Forgiveness Healing Resources

When do you neeed to extend forgiveness or ask for an apology, and how do you decide what level of intensity of forgiveness practice to engage in?

The short answer to this question is, when it's a problem for you.

If something is bugging you and you find yourself thinking about it a lot, talking about a lot, putting a lot of energy into, if you find it constantly on repeat on your inner dialogue or in those conversations we all have with ourselves in the car, then it's probably time you took it out, dusted it off and dealt with it.

Feelings of guilt and remorse, or feeling the need to achieve repentance or atonement or make amends can be very draining experiences if you don't act on them.

They also tend you make you feel like a sub-standard human being, when the release of forgiveness is designed to mitigate that exactly.

That yeuchy feeling is just your ego getting in the way, because everytime you do something like this you chip away at your ego, killing it a little bit.

That's exactly what makes apologizing and asking forgiveness so difficult in the first place - our egos make us fear the shame and embarrassment, the vulnerability that goes hand in hand with putting yourself out there.

Luckily, because we're energy beings, it's really easy to act out on feelings like this - and the person does not always have to be involved in the actual process, meaning we can actually avoid the worst of the embarrassment in most cases.

Using the scale below as a guide, get a feel for what your conscience is telling you about what you feel.

The rule of thumb is, the worse you feel about this, the more it's holding you back, and the bigger the corrective action you need to take.

Simply look at each of the six categories - click on the word to expand the full question.

Now use the sliders to indicate how strongly each area is impacting you.

Once you're done, look at the range that most of the sliders fall into, to get an average level of forgiveness exercise you need to engage in.