What Are You Sacrificing?
💠 WHAT ARE YOU GIVING THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO LET GO OF? 💠
This set of tools will help you work through, and release, the future you had planned with this person.
What Are You Sacrificing?
The hardest part of any relationship to let go of, is the stuff that happens inside your head.
Even if the relationship is live in and fulltime, a vast majority of it still takes place inside your mind, between you and your inner voice.
You know those conversations you have with people in your head? That's it exactly.)
During these moments inside your mind, is where you hatch all your future plans, goals, dreams, desires, hopes & aspirations about this person.
You see this happening at high speed when people start talking about getting married after a first date - and often these dreams are disappointed.
This happens because we 'assign' these dreams and hopes to this person, and then are disappointed later on when the person fails to live up to them.
You don't really recognize it happening because it happens in the flurry and excitement of meeting a lover, starting a job or making a friend... the thoughts kind of all just get jumbled up together, and you assign your projected hopes as made promises, or the person's personality.
To put it more simply, because you're thinking the dreams at the same time that you are excited about the person, you jumble all the thoughts together.
Then, later on, the things you thought were promises, turn out to be what you had dreamed or hoped about this person.
In this series of tools, we're going to unpack exactly these kinds of thoughts, and help reroute your mind to new possibilities and places where these dreams can still play out.
The problem isn't that these dreams will never be realized; the problem is that you have trained your mind to think about this person when you think about these dreams.
We're going to give your mind other identities to replace this person, and other dreams that it can call on, instead of the ones that are making you sad or angry to think about.
Instructions for the What Are You Sacrificing Tool Fields
Follow the instructions in the example fields below to learn how to use the What Are You Sacrificing Tool fields.
Notice how the content scrolls? The next two tabs will do that so that you can remain focused on the questions while selecting which fields to delete.
Remember that there are no right or wrong answers - just the information that you need to process.
There's no exam or score at the end of this. Just answer impulsively, because you really can't get this wrong.
Any typing edits you make will be saved for you. This way, you are free to edit any of the statements to perfectly suit your individual situation.
What Are You Sacrificing?
In this section we're going to break down what it is you'll be sacrificing, and why you are reluctant to let these go.
It's enough to bring information like this to consciousness, as we're doing here.
The process of breaking it down into bite-sized pieces of information is all your mind needs to be able to process & release this.
What are You Giving Up? What has Changed? What is the Problem?
Below you'll find a list of areas that may have changed as a result of this person or situation.
As you move through the list, delete those which do NOT apply to you. What you're left with will be a list of what does apply - however small the influence may be.
No list is ever complete, and so you can click and type in any of the fields to add your own specific items or examples.
Once you're done, all you have to do is read over the list, bringing that knowledge to consciousness. This will initiate the process of shifting this out of your system.
Why Don't You Want to Give This Up? Why Don't You Want This to Change?
Now that we've identified what it is you're giving up as you let go of this situation, person, and/or relationship, we're going to help you unpack the reasons why you don't want to let these elements go.
Don't want to start again, never had this, etc
You can move through this list one item at a time for what you're sacrificing, or you can do it in one go, as a group: to save yourself time. It's enough that you've listed the items above and acknowledged them.
As you move through the list, delete those which do NOT apply to you. What you're left with will be a list of what does apply - however small the influence may be.
No list is ever complete, and so you can click and type in any of the fields to add your own specific items or examples.
Once you're done, all you have to do is read over the list, bringing that knowledge to consciousness. This will initiate the process of shifting this out of your system.
💃 Turn it Around
In this section, we're going to replace what you've lost with some new posibilities going forward.
Spend time on this, and add as many things as you want to. And play music you enjoy while you are working on this.
The more time you spend on doing this next section, the more available choices your mind will have to pull on when your inner voice starts doing its thing.
This is how you break the loop of thinking the same things about all of this over & over & over again.
What is the Most Bizarre Turnaround You Can Imagine?
In this tool you'll find a random question deisgned to help you consider a truly bizarre turnaround to all of this... like you become a world-famous recording artist!
Simply look at the question below and let your mind daydream the possibilities.
Use the GENERATE NEW button to generate an alternative option for your bizarre turnaround.
Your Realistic New Possibility
So now that we've had some fun playing around with a few bizarre turnarounds, let's get a little more practical... but not too practical!
Below you'll find a random generator for practical new possibilities, as well as a list below that.
You can have more than one new possibility come out of this, and that's what the list is about.
So how much good do you want to see come out of this situation?
🌟 Generate a Realistic New Possibility at Random
🌟 Choose from a List of Realistic New Possibilities
Because... you can have more than one!
How many of these do you want in your life? Delete the ones that do NOT apply.
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