortable to be judged.
Stay in that position so that you get a feel for how uncomfortable it makes you feel to be judged.
Now have the person stand eye to eye with you, or look eye to eye with the photograph they are holding in front of their face.
State your relationship to the person and tell them you accept them as your equal.
You are my brother/father/sister/mother/lover/child/friend and I love you and accept you as my equal.
Have the person repeat the statement back to you, or imagine them saying it to you.
Equalling-To Coaching Questions
The option to type your answers to these questions out is included IN CASE you want to make notes, or if you're working alone. It's also always beneficial to read your answers in one go - and see the 'big' picture.
However you don't need to save these answers, or these kind of exercises.
Typing your answers out is simply a way for you to stay focused on the exercise, and verbalize your thoughts properly.
Once you've done the exercise properly, the answers will integrate, and you will not need to remember any of the detail - because you'll automatically operate from that level.
How does it make you feel to think of yourself as being better-than, or superior to, this person?
How does it make you feel to think of yourself as inadequate, or inferior, compared to this person?
Why do you think you're better than this person?
Why do you judge this person?
Why do you believe you're inferior to this person?
What do you think this person judges you for?
How do others see you as superior to this person?
How do others see you as inferior to this person?
How are you rewarded for being or acting superior to this person?
What's the payoff you receive for accepting a role of inferiority?
What needs to happen for you to see yourself as equal to this person?
What needs to happen in order for you to see this person as your equal?
How do you treat this person, or others, as if they are better than you?
How do you treat this person, or others, as if they are inferior to you?
How does this person treat you, or others, as inferior?
How does this person treat you as if you are better than them?
What needs to change in you in order for you to equal-to this person?
What do you need in order to feel equal-to this person?
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So, you might suddenly realize you want to go even further, and probably faster, or you've hit a major stumbling block that you need help clearing, or you are in shifting overload and experiencing physical, emotional and mental symptoms you need help with. That's what this section is for!
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